Because “loss” is a concept (and since concepts are illusions and since illusions are always upheld by other concepts) see the illusory concepts that support any false sense of “loss”: (1) wanting to be comfortable, (2) claiming ownership (3) desiring continued ownership, and (4) experiencing the fear of “losing comfort” or “losing ownership.” Persons, as a result of that which drives them most—fears, wants and desires—will try to cling to the co-dependent counterparts that each ego-state requires in order to sustain the illusion that some false identity is real. For example, “The Spouse” must hang onto a spouse to continue to “exist”; “The Homeowner” must hang onto a house to continue to “exist”; “The One Who Has Worked for His Possessions” must hang onto the contents of an apartment or home in order to continue to “exist.” “Loss” is perceived by persons to be so dreadful not because of what is being "lost"—such as a spouse or house or possessions—but because “self” (some false identity) is seemingly being lost along with each “thing” or co-dependent counterpart that was sustaining that ego-state. “Loss” is never about a person that someone lost or about "stuff" that someone lost. It is, instead, about the perception that it is one’s very self that is being lost. It is the sense of losing one's identity (though the identity was a lie) that drives whatever pain persons claim to feel around "loss."
Next, the effects of a perceived loss are also exacerbated when one’s belief in the concept of “ownership” is challenged. Energy can own nothing, and the realized do not use possessives such as “my,” “mine,” etc. How could manifested energy own a house or have something called “my spouse”? Ownership is the stuff of ego-states. The indigenous peoples of the Americas had no word for “ownership.” The land was for all to use. It was the Europeans who brought to the Americans the Aryan notion of “owning.” If you own nothing, you can lose nothing, but you must know the difference in “the false you” and “the Real You” to reach that understanding. Please enter the silence of contemplation. [To be continued]