Sunday, October 22, 2006

THE RELATIVE EFFECTS OF PERSONALITY: Fears, Desires, and Interrupted Happiness, Part Three

F.: Today’s discussion focuses on the personality type that desires love but that lives in the fear of not getting it and with the unhappiness of never having enough of it. An earlier entry on the site offered this pointer: “Desires and wants and fears and imagined needs are generated by illusory ego-states. Who could be satisfied if constantly experiencing the sensations of desire, want, fear or need?” Ego-states, in turn, are the result of the personality influences being discussed in this series (which also generate all dualistic beliefs, including: "good vs. bad," "loved vs. not loved," and belief in "a god of evil in opposition to a god of morality.")

Maharaj offered this pointer: “Only at word level does one think something good or bad will happen; when one identifies with the space, it is the end of good and bad. First of all you identify something as being good or bad for yourself. Then, in an effort to acquire good or to get rid of bad, you have invented a god. Then, you worship such a god…and you pray to that god for something good to happen to you.”

Those pointers having been offered, the focus today will be on the basic fear and the basic desire of Personality Type Two—"The Helper." The consideration for Type Two’s is this: WHO thinks she/he needs love? WHO thinks that he/she is in any position to "help" "others"? WHO is so arrogant as to believe that “others” are obviously far less intelligent, far less capable, and far less gifted than the persona who thinks she/he is most qualified to provide "help" to “others”? WHO is so egotistical that he/she believes that they know so much that they have the answers for everyone else’s relative world problems? WHO believes that she/he knows what "others" need? And WHO believes that he/she is the most competent to provide "help"? Russ Hudson pointed out the following about Personality Type Twos:

BASIC FEAR AND BASIC DESIRE
The Type Two’s BASIC FEAR is the fear of not being loved
The Type Two’s BASIC DESIRE is to be loved

THE IMPACT OF THAT PERSONALITY TYPE ON THE RELATIVE EXISTENCE
A Type Two will try to get the love she/he desires by manipulating others into believing that they need the Type Two, that they need what only that one person can offer, that they need the insight that only that one Type Two has, and that they cannot survive without that Type Two person. That mindset will attract what type persons for Type Twos to deal with on a daily basis?
The entire discussion of this topic is available in the book, LIBERATION (Attaining Freedom from Personality via Realization) at www.floydhenderson.com
Twos eventually resent all the demands being made upon them by the needy, exploitative persons that their dependency-fostering persona creates, even though the Twos were aggressively seeking out needy people with an excess...
The entire discussion of this topic is available in the book, LIBERATION (Attaining Freedom from Personality via Realization) at www.floydhenderson.com

WHY PERSONALITY TYPE TWO INTERRUPTS HAPPINESS
Imagine the frustration of needing love, of constantly wanting love, of constantly trying to find love, and of trying—always in vain—to hold onto love in a culture where 62% of those persons who pledge “to love ‘til death do us part” . . . don’t. Yet the transient nature of “love” is not confined to the U.S. Across the globe, the typical pattern of relationships is to move through the following phases: “stranger” to “acquaintance” to “friend” to “lover” to “spouse or partner” to “enemy” to “mortal enemy.” The same intransigence marks not only “love relationships” but friendships and partnerships as well. How, therefore, could a Type Two ever be consistently happy when the desire is...
The entire discussion of this topic is available in the book, LIBERATION (Attaining Freedom from Personality via Realization) at www.floydhenderson.com

FREEDOM FROM PERSONALITY TYPE TWO EFFECTS VIA REALIZATION
With Realization comes (A) the understanding that there is no “one” that has any need. With Realization comes (B) the understanding that no “one” can help any “one.” With Realization comes (C) clarity about what love is not and then (D) an end to wasting energy in the search for anything that is illusory. Lies are stored in the mind; truth can be accessed via the inner resource, contact with which is typically blocked by...
The entire discussion of this topic is available in the book, LIBERATION (Attaining Freedom from Personality via Realization) at www.floydhenderson.com

TOMORROW: The basic fear and the basic desire of “Personality Type Three—The Performer”