F.: In June 2005, the following pointer was offered on this site regarding personality-driven fears and desires: “…Fear and desire are the sources of anger, and anger is the source of all hostility. Hostility becomes the source of all harm,” relatively speaking, of course. To be free of the anxiety of fears as well as the frustration of unmet desires, one must be free of identification with personality. Today, the basic fear and the basic desire of Personality Type Four—“The Romantic/Individualist”—will be discussed. Russ Hudson pointed out the following about Personality Type Fours:
BASIC FEAR AND BASIC DESIRE
The Type Four’s BASIC FEAR is the fear of having no identity
The Type Four’s BASIC DESIRE is to find themselves
THE IMPACT OF THAT PERSONALITY TYPE ON THE RELATIVE EXISTENCE
In their need to understand themselves, Fours developed a related desire to be understood by others. Since most “others” do not understand themselves, how could they ever understand the Fours? They won’t, so the Four's frustrated desire to find “Self” and to be understood leaves him/her feeling depressed...yet stubborn about continuing to try to have those desires met. The result is that, eventually, Fours tend to withdraw and to isolate and to become depressed as they remain misunderstood and as they fail to find the answer to "Who Am I, Really?"
WHY PERSONALITY TYPE FOUR INTERRUPTS HAPPINESS
Because of their frustrations, Fours can eventually suffer dark moods, a variety of perceived hurts, the angst of unmet expectations, a constant fear of abandonment as a result of not being understood, and an uncomfortable sensation of longing as a result of knowing that “something is missing” but not having a clue what that is. In Advaita terms, the desire of the pre-Realization Type Four could be described as...
BASIC FEAR AND BASIC DESIRE
The Type Four’s BASIC FEAR is the fear of having no identity
The Type Four’s BASIC DESIRE is to find themselves
THE IMPACT OF THAT PERSONALITY TYPE ON THE RELATIVE EXISTENCE
In their need to understand themselves, Fours developed a related desire to be understood by others. Since most “others” do not understand themselves, how could they ever understand the Fours? They won’t, so the Four's frustrated desire to find “Self” and to be understood leaves him/her feeling depressed...yet stubborn about continuing to try to have those desires met. The result is that, eventually, Fours tend to withdraw and to isolate and to become depressed as they remain misunderstood and as they fail to find the answer to "Who Am I, Really?"
WHY PERSONALITY TYPE FOUR INTERRUPTS HAPPINESS
Because of their frustrations, Fours can eventually suffer dark moods, a variety of perceived hurts, the angst of unmet expectations, a constant fear of abandonment as a result of not being understood, and an uncomfortable sensation of longing as a result of knowing that “something is missing” but not having a clue what that is. In Advaita terms, the desire of the pre-Realization Type Four could be described as...
The entire discussion of this topic is available in the book, LIBERATION (Attaining Freedom from Personality via Realization) at www.floydhenderson.com
FREEDOM FROM PERSONALITY TYPE FOUR EFFECTS VIA REALIZATION
Some claim that Fours have an advantage in moving along the “path” to Realization because of their innate drive to search for identity and to uncover what “self” is not and what “Self” is. If they succeed in their quest and attain Full Realization, they can live out an AS IF existence with greater ease than most...the silence, the solitude, and the lack of need being quite comfortable for Fours, relatively speaking. Post-Realization, the earlier drive to find themselves ends, so the basic, unmet desire ends and the basic, illusory fear disappears as they understand...
The entire discussion of this topic is available in the book, LIBERATION (Attaining Freedom from Personality via Realization) at www.floydhenderson.com
TOMORROW: The basic fear and the basic desire of “Personality Type Five—The Investigator”
