Wednesday, May 25, 2016

MAHARAJ: “Lightment” vs. Enlightenment, Part “RRR”

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As so often is the case with "non-dualists," the present focus is on the role that personality plays in generating and perpetuating darkness rather than light, resulting in a relative existence which feels heavy as opposed to light. Personality assignment and assumption are the precursors to personality disorders, and three of those disorders have so much in common that they are referred to collectively as “The Dark Triad“: the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, The Sociopathic Personality Disorder and the Psychopathic Personality Disorder. 

All three of those personality types lead persons to be control freaks; all three lead persons to be abusive; and all except for total hermits deal with all three types on a daily basis. Possibly the most challenging dealings involve (1) those who are “in relationship” with someone who has one, two or even all three of those disorders or (2) those who work for narcissists, sociopaths and / or psychopaths. (The ranks of owners, bosses, CEO's, owners etc. are overloaded with narcissists, sociopaths and / or psychopaths because all three types fight their way into leadership or management or owner roles.)

Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph. D. is currently a professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She wrote: “We know that there is a ‘dark side’ to personality, but it turns out that there’s also a dark side to leadership. Although many people assume that psychopaths end up in jail, many of them actually wind up being highly successful in the workplace.” 

While owners, managers, CEO's etc. frequently commit unscrupulous and even criminal acts to get ahead, most corporate crimes in many countries are never detected, especially when those in government accept contributions from sociopathic and psychopathic owners who are paying to impede or even block governmental oversight and regulation. 

Yesterday, information was shared to help employees identify a sociopathic boss. Today, some of the traits of a psychopathic boss will be discussed. (Again, persons with these three disorders only differ in the degree to which the traits manifest). 

Susan Krauss Whitbourne’s twenty-item measure of psychopathic traits in the workplace fall into groups dealing with four factors. One can see how one’s boss (or a loved one's boss) would stack up by rating the extent to which they show these qualities: 

Factor 1: Manipulativeness (lack of ethics) 

Ingratiates him / herself

Is glib

Uses charm

Claims expertise

Rationalizes

 Factor 2: Unreliability / lack of focus 

Not loyal

No planning

Unfocused

Impatient

Unreliable Advertisements (and False Presentation of self and Bogus Affect)

Factor 3: Callousness

Insensitive

Rarely shows emotions

Cold inside

Remorseless

No empathy

Factor 4: Intimidating / aggressive 

Intimidating

Angry

Asks harsh questions

Threatens other workers

Dramatic

Many allow the agendas of their own assumed roles (as well as the desires and fears which their own personalities and roles generate) to drive them or inspire them to cling to a (usually false) hope that the narcissists, sociopaths or psychopaths in their lives will change. The odds are against that happening. 

As the lyrics note in one currently-popular song, those dealing with persons who have any or all of the three disorders in “The Dark Triad” are more than likely going to find that those types will “have a way with words” and will “put the why in try” and the “low in blow" and “a big F.U. in your future.” 

Is that all relative “stuff”? You bet. But for all the talk of identification with “THAT,” the AM-ness is what the masses are trying – and usually failing – to deal with presently. 

Yet to be forewarned is to not be forearmed for those trapped in what Maharaj eventually came to see as a mental illness called “the Ultimate Sickness.” To be forewarned is to be forearmed only among those who are awake, aware and conscious and thereby freed from the symptoms of the Ultimate Sickness and thereafter able to function in a wisdom-based manner. 

It is neither wise nor noble to tolerate misery, suffering, and abuse. It is not wise to tolerate what the sane would see is intolerable. It is not wise to accept an "upgrade" in lifestyle at any price. It is not wise to rationalize the acceptance of the kinds of abuse which narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths inflict by saying, "But I love him / her!" 

It is not wise to model for children the normalization of abuse. It is not wise to deny the abuse that occurred and then allow that abuse to be passed on to another generation through you. None of that is wise, and none of that is sane. 

With pregnancies, there is no "partially pregnant." Similarly, there is no "partially wise," and there is no "partially sane," and there is no "partially okay" abusive behavior.

To understand that "The Dark Triad" disorders manifest on a widespread basis, to understand how to detect the presence of any of those disorders in persons you are dealing with, and to take steps to protect yourself from them is sane and wise. And it is also okay.

To be continued.

 Please enter into the silence of contemplation.

A NEW RELEASE 


The book What a Cherokee Grandmother Passed On to a Grandson (100 pages with pictures) explains how is came to be that, by the ages of 5 and 6, I was already being offered pointers toward the non-dual understanding. And what astounding levels of duality I had already been exposed to! The contrasts are illustrated via the differences between being raised in the darkness of an inner city vs. spending time in the forests with a Cherokee Grandmother and seeing the light. 

The book contains a discussion of how duality is modeled and copied by children who then become entrapped in dualistic thinking and talking and behaving for their entire relative existence; how some few are fortunate enough to be exposed to a 180-degree-opposite alternative; and how some will pursue that opposite mode of functioning and witnessing and seeing which can allow those few to have an opportunity to be freed from the darkness and to abide in the light. 

Above all, Grandmother was what some nowadays call “fully realised.” Was she also “a teacher” of non-duality? Yes and no. She passed on non-duality not as much by offering non-dual pointers as by modeling non-duality all day, every day, for her entire relative existence. 

Everything she taught was consistent with what Maharaj taught, and if ever anyone adhered to the nisarga (natural) lifestyle throughout an entire relative existence, it was Grandmother. She pointed the way to me, and she can also point the way to you as well by way of what she taught, some of which is shared in this book. 

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Tuesday, May 24, 2016

MAHARAJ: “Lightment” vs. Enlightenment, Part “QQQ”

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A few sociopaths make the news, but most will go undetected because the masses are not versed in an understanding of personality and because most never hear a non-dualist's warnings about the way that personality controls the thoughts and words and actions of all “non-realized” humans; the way that personality is behind all fighting and abuse and killing and war; and the way that personality drives persons by way of personas' hidden, subconscious agendas, removing any and all opportunity for the making of wise, sane, conscious choices. 

The one versed in world history knows that the Aryans were sociopaths, pillaging and plundering and raping and killing their way first across Europe and Asia and then later joining the Spanish and others as they all pillaged and plundered and raped and killed their way across the areas now called North, Central, and South America. 

Some sociopaths have made the history books and the news, including Adolf Hitler, Josef Mengele, Benito Mussolini, Pol Pot, and Robert Mugabe, to name but a few. In more recent times, sociopaths and / or psychopaths have made the news, including Ted Bundy, U.S. military veteran Timothy McVeigh, James Holmes, Adam Lanza, Dylann Roof, Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi, Dick Cheney, and George Bush (who was abusing animals and blowing frogs to pieces with high-powered fireworks even as a child) again to name but a few. 

Yet every day, you and millions upon millions of other persons deal with sociopaths. In the U.S., persons regularly elect sociopaths to run their local and state and national governments. Persons all around the globe receive communion regularly from sociopaths and psychopaths who are child molesters who have historically been protected by upper-echelon religious leaders. 

Persons live with mates who abuse them either verbally, mentally, emotionally and / or physically yet stay with them for “a better lifestyle” or because they claim to “love” them or because they have hope that the sociopaths and / or the psychopaths in their lives will change. (That is very unlikely, based in my 68 years of observation and working with them.) Persons sleep at night next to sociopaths and psychopaths, drive in traffic with them, and report to work to answer to them. 

Christelyn D. Karazin offers “Six Signs Your Boss Might Be a Sociopath”

"You could have sworn your boss told you that critical meeting was at 9:30 AM, but when you get to the conference room, you realize that powwow has been going on for a half-hour already. Your superior chastises you in front of your peers and the top execs about your tardiness. You try to explain, but your boss insists she told you the right time, and this is one of the many examples of how you are a disorganized employee. 

"Later your boss tells you (with just a hint of a smirk) that a major client no longer wants to work with you because, if you can’t be trusted with the small things, how on Earth could you possible handle a multi-million-dollar account? This is called 'work sabotage,' and it happens EVERYDAY to someone, somewhere. But what you might not know is that your boss may be a sociopath, and the chief reason for gaslighting you is because, well for him or her, it’s just fun. So what does a sociopath look like? On the outside, just like everyone else. 

"Take a look inside that person’s mind, however, and you’ll find something ugly. And not all sociopaths are criminals. Only the dumb ones get caught. The smart ones could be a politician, lawyer, head of a country, or your immediate superior."

Says Martha Stout Ph.D., author of The Sociopath Next Door: The Ruthless vs. the Rest of Us:

“When it is expedient, the sociopath will doctor the accounting and shred the evidence, stab your employees and your clients (or your constituency) in the back, marry for money, tell lethal pre-meditated lies to people who trust them, attempt to ruin colleagues who are powerful or eloquent, and simply steamroll over groups who are dependent and voiceless.”  

"Thus, you might want to check the following signs before you’re ‘late’ one too many times for a business meeting." A sociopathic boss:

1. Fails to acknowledge responsibility and deflects blame onto others. Translation: If that important package that was due to the client for overnight delivery never arrived, watch your back for the airborne knife. 

2. No real feelings; no empathy. Translation: If your child is coughing up a lung and the school calls for you to pick up the child and take her or him to the emergency room, expect your boss to ask you, “Just how important is this job to you? You can’t seem to juggle family and work effectively. Maybe we ought to rethink that promotion.” 

3. Manipulate and bully for their own purposes. Sociopaths tend to need high levels of stimulation because of their unnatural lack of emotion. Bullying provides them with an adrenaline rush while you run around like a chicken with no head at their command 

4. They have no remorse. Translation: After all the sabotage, your boss has managed to get you fired. You’re a single mom with a mortgage to pay and a child in private school and you care for an aging parent. You crumble, beg for another chance, and your bully boss calls security to escort you out of the building and then goes out for drinks. 

5. They enjoy making people feel bad about themselves. Translation: Your boss treats everyone on your team to lunch . . . except you. 

6. They outrightly sabotage co-workers and employees. Translation: Double check that Power Point presentation, because a workplace sociopath might switch it for a YouTube porno. 

There is no lightness for sociopaths, and there is no lightness for those dealing with sociopaths. Yet even as persons are miserable around them, they stay. 

A. Some tolerate abuse because their own parents modeled abuse or the tolerance of abuse. 

[I met with a woman many years ago who was being abused by her alcoholic husband in front of their six-year-old daughter. The husband / father explained away his closed-fist blows to her body by calling minimizing them as "mere love taps." Site visitors read about her years ago when she said, "He must love me because he would not get so emotional if he didn't' care." I warned her that she was in danger and that she was modeling something very dangerous for her daughter. Now, her twenty-one year old daughter is seeking help because she is with a man who has been physically and mentally and emotionally abusing her for two years. She "wants to get counseling to learn how to help him change." Her father, her mother, the daughter herself, and the daughter's alcoholic, abusive husband are trapped in the Ultimate Sickness, marked - as Maharaj said - by "ignorance, stupidity, and insanity," all wanting to preserve their roles at any cost. Note from the example above how all three of those are passed down from one generation to the next.]

B. Other stay because they have no saleable skills and have been so dependent on others to meet their basic needs that they think they have nowhere to go. They do. They need but find it.

C. Other stay because they have normalized the abnormal. 

D. Others stay because they feel they deserve the abuse or because they believe they inspire their "otherwise loving mate" to abuse them.

E. And others stay because their religion has taught them to forgive their abusers, has taught them to "never break relationship," and has taught them to believe that there is something noble about suffering now in order to gain an eternal reward later.

All of those are evidence of persona-driven ignorance and stupidity and insanity.

One will likely never be able to change a sociopath, but persons can change their own relative existence if they see the symptoms of the Ultimate Sickness which are subconsciously driving them and those around them and then seek out someone to guide them along a "path" to (a) truly be restored to sanity and to truly be free of all distorted and delusional thinking (b) rather than just being told they have been restored to sanity though they have not (merely avoiding at present one behavioral symptom of their mental illness rather than addressing the multiple causes).

[Another evidence of the presence of the symptoms of the Ultimate Sickness is that when persons find fool's gold but are told that it is real gold, they stop seeking the real thing and just kick back and seemingly relax and take it easy, much to their eventual detriment.]

TOMORROW: Susan Krauss Whitbourne’s “20 Signs That Your Boss May Be a Psychopath” 

To be continued. 

Please enter into the silence of contemplation. 

A NEW RELEASE 


The book What a Cherokee Grandmother Passed On to a Grandson (100 pages with pictures) explains how is came to be that, by the ages of 5 and 6, I was already being offered pointers toward the non-dual understanding. And what astounding levels of duality I had already been exposed to! The contrasts are illustrated via the differences between being raised in the darkness of an inner city vs. spending time in the forests with a Cherokee Grandmother and seeing the light. 

The book contains a discussion of how duality is modeled and copied by children who then become entrapped in dualistic thinking and talking and behaving for their entire relative existence; how some few are fortunate enough to be exposed to a 180-degree-opposite alternative; and how some will pursue that opposite mode of functioning and witnessing and seeing which can allow those few to have an opportunity to be freed from the darkness and to abide in the light. 

Above all, Grandmother was what some nowadays call “fully realised.” Was she also “a teacher” of non-duality? Yes and no. She passed on non-duality not as much by offering non-dual pointers as by modeling non-duality all day, every day, for her entire relative existence. 

Everything she taught was consistent with what Maharaj taught, and if ever anyone adhered to the nisarga (natural) lifestyle throughout an entire relative existence, it was Grandmother. She pointed the way to me, and she can also point the way to you as well by way of what she taught, some of which is shared in this book. 

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Friday, May 20, 2016

MAHARAJ: “Lightment” vs. Enlightenment, Part “PPP”

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Personality is the bane of humanity, even forming for the most perverted of reasons: personality is a child’s defense against the nonsense and ignorance and insanity in its home, providing the child with a perverted coping strategy to be used to try to get love from those incapable of offering true love; or to gain peace and a sense of security in an environment which is racked by instability and chaos and a sense of danger; and always to try to be bring some semblance of order to a confusing life and an insane surrounding which is dominated by senselessness. 

From its earliest inception, personality drives a child’s thoughts and words and actions as the child tries to maneuver through a setting in which key elements of the Ultimate Sickness (including ignorance and insanity) prevail. 

The real curse: personality will then control every aspect of the child’s life then as well as throughout adulthood. And when the hidden agendas of assumed and assigned personalities determine every thought and word and action, then persons will believe that they are making choices when they are not; thus, personality robs persons of the ability to make wise and conscious choices, based in awareness and in an ability to differentiate true from false. 

Personality prevents that ability. Personality assignment and assumption are at the core of ignorance, driving persons to believe that they are something which they are not; driving them to have no clue about what they really are; and leading them to turn over control of every thought and word and action to the subconscious agenda of a false identity. Amazing, really, it that not?! Truly ignorant, is that not?! Truly sad, too, it is not? 

Yet personality does not reveal itself; instead, ego-states operate from within the dark shadows of the programmed and conditioned mind. Moreover, personality does not explain itself. If you do not find out here or somewhere else how significant a role personality identifications play as they control persons’ every action, then you will never understand why you do the things you do and why others do what they do. 

For example, if you have a Borderline Personality, then you will forever be trapped in emotional instability, loving a partner one minute and hating that partner the next; or you will never understand a partner who is Borderline and inspires mates to walk on eggshells when around them because one never knows if one is dealing with Mr. Hug or Mr. Slug, with Ms. Hug or Ms. Slug. And if you do not understand the way that persons with any or all of “The Dark Triad” disorders operate, then you may be pulled into their web by their charm or manipulative skills and then eventually suffer unimaginable consequences. 

Many personas will inspires individuals to try to “fix” a mate, but some mates are beyond fixing. To believe that you can change a mate for the better is just another of the many dreams which make up the nightmares that are so prevalence among those living in the nightmarish Dream of the Planet (in which the “non-realized” live every day). 

Therefore, since Maharaj said that “the proper role of a Guru is to dispel ignorance in the hearts and minds of his disciples,” it is incumbent upon one sharing non-dual pointers to offer seekers an ability to spot some of the most widespread personality disorders to be able to understand if those disorders are at play within their own minds; 

and / or to make them aware enough to spot the disorders in others; and to avoid those with the most serious disorders which (to use the words of Russ Hudson, the co-founder of the Enneagram Institute), set the stage for those with the most serious disorders to create “difficulty for people in their lives.” 

I spent time in The Netherlands with Russ and found that - even when discussing the worst side of any personality type – he can present the relevant facts in a way which might even be palatable to those whose own worst traits are being discussed. He did that with the Type Eight, the type most likely to display sociopathic or “boss-type” or “control-type” personality traits. Here in very general terms is a short overview of the Type Eight as described by Russ:

See how his word choice might make a Type Eight Boss / Controller / Sociopath more open to hearing his words describing them? “Strong,” “powerful,” want to “live powerfully,” “strong opinions,” and “like things big.” Right up their alley! Maybe a bit less palatable would be the pointers that they have difficulty “being touched” inside (that is, feeling and having empathy) and “trusting"; that they exhibit a “hardness”; that their motives "cause them to suffer” (without their even being aware of that since they are as incapable of touching their own feelings as they are incapable of understanding how others feel); and that they create “difficulty for people in their lives.” 

In fact, the typical sociopath, domineering spouse, or rude boss (or the typical sociopath in one of the jobs which attract them, such as administrators, demagogue-style politicians, conniving entrepreneurs, arrogant business executives, crooked lawyers, control-freak military officers, professional sport figures, professional fighters, etc.) will find pleasure in domination. They are often most happy when someone they are dealing with is stuttering and terrified. 

If a sociopath who is abusing someone verbally or otherwise sees that the target of his or her abuse is quaking or trembling or shaking or quivering or shuddering in fright, then that display of fear will trigger in the sociopath a response that is similar to an erotic or carnal reaction, so exhilarating is the sense of pleasure and stimulation which they attain from domination. 

See, there is no lightness for those with “The Dark Triad” disorders, and there is no lightness for those dealing with persons who have one or more of “The Dark Triad” disorders. 

Again, the fact is that those with “The Dark Triad” personality disorders are far more common than most imagine. Persons are sleeping next to narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths without even knowing it; persons are working for narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths without even knowing it; 

persons are admiring and idolizing narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths without even knowing it; persons are turning their lives over to narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths for guidance without even knowing it; persons are turning their lives over to narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths for “spiritual guidance” without even knowing it. 

And while arrogance is shared in common by narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths, people with psychological disorders may display variations in their affect, that is, in their observable emotions and appearance. 

From the “Encyclopedia of Mental Disorders”; "A restricted or constricted affect describes a mild restriction in the range or intensity of display of feelings. As the reduction in display of emotion becomes more severe, the term blunted affect may be applied. The absence of any exhibition of emotions is described as flat affect where the voice is monotone, the face expressionless, and the body immobile. Labile affect describes emotional instability or dramatic mood swings. When the outward display of emotion is out of context for the situation, such as laughter while describing pain or sadness, the affect is termed 'inappropriate'." 

The only difference in those with any of the three disorders is the degree to which their malevolence has manifested; the degree to which their conscience is not functioning; the level of indifference to consequence and to the feelings of others; the degree to which there are no limits to what they are willing to say and no limits to what they are willing to do; the degree to which normal limiting boundaries which restrain normal people are not functioning in them; and the degree to which their unscrupulousness has developed. 

To understand “the Dark Triad” disorder, and to be able to spot other personality types which can have a major impact on your relative existence just might help you realize how futile it is to tolerate abuse or chaos or nonsense or insanity while hoping that your mate will change someday, or that a controlling and interfering parent who still treats you like a child might change, or that your boss will someday in the future stop abusing you and provide a healthy work environment. 

Next, Christelyn D. Karazin’s “Six Signs Your Boss Might Be a Sociopath” 

To be continued. 

Please enter into the silence of contemplation. 

A NEW RELEASE 

The book What a Cherokee Grandmother Passed On to a Grandson (100 pages with pictures) explains how is came to be that, by the ages of 5 and 6, I was already being offered pointers toward the non-dual understanding. And what astounding levels of duality I had already been exposed to! The contrasts are illustrated via the differences between being raised in the darkness of an inner city vs. spending time in the forests with a Cherokee Grandmother and seeing the light. 

The book contains a discussion of how duality is modeled and copied by children who then become entrapped in dualistic thinking and talking and behaving for their entire relative existence; how some few are fortunate enough to be exposed to a 180-degree-opposite alternative; and how some will pursue that opposite mode of functioning and witnessing and seeing which can allow those few to have an opportunity to be freed from the darkness and to abide in the light. 

Above all, Grandmother was what some nowadays call “fully realised.” Was she also “a teacher” of non-duality? Yes and no. She passed on non-duality not as much by offering non-dual pointers as by modeling non-duality all day, every day, for her entire relative existence. 

Everything she taught was consistent with what Maharaj taught, and if ever anyone adhered to the nisarga (natural) lifestyle throughout an entire relative existence, it was Grandmother. She pointed the way to me, and she can also point the way to you as well by way of what she taught, some of which is shared in this book.  



Thanks, and enjoy. Peace, Unity, Love and Light.


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Thursday, May 19, 2016

MAHARAJ: “Lightment” vs. Enlightenment, Part “OOO”

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So the three personality disorders which are referred to collectively as the “The Dark Triad” have been identified and discussed in general terms. They include: The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (or The God Complex Disorder); the Sociopathic Personality Disorder; and the Psychopathic Personality Disorder.

As with all personality identifications and the accompanying personality disorders, those three mark and mar the relative existence of far more people than most will ever realize. But what of those who claim to have transitioned beyond "things relative" and now abide as "Something Noumenal"?

For those who claim the “status” of “Full Realization" or "Full Enlightenment" and thus claim to be “a Supreme Self” who is "at one with God" or who is "god-like" or who is, technically, “God, period,” the "Dark Triad" personality disorder which is definitely at play should now be clear. Claiming such status and believing that one has reached some "higher level"  is what “Noumenal narcissism” looks like when it runs amok, and that picture is no prettier than the ones of “phenomenal narcissism” when it runs amok. 

Maharaj: "There is no question of elevating to a higher level. Here it is only a question of understanding."

Understanding what, among other things? Understanding the validity of both identity-less-ness and Identity-less-ness. 

Michael Reisig wrote the following about a character in one of his novels: 

“There was just a weird malevolence that exuded from him – an indifference to fear, conscience, or consequence that stared back at you thorough those strange eyes. Most of us, even the ‘tough guys,’ generally have limits to what we’ll do, how far we’ll go in a given circumstance. But there are some people with whom you realize intrinsically that there are just no limits, no boundaries to restraint, no scruples, and those are the really frightening people.” 

Those types are most often persons who are being driven by the agenda of either the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (or The God Complex Disorder); or the agenda of the Sociopathic Personality Disorder; or the agenda of the Psychopathic Personality Disorder; or by elements of the agendas of all three. 

The only difference in the three disorders is the degree to which their malevolence has manifested; the degree to which their conscience is not functioning; the level of their indifference to consequence and their indifference regarding the feelings of others; the degree to which there are no limits to what they are willing to say and no limits to what they are willing to do; the degree to which normal limiting boundaries which restrain normal people are not functioning in them; and the degree to which their unscrupulousness presently exists. 

Now some persons (also mentally sick) can actually admire narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, claiming, “They tell it like it is,” but how would their admirers like it if a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath said, “Hey Buddy, your wife is the ugliest woman I’ve ever seen” or “Hey lady, that butt of yours is three times wider than it should be, so how about backing off the groceries a bit”? 

Wouldn't like that? Why not? Isn’t that just 'telling it like it is'? No, it is not. It is merely proof that narcissism or sociopathy or psychopathy or all three are manifesting alongside a full-blown case of assholism, another now-prevalent symptom of the Ultimate Sickness.

The fact is, narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths are not about the business of telling it like it is; instead, they are actually telling anyone who is awake enough to see and conscious enough to hear and aware enough to realize that narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths are like six-year-olds who were spoiled by parents who set no boundaries; they are telling one and all that they have no conscience; 

they are telling one and all that the part of their brain which regulates impulse control in a normal brain is damaged in their case – that they are literally brain-damaged humans; that they are dangerous, relatively speaking; and that they are indeed either narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths or a combination of all three. 

Solutions? First, for narcissism: 

Lose all concern with both self and Self. 

In the beginning, Maharaj lost interest in self:

Maharaj: “During your entire lifetime, you do not have any permanent identity. Whatever you consider yourself to be changes from moment to moment. Nothing is constant."

and

“You have been continuously changing; you are in a state of flux. No identity of yours has remained as a permanent feature.” 

Also early on, Maharaj spoke much of Identity and “finding the True Self.” Later, he abandoned that, saying "I got involved in spirituality, in the business of spirituality; finally, I lost that love of Self also. I have no more love for the Self" 

and 

"I have no form, no identity." 

Six years ago, this was shared: 

Only personas (roles, personalities, stage characters, false identities, ego-states, etc.) have wants or desires and fear. 

The questions then become, "WHO wants self-ness?" and "WHO desires Self-ness?" and "WHO fears no-self-ness and no-Self-ness?" All of that deals only with the personal (or so-called "Personal"), which is rooted in personality and which, in turn, is always marked by fears and desires. 

Maharaj said, "This knowledge is for those who have no desires." And it is for those who have no fears - no fear of "losing face," of losing identity, of forfeiting relative identifications, or of abandoning lofty or superior or "Supreme" identifications beyond the relative ones adopted. WHO rejects Maharaj's pointer that "you have no identity" (and that would include no phenomenal identity and no noumenal identity)? 

WHO is opposed to no identity at all? One sign of Full Realization is that accumulating stops and de-accumulation begins, so how can some claim that they "have Realized" and in the same breath lay claim to all sorts of "new and improved and even grander roles," associated with the THAT-ness or with something "Supreme"? WHO desires something that is thought to be "Supreme"? 

WHO are those still attached to some forms of WHO-ness, which they take to be their "advanced" identity? WHO has accumulated a new identity that is supposedly "different from" and "on a higher plane than" all former identities? WHO rejects that which is simply natural in favor of that which is thought to be supernatural (but is not)? 

Most persons believe that their phenomenal roles define them and expand them and make them more than they would be otherwise; similarly, most persons who assume Noumenal or spiritual or supernatural identities believe that their "noble" and even "elevated" identities make them different and better and Special.

No person in either of those groups has actually attained wisdom. If they had, then their narcissism would have vanished, their arrogance would have vanished, their egotism would have vanished and they would truly understand this: 

“Wisdom is knowing I am nothing.” 

 See? I am nothing. Both identity-less and Identity-less.

“Bragging rights” only manifest when one takes himself / herself to be something (or Something, including Something Really Special . . . Something Really Supreme). Either way, it’s evidence of the presence of full-blown narcissism. 

To be continued.

Please enter into the silence of contemplation.

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The book What a Cherokee Grandmother Passed On to a Grandson (100 pages with pictures) explains how is came to be that, by the ages of 5 and 6, I was already being offered pointers toward the non-dual understanding. And what astounding levels of duality I had already been exposed to! The contrasts are illustrated via the differences between being raised in the darkness of an inner city vs. spending time in the forests with a Cherokee Grandmother and seeing the light. 

The book contains a discussion of how duality is modeled and copied by children who then become entrapped in dualistic thinking and talking and behaving for their entire relative existence; how some few are fortunate enough to be exposed to a 180-degree-opposite alternative; and how some will pursue that opposite mode of functioning and witnessing and seeing which can allow those few to have an opportunity to be freed from the darkness and to abide in the light. 

Above all, Grandmother was what some nowadays call “fully realised.” Was she also “a teacher” of non-duality? Yes and no. She passed on non-duality not as much by offering non-dual pointers as by modeling non-duality all day, every day, for her entire relative existence. 

Everything she taught was consistent with what Maharaj taught, and if ever anyone adhered to the nisarga (natural) lifestyle throughout an entire relative existence, it was Grandmother. She pointed the way to me, and she can also point the way to you as well by way of what she taught, some of which is shared in this book. 

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Wednesday, May 18, 2016

MAHARAJ: “Lightment” vs. Enlightenment, Part “NNN”

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Yesterday, the second of the three personality disorders which make up “The Dark Triad” (namely, the Sociopathic Personality Disorder) was discussed. Today, the third - the Psychopathic Personality Disorder - will be discussed. (Site visitors are invited to note the common traits shared by all three of "The Dark Triad" disorders, often only varying in the degree to which the traits have manifested and are being played out). 

Scott Bonn, Ph.D., who wrote "How to Tell a Sociopath from a Psychopath," shared the following: 

“Many forensic psychologists, psychiatrists and criminologists use the terms sociopathy and psychopathy interchangeably. Leading experts disagree on whether there are meaningful differences between the two conditions. I contend that there are clear and significant distinctions between them."

“These disorders share many common behavioral traits which lead to the confusion between them. Key traits that sociopaths and psychopaths share include a disregard for laws and social mores, a disregard for the rights of others, a failure to feel remorse or guilt and a tendency to display violent behavior.” 

Yet, “in addition to their commonalities, sociopaths and psychopaths also have their own unique behavioral characteristics, as well.” 

“Sociopaths tend to be nervous and easily agitated. They are volatile and prone to emotional outbursts, including fits of rage. It is difficult but not impossible for sociopaths to form attachments with others. Many sociopaths are able to form an attachment to a particular individual or group, although they have no regard for society in general or its rules. Often being rage-driven, as they are, any violence or crime committed by a sociopath will tend to be haphazard rather than planned.” 

“Psychopaths are unable to form emotional attachments or feel real empathy with others, although they often have disarming or even charming personalities. They are very manipulative and can easily gain people’s trust. They learn to mimic emotions, despite their inability to actually feel them, and will appear normal to unsuspecting people. Psychopaths are often well educated and hold steady jobs. Some are so good at manipulation and mimicry that they have families and other long-term relationships without those around them ever suspecting their true nature.” 

“Unlike their sociopathic counterparts, psychopaths can be cool, calm, and meticulous. Their actions, whether violent or non-violent, will be highly organized. Intelligent psychopaths make excellent white-collar criminals and 'con artists' due to their calm and charismatic natures.” 

"The cause of psychopathy is different from the cause of sociopathy. It has been seen that genetics may play some role in the development of the Psychopathic Personality Disorder while the Sociopathic Personality Disorder is more likely the result of one’s early environment. Psychopathy may well be related to a physiological defect that results in the underdevelopment of the part of the brain which is responsible for impulse control."

[That defect will often result in the manifestation of emotional intoxication which, in itself, is most often directly related to personality assumption.]

"Sociopathy, on the other hand, is more likely the product of childhood trauma and physical abuse and / or mental abuse and / or emotional abuse. Because sociopathy appears to be learned rather than innate, sociopaths are capable of empathy in certain limited circumstances but not in others, and with a few individuals but not others."

"Psychopathy is the most dangerous of all of the Antisocial Personality Disorders because of the way psychopaths dissociate emotionally from their actions, regardless of how extreme the consequences." Their relative harms may manifest with families, on statewide levels, on national levels, and on international levels as well. The Advaitin Yeshu’a (“Jesus”) said that “dual-minded persons are unstable in all ways.” 

Because duality has prevailed on the planet for so long, the masses have usually always been in a state of flux. Some historians have traced the way that the pendulum of history is forever swinging, noting that the masses on the planet swing from darkness to light; from living in periods of ignorance to living in ages of reason; from governments run by heads of state who advocate for expanding the freedom and rights of people to governments run by heads of state who reduce the freedom of people and restrict or eliminate their rights; 

from economically-prosperous times to times of recessions and depressions; from times of global fighting and war and misery and suffering (e.g., WWI) to periods of peace and light-heartedness (e.g., the “Roaring Twenties”) and then back to times of global fighting and war and misery and suffering (e.g., WWII). 

It has been seen that the periods of war and the greatest suffering happen (1) when fears prevail; (2) when fear morphs into anger; (3) when there come forth leaders or would-be leaders who take advantage of the fear and anger of the masses; and (4) when a prevalence of leaders on the world stage display the personality traits associated with “The Dark Triad.” 

[Ego-state-based fear and anger is the cause of conflict and suffering in persons, in the home, in the community, etc. When its spread reaches global proportion, prepare for war.] 

Where has the attitudinal shift of the people of the planet moved the masses since the most recent economic crash? To the far-right. Whether one looks at the “through-the-roof” levels of religious extremism; or at the extreme countermeasures against religious extremists by other religious extremists; or whether one observes the agendas of France’s extremist National Front; or witnesses the agenda of the Alternative for Germany Party; 

or observes the populist, anti-immigration Dutch Freedom Party; or witnesses Italy’s far-right Northern League; or looks at Pegida UK (the British affiliate of a German anti-Islam protest group); or the many other examples of Europe’s ultra-conservative, populist and nationalist movements; or at the rising normalization by leaders and would-be leaders who are displaying the traits of “The Dark Triad” disorders - including in the U.S. those currently being attracted by the latest far-right conservative, populist and nationalist movement - the end result is this: 

those displaying their “Dark Triad” traits in public forums embolden and further enrage through the use of lies and distortions and hate-fueled words the angriest persons in any given society to become their followers who will join with them in spreading bigotry; identifying and seeking out and attacking scapegoats; inciting political violence; and allowing their xenophobic and racist and misogynistic beliefs to inspire violent actions against “others” whom they consider to be “different” and therefore “less than” and “not as good as.” 

Duality breeds duality, but in times of economic hardship, duality also breeds fear and anger and fighting and even killing . . . in homes, in the office, in traffic, across regions of nations, and around the globe as nations fight with other nations. If those with “The Dark Triad” disorders prevail, in the home, in the workplace, or in the seats of government, then instability and conflict and chaos are assured to reign. 

Seldom has the need for the non-dual understanding been so obvious, but seldom throughout history, when that call went out, was it heard in time to thwart the effects imposed on so many people by so few “non-Realized” types. 

The consequences assured to come with “movements” which are rooted in non-duality and which have leaders displaying the traits of “The Dark Triad” disorders (leaders who are “unstable in all ways”) can only be avoided in countries where voters still have a say and where even the slightest majority are not yet totally lost in the symptoms of the Ultimate Sickness (identified by Maharaj as “ignorance, stupidity and insanity”); 

where even the slightest majority of the people there yet have some capacity for feeling Love and empathy; and where the spread of non-duality has not led the majority away from the light and into absolute darkness. In such cases, that slight majority can prevent these scales from tipping to the far right: 



The same applies in the home where dualistic thinking and talking and behaving are manifest: if duality can be held in check, if empathy and Love can manifest, if wisdom is sought and found in order to displace the effects of ignorance and insanity, then peace can also manifest in the home. 

Most will never be able to affect local and state and national and international events, no matter how often and how much their egotism provides a message to the contrary. Most could bring about certain relative changes in truly amazing ways if only they could open themselves to hearing and understanding what the non-dual teachings offer.

To be continued.

Please enter into the silence of contemplation.

A NEW RELEASE 



The book What a Cherokee Grandmother Passed On to a Grandson (100 pages with pictures) explains how is came to be that, by the ages of 5 and 6, I was already being offered pointers toward the non-dual understanding. And what astounding levels of duality I had already been exposed to! The contrasts are illustrated via the differences between being raised in the darkness of an inner city vs. spending time in the forests with a Cherokee Grandmother and seeing the light. 

The book contains a discussion of how duality is modeled and copied by children who then become entrapped in dualistic thinking and talking and behaving for their entire relative existence; how some few are fortunate enough to be exposed to a 180-degree-opposite alternative; and how some will pursue that opposite mode of functioning and witnessing and seeing which can allow those few to have an opportunity to be freed from the darkness and to abide in the light. 

Above all, Grandmother was what some nowadays call “fully realized.” Was she also “a teacher” of non-duality? Yes and no. She passed on non-duality not as much by offering non-dual pointers as by modeling non-duality all day, every day, for her entire relative existence. 

Everything she taught was consistent with what Maharaj taught, and if ever anyone adhered to the nisarga (natural) lifestyle throughout an entire relative existence, it was Grandmother. She pointed the way to me, and she can also point the way to you as well by way of what she taught, some of which is shared in this book. 

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