F.: In the last post, it was shown how the Stockholm Syndrome explains the way that children attach emotionally to abusive or unstable parents and to the emotional and unstable god that is based in the image of their parents. Just how powerful is that early programming and conditioning by parents? Does the same propaganda or nonsense or lie have to be repeated hundreds of times for it to be so firmly entrenched in a child’s “mind” that it can drive that child’s thoughts and words and deeds throughout adulthood? No. Sometimes, hearing nonsense only ONE TIME will stay with the child for life.
If that seems farfetched, pause for a moment and recall a time in elementary school when a teacher said something that embarrassed or humiliated you. You just remembered those exact words and all of the details of that event, didn’t you? What that teacher said on that occasion was said ONE TIME—twenty or thirty or forty years ago—but you just remembered it.
As another example, remember Case#2 from the August 1st 2007 posting? A woman's father told her ONE TIME that she did not need a college education because she was so good-looking that she’d always be able to find men willing to take care of her. Her mom only told her ONE TIME to use love as a tool to manipulate men and thereby get whatever you want out of them. (Interestingly, her father left that mother for another woman, but the daughter still follows that "use love as tool to get what you want from men"-recommendation even after seeing it did not work for the mother who offered that advice.)
The daughter only heard those programming statements ONE TIME, but they have since driven her for thirty-five years. Those were her marching orders, and she has not deviated from them once. Every relationship she’d been in has started with her using her looks to attract men and then using “love” to con them into paying her bills. THAT is the power of the influence that follows emotional attachment to beliefs, and to those who taught those beliefs, even if those people were abusive or plagued with distorted thinking.
If that seems farfetched, pause for a moment and recall a time in elementary school when a teacher said something that embarrassed or humiliated you. You just remembered those exact words and all of the details of that event, didn’t you? What that teacher said on that occasion was said ONE TIME—twenty or thirty or forty years ago—but you just remembered it.
As another example, remember Case#2 from the August 1st 2007 posting? A woman's father told her ONE TIME that she did not need a college education because she was so good-looking that she’d always be able to find men willing to take care of her. Her mom only told her ONE TIME to use love as a tool to manipulate men and thereby get whatever you want out of them. (Interestingly, her father left that mother for another woman, but the daughter still follows that "use love as tool to get what you want from men"-recommendation even after seeing it did not work for the mother who offered that advice.)
The daughter only heard those programming statements ONE TIME, but they have since driven her for thirty-five years. Those were her marching orders, and she has not deviated from them once. Every relationship she’d been in has started with her using her looks to attract men and then using “love” to con them into paying her bills. THAT is the power of the influence that follows emotional attachment to beliefs, and to those who taught those beliefs, even if those people were abusive or plagued with distorted thinking.
Similarly, one need not hear repeatedly about a powerful, punitive god to believe in “Him” and to believe that “He” is capable of tearing down a bridge and killing and injuring people. Remember, the captives in Sweden became trapped in their emotional attachment to their abusers after only six days. In only six days, what is now called the “Stockholm Syndrome” developed. Imagine what develops after spending years with parents or authoritiy figures who were mentally, emotionally, verbally, physically, and/or sexually abusive. Imagine what develops after spending years in a supposed relationship with a god capable of exacting indescribable punishment.
Who, other than the totally programmed and totally conditioned, driven by an abnormal psychological response, would want to have anything at all to do with a god who they believe opens up holes in the ground and allows thousands to fall to their death? Who reportedly arranged wars in which 160,000 were killed in a single day? Who supposedly killed everyone on the planet, except for the members of one family, in what was supposedly history's largest act of genocide? Who supposedly claims to love you but will make you burn forever if he so chooses? Who millions believe knocked down a bridge in the U.S. last week and injured and killed people?
Yet the distorted, magical thinking of persons absorbed in their dualistic thinking shall change in only a very few cases. Most are far too attached to their parents’ beliefs, to their unpredictable god, to their dogma, and to their concepts to ever be totally free. Most are suffering from the effects of their emotional attachments as a result of the Stockholm Syndrome. Most are normalizing in their “minds” that which was totally abnormal, including the normalization of the sometimes perverse behavior of their parents and the perverse behavior of an imaginary god that is based in the image of their parents. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (TOMORROW: To be concluded)
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