TODAY’S CONSIDERATIONS
As so often is the case with "non-dualists," the present focus is on the role that personality plays in generating and perpetuating darkness rather than light, resulting in a relative existence which feels heavy as opposed to light.
Personality assignment and assumption are the precursors to personality disorders, and three of those disorders have so much in common that they are referred to collectively as “The Dark Triad“: the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, The Sociopathic Personality Disorder and the Psychopathic Personality Disorder.
All three of those personality types lead persons to be control freaks; all three lead persons to be abusive; and all except for total hermits deal with all three types on a daily basis. Possibly the most challenging dealings involve (1) those who are “in relationship” with someone who has one, two or even all three of those disorders or (2) those who work for narcissists, sociopaths and / or psychopaths. (The ranks of owners, bosses, CEO's, owners etc. are overloaded with narcissists, sociopaths and / or psychopaths because all three types fight their way into leadership or management or owner roles.)
Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph. D. is currently a professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She wrote: “We know that there is a ‘dark side’ to personality, but it turns out that there’s also a dark side to leadership. Although many people assume that psychopaths end up in jail, many of them actually wind up being highly successful in the workplace.”
While owners, managers, CEO's etc. frequently commit unscrupulous and even criminal acts to get ahead, most corporate crimes in many countries are never detected, especially when those in government accept contributions from sociopathic and psychopathic owners who are paying to impede or even block governmental oversight and regulation.
Yesterday, information was shared to help employees identify a sociopathic boss. Today, some of the traits of a psychopathic boss will be discussed. (Again, persons with these three disorders only differ in the degree to which the traits manifest).
Susan Krauss Whitbourne’s twenty-item measure of psychopathic traits in the workplace fall into groups dealing with four factors. One can see how one’s boss (or a loved one's boss) would stack up by rating the extent to which they show these qualities:
Factor 1: Manipulativeness (lack of ethics)
Ingratiates him / herself
Is glib
Uses charm
Claims expertise
Rationalizes
Factor 2: Unreliability / lack of focus
Not loyal
No planning
Unfocused
Impatient
Unreliable Advertisements (and False Presentation of self and Bogus Affect)
Factor 3: Callousness
Insensitive
Rarely shows emotions
Cold inside
Remorseless
No empathy
Factor 4: Intimidating / aggressive
Intimidating
Angry
Asks harsh questions
Threatens other workers
Dramatic
Many allow the agendas of their own assumed roles (as well as the desires and fears which their own personalities and roles generate) to drive them or inspire them to cling to a (usually false) hope that the narcissists, sociopaths or psychopaths in their lives will change. The odds are against that happening.
As the lyrics note in one currently-popular song, those dealing with persons who have any or all of the three disorders in “The Dark Triad” are more than likely going to find that those types will “have a way with words” and will “put the why in try” and the “low in blow" and “a big F.U. in your future.”
Is that all relative “stuff”? You bet. But for all the talk of identification with “THAT,” the AM-ness is what the masses are trying – and usually failing – to deal with presently.
Yet to be forewarned is to not be forearmed for those trapped in what Maharaj eventually came to see as a mental illness called “the Ultimate Sickness.” To be forewarned is to be forearmed only among those who are awake, aware and conscious and thereby freed from the symptoms of the Ultimate Sickness and thereafter able to function in a wisdom-based manner.
It is neither wise nor noble to tolerate misery, suffering, and abuse. It is not wise to tolerate what the sane would see is intolerable. It is not wise to accept an "upgrade" in lifestyle at any price. It is not wise to rationalize the acceptance of the kinds of abuse which narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths inflict by saying, "But I love him / her!"
It is not wise to model for children the normalization of abuse. It is not wise to deny the abuse that occurred and then allow that abuse to be passed on to another generation through you. None of that is wise, and none of that is sane.
With pregnancies, there is no "partially pregnant." Similarly, there is no "partially wise," and there is no "partially sane," and there is no "partially okay" abusive behavior.
To understand that "The Dark Triad" disorders manifest on a widespread basis, to understand how to detect the presence of any of those disorders in persons you are dealing with, and to take steps to protect yourself from them is sane and wise. And it is also okay.
To be continued.
Please enter into the silence of contemplation.
A NEW RELEASE
The book What a Cherokee Grandmother Passed On to a Grandson (100 pages with pictures) explains how is came to be that, by the ages of 5 and 6, I was already being offered pointers toward the non-dual understanding. And what astounding levels of duality I had already been exposed to! The contrasts are illustrated via the differences between being raised in the darkness of an inner city vs. spending time in the forests with a Cherokee Grandmother and seeing the light.
The book contains a discussion of how duality is modeled and copied by children who then become entrapped in dualistic thinking and talking and behaving for their entire relative existence; how some few are fortunate enough to be exposed to a 180-degree-opposite alternative; and how some will pursue that opposite mode of functioning and witnessing and seeing which can allow those few to have an opportunity to be freed from the darkness and to abide in the light.
Above all, Grandmother was what some nowadays call “fully realised.” Was she also “a teacher” of non-duality? Yes and no. She passed on non-duality not as much by offering non-dual pointers as by modeling non-duality all day, every day, for her entire relative existence.
Everything she taught was consistent with what Maharaj taught, and if ever anyone adhered to the nisarga (natural) lifestyle throughout an entire relative existence, it was Grandmother. She pointed the way to me, and she can also point the way to you as well by way of what she taught, some of which is shared in this book.
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