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F.: For all of those not Fully Realized (and thus not yet devoid of any and all beliefs about body or mind or personality identification), is it at least becoming somewhat clearer now that thoughts—no matter whether they are dualistically classed as “positive” or as “negative”—are your abusive mate?
The image shown in public might be one that suggests “Fine, really, all is just fine…really good in fact,” but in the hidden privacy of the “mind,” all hell is breaking loose. At night, the fight begins when the lights are extinguished. The mate will not let you sleep. Always, something irritating must be settled before you will be allowed any respite at all.
But it is never settled, really. Not as long as there is an attachment to the mate and a tolerance for what should be seen as an intolerable life together, but it is seldom seen. You tolerate the mate because you believe everyone has a mate like yours. You justify the mate’s abuse, believing you cannot get along without it.
At times, you even adore the abusive mate, even ennobling it at times. The few "positive" moments are allowed to overshadow the longer stretches of discontentment and irritation. The next day, in public, the charade continues.
More of that mind-speak which inspires the perpetuation of your mind-games will announce again to friends and family or co-workers, “Fine, really, all is just fine…really good in fact,” so the mind-games go on.
Identified as you are with the “mind” and the false personas that are working to perpetuate your destructive relationship with that mate, you will make excuses for that ever-present partner if anyone inquires about the “bruises” (the signs of misery and suffering) that they see.
You hide or justify or twist your "relative reality" and convince yourself that you must have the mate, that everyone else is the same, that “No one can be free of some degree of mental abuse, really.”
Like a stalker, that mate follows you to the car in the morning and makes the commute to work a dangerous one; it hovers over you at work, and thereby causes problems with job performance or with the employer; it follows you when you leave work; it stalks you as you run your errands; it walks with you into the house at night, and every moment that you are together, it nags and nags and nags.
But, again, you tolerate it because every now and then, the mate comes up with something that you believe is “good”…with something that you think is “positive.” So you tolerate the longer periods of abuse while trying to do all within your “power” to make the mate behave more and more along those positive lines you value.
You believe that the mate can be made to change...can be altered into something that is "always good" and "always positive." You believe, “If only that happens, then all will be great.” But the "positives" never last. The changes are never permanent.
And some might come to you and say, “I don’t know what’s going on, but you need to make some kind of change. Why don’t you just leave your mate once and for all and be free and happy and independent and know the bliss that could come without that distressing partner that is always there?”
But you deny. You say, “Sometimes, we really get along. Sometimes things really ‘click’ and it is all so good. Sometimes, there is peace.” And you are told, “Yes, when things go your way for brief periods, you allow that to block You from seeing that your mate is abusive most of the rest of time. You want to cling to what you misperceive as some ‘good’ or ‘positive’ thing that the mate comes up with, but you don’t see that even that is a distortion.”
Then, Floyd comes along and also invites you to move on…to move out-of-state, in fact: “Move out of that mental and emotional state you are in, move out of that relative state, and move to another state that is marked by quietness and stillness and peace, away from that misery-inspiring mate.
“The marriage you are trapped in was arranged by your parents, your teachers, your preachers or rabbis or imams or priests, by your culture. But what do they know about what can make You truly happy? Nothing.”
But your ego-defense mechanisms kick in, aggravating your blindness; then, the sleep-talk that accompanies your sleep-walk comes forth to say, “You don’t understand. I have to have my mate with me when I’m driving—my mate prevents me from having an accident.”
You continue, “And I can’t get rid of my mate at work. That mate is required for me to be able to perform my job tasks.” Oh, there is always such self-deception when in an abusive relationship, is there not? You cannot see that what your mate is shouting in your ear while driving is a distraction that is more likely to cause—rather than prevent—an accident.
You cannot see that bringing your mate to work is not helping you perform your tasks but is distracting you from performing your assignments instead. So many accidents that happen in the workplace happen because the mate is right there.
Yet there is no respite for you, because when you leave your workplace, the mate is right there. Your acceptance of the unacceptable never gives you a minute’s respite from that mate. It is there as you drive to the grocery store and the cleaners after work. It is there as you drive home.
It is there as you prepare the evening meal, and you might shout, “Would you please shut up for just for one minute!?! Would you please go away for just a half hour and give me a break from all the endless noise and chatter!?! Would you please give me a few minutes of peace and quiet!?! You’re driving me out of my mind!!!”
But I tell you, that will not work. I tell you that such efforts to shout back or to try to change your partner for the better will never work, and I tell you that the case is not that the partner is driving you out of your mind.
The case is, the mate is only driving you farther into your mind, farther into the darkness, farther into the depths of that dungeon where all myths and all lies and all expectations and all false beliefs and all false fears are stored, right alongside all the relative things that you desire but that you do not need at all.
I tell you that you do not need that mate. What you need is to be free of the effects of the sick relationship that you have with your abuser. I have the Ultimate Medicine that can treat the dependence that is perpetuating the unhealthy relationship that you are in with that mate. But alas, persons must be so sick—so very, very sick—before they will seek relief.
They minimize the effects of a life that for decades has seldom been marked by even a few moments of freedom from that cruel and sadistic mate. That mate is not unlike a torture-loving inquisitor, using sleep-deprivation to beat you into submission, keeping you awake all night, and dominating you all throughout the day.
How much misery and suffering is enough to inspire you to say, “That’s it. I have had enough. I finally admit that I do not know the answer. Teach me. Take me along another ‘path’—I will do whatever you say if you will just get me free of this abusive partner that will not leave me alone for a minute. Show me the way, no matter how complicated.”
And the Realized Advaitin teacher can serve as Your Chemist / Your Pharmacist, because the teacher has access to the Ultimate Medicine and will say, “Actually, this is not complicated at all. It is the nonsense that you have been tolerating with your mate that is complicated. The ‘path’ I can guide you along has only seven very simple steps.
“The "journey" can be made simple for You because I went that way before, in order to be free of my abusive mate, and I have gone this way with thousands who wanted nothing more than to be free of their abusive mate. You, too, can be free.”
I tell You, “You can leave that thought-mate behind. You can leave your efforts to live supernaturally behind. You can leave your unnatural, noisy living behind.
“Take this “journey” and You can relax in the quiet and the peace of the natural state to which I can guide you. Abide as that state and You will know the simplicity and spontaneity of nisarga living.
Abide as that state and You will know levels of freedom that you could never begin to imagine if you continue to live out a relative existence in lockdown with your abusive mate. But You must take these seven steps that will allow You to leave that abusive mate behind.” Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
The image shown in public might be one that suggests “Fine, really, all is just fine…really good in fact,” but in the hidden privacy of the “mind,” all hell is breaking loose. At night, the fight begins when the lights are extinguished. The mate will not let you sleep. Always, something irritating must be settled before you will be allowed any respite at all.
But it is never settled, really. Not as long as there is an attachment to the mate and a tolerance for what should be seen as an intolerable life together, but it is seldom seen. You tolerate the mate because you believe everyone has a mate like yours. You justify the mate’s abuse, believing you cannot get along without it.
At times, you even adore the abusive mate, even ennobling it at times. The few "positive" moments are allowed to overshadow the longer stretches of discontentment and irritation. The next day, in public, the charade continues.
More of that mind-speak which inspires the perpetuation of your mind-games will announce again to friends and family or co-workers, “Fine, really, all is just fine…really good in fact,” so the mind-games go on.
Identified as you are with the “mind” and the false personas that are working to perpetuate your destructive relationship with that mate, you will make excuses for that ever-present partner if anyone inquires about the “bruises” (the signs of misery and suffering) that they see.
You hide or justify or twist your "relative reality" and convince yourself that you must have the mate, that everyone else is the same, that “No one can be free of some degree of mental abuse, really.”
Like a stalker, that mate follows you to the car in the morning and makes the commute to work a dangerous one; it hovers over you at work, and thereby causes problems with job performance or with the employer; it follows you when you leave work; it stalks you as you run your errands; it walks with you into the house at night, and every moment that you are together, it nags and nags and nags.
But, again, you tolerate it because every now and then, the mate comes up with something that you believe is “good”…with something that you think is “positive.” So you tolerate the longer periods of abuse while trying to do all within your “power” to make the mate behave more and more along those positive lines you value.
You believe that the mate can be made to change...can be altered into something that is "always good" and "always positive." You believe, “If only that happens, then all will be great.” But the "positives" never last. The changes are never permanent.
And some might come to you and say, “I don’t know what’s going on, but you need to make some kind of change. Why don’t you just leave your mate once and for all and be free and happy and independent and know the bliss that could come without that distressing partner that is always there?”
But you deny. You say, “Sometimes, we really get along. Sometimes things really ‘click’ and it is all so good. Sometimes, there is peace.” And you are told, “Yes, when things go your way for brief periods, you allow that to block You from seeing that your mate is abusive most of the rest of time. You want to cling to what you misperceive as some ‘good’ or ‘positive’ thing that the mate comes up with, but you don’t see that even that is a distortion.”
Then, Floyd comes along and also invites you to move on…to move out-of-state, in fact: “Move out of that mental and emotional state you are in, move out of that relative state, and move to another state that is marked by quietness and stillness and peace, away from that misery-inspiring mate.
“The marriage you are trapped in was arranged by your parents, your teachers, your preachers or rabbis or imams or priests, by your culture. But what do they know about what can make You truly happy? Nothing.”
But your ego-defense mechanisms kick in, aggravating your blindness; then, the sleep-talk that accompanies your sleep-walk comes forth to say, “You don’t understand. I have to have my mate with me when I’m driving—my mate prevents me from having an accident.”
You continue, “And I can’t get rid of my mate at work. That mate is required for me to be able to perform my job tasks.” Oh, there is always such self-deception when in an abusive relationship, is there not? You cannot see that what your mate is shouting in your ear while driving is a distraction that is more likely to cause—rather than prevent—an accident.
You cannot see that bringing your mate to work is not helping you perform your tasks but is distracting you from performing your assignments instead. So many accidents that happen in the workplace happen because the mate is right there.
Yet there is no respite for you, because when you leave your workplace, the mate is right there. Your acceptance of the unacceptable never gives you a minute’s respite from that mate. It is there as you drive to the grocery store and the cleaners after work. It is there as you drive home.
It is there as you prepare the evening meal, and you might shout, “Would you please shut up for just for one minute!?! Would you please go away for just a half hour and give me a break from all the endless noise and chatter!?! Would you please give me a few minutes of peace and quiet!?! You’re driving me out of my mind!!!”
But I tell you, that will not work. I tell you that such efforts to shout back or to try to change your partner for the better will never work, and I tell you that the case is not that the partner is driving you out of your mind.
The case is, the mate is only driving you farther into your mind, farther into the darkness, farther into the depths of that dungeon where all myths and all lies and all expectations and all false beliefs and all false fears are stored, right alongside all the relative things that you desire but that you do not need at all.
I tell you that you do not need that mate. What you need is to be free of the effects of the sick relationship that you have with your abuser. I have the Ultimate Medicine that can treat the dependence that is perpetuating the unhealthy relationship that you are in with that mate. But alas, persons must be so sick—so very, very sick—before they will seek relief.
They minimize the effects of a life that for decades has seldom been marked by even a few moments of freedom from that cruel and sadistic mate. That mate is not unlike a torture-loving inquisitor, using sleep-deprivation to beat you into submission, keeping you awake all night, and dominating you all throughout the day.
How much misery and suffering is enough to inspire you to say, “That’s it. I have had enough. I finally admit that I do not know the answer. Teach me. Take me along another ‘path’—I will do whatever you say if you will just get me free of this abusive partner that will not leave me alone for a minute. Show me the way, no matter how complicated.”
And the Realized Advaitin teacher can serve as Your Chemist / Your Pharmacist, because the teacher has access to the Ultimate Medicine and will say, “Actually, this is not complicated at all. It is the nonsense that you have been tolerating with your mate that is complicated. The ‘path’ I can guide you along has only seven very simple steps.
“The "journey" can be made simple for You because I went that way before, in order to be free of my abusive mate, and I have gone this way with thousands who wanted nothing more than to be free of their abusive mate. You, too, can be free.”
I tell You, “You can leave that thought-mate behind. You can leave your efforts to live supernaturally behind. You can leave your unnatural, noisy living behind.
“Take this “journey” and You can relax in the quiet and the peace of the natural state to which I can guide you. Abide as that state and You will know the simplicity and spontaneity of nisarga living.
Abide as that state and You will know levels of freedom that you could never begin to imagine if you continue to live out a relative existence in lockdown with your abusive mate. But You must take these seven steps that will allow You to leave that abusive mate behind.” Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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** THE ULTIMATE REALIZATION THAT CAN FREE YOU TO LIVE IN THE NISARGA WAY WITHOUT FLUCTUATION
SIX WAYS THAT SEEKERS HAVE REALIZED:
1. BY WATCHING the 4-Disk Video (DVD) Set, or the same retreat available as a downloadable file. Either will provide an entire seven-hour retreat / series of satsang sessions showing three seekers being guided through all seven steps by Floyd and can provide viewers with an “experiential,” step-by-step series of satsang meetings that will move the viewers from identification with the I to abidance as the Absolute and then to abidance as That Which Is beyond
Some seekers are already using the computer file version and the DVD sets for meetings in groups in homes, playing the retreat, pausing for discussion, etc.
To find out more or to purchase the DVD set or the downloadable computer file version of the retreat, click:
DVD or Downloadable computer file versions of the Four-Day Advaita Retreat
Option “A” is for the downloadable file version, Option “B” is used to order the DVD set for delivery inside the U.S., Option “C” for international orders.
For the download, Paypal will send me a notice that payment has been received and then I will send by e-mail the downloading instruction, password, etc.
[It is recommended that you watch the video with pen and paper in hand. Write whatever you need clarified. You'll see that there are constant reviews and you might find an answer later in the seven-hour presentation. Then, after you watch it all, there will be a common ground for discussion. Purchase of the DVD’s or the file will include the right to clarifications and answers to your specific questions via e-mail.]
2. BY READING these books in this exact order:
IT'S ALL BULLSHIT (And Why Knowing It Sets You Free)
SPIRITUAL SOBRIETY (Recovering What Religions Lost)
[Those two prepare the seeker to question it all]
THE MEDITATION GUIDES
[Provide a broad overview of the understanding]
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I DIE?
[Begins to free the seeker of body identification and the desire for body continuity]
THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS "PEACE OF MIND" (There Is Only Peace if You're Out of Your Mind)
[Shows the seeker how to be free of the subconscious motivators of the false content of the “mind”]
LIBERATION
[Shows the seeker how to be free of the subconscious motivators of personas]
THE ESSENCE OF THE TEACHINGS
[Provides the final preparation for the seeker to be directed along the “path”]
FROM THE I TO THE ABSOLUTE (A Seven-Step Journey to Reality)
[Directs the seeker along the “path”]
CONSCIOUSNESS/AWARENESS: The Nature of Reality Beyond Self-Realization (Peace Every Day When Abiding as The Absolute)
[Allows the seeker to understand the functioning of the totality, the manifestation, and what is involved with the un-manifestation]
FROM THE ABSOLUTE TO THE NOTHINGNESS
[Provides the seeker the wisdom to understand the Noneness as well as the Oneness]
Purchase an e-Book now and begin reading it in minutes (except with e-checks that can take 7-10 days). Trusting our clients as we do, all e-Books are provided to you in printable form.
SAVE IF YOU BUY ALL ELEVEN AT ONCE:
(You may order the books one at a time or you may use the following link to acquire the entire 11-e-Book set on sale for $99 if ordered at one time with the “Buy Now” button below. For this option, there will be no download links provided; once the near-instant notice of payment is received from PayPal, your e-Books will be sent to you as e-mail attachments. All are printable for your convenience.)
** SITE CO-HOST LOUISE STERLING WILL BE POSTING FROM NOVEMBER 17-20. FOR THOSE WHO HAVE WRITTEN TO PRAISE THE RELEVANCE OF WHAT THAT SPECK OF CONSCIOUSNESS SHARES AND TO ASK WHEN SHE’LL POST NEXT, THOSE ARE THE DATES.
** THE ULTIMATE REALIZATION THAT CAN FREE YOU TO LIVE IN THE NISARGA WAY WITHOUT FLUCTUATION
SIX WAYS THAT SEEKERS HAVE REALIZED:
1. BY WATCHING the 4-Disk Video (DVD) Set, or the same retreat available as a downloadable file. Either will provide an entire seven-hour retreat / series of satsang sessions showing three seekers being guided through all seven steps by Floyd and can provide viewers with an “experiential,” step-by-step series of satsang meetings that will move the viewers from identification with the I to abidance as the Absolute and then to abidance as That Which Is beyond
Some seekers are already using the computer file version and the DVD sets for meetings in groups in homes, playing the retreat, pausing for discussion, etc.
To find out more or to purchase the DVD set or the downloadable computer file version of the retreat, click:
DVD or Downloadable computer file versions of the Four-Day Advaita Retreat
Option “A” is for the downloadable file version, Option “B” is used to order the DVD set for delivery inside the U.S., Option “C” for international orders.
For the download, Paypal will send me a notice that payment has been received and then I will send by e-mail the downloading instruction, password, etc.
[It is recommended that you watch the video with pen and paper in hand. Write whatever you need clarified. You'll see that there are constant reviews and you might find an answer later in the seven-hour presentation. Then, after you watch it all, there will be a common ground for discussion. Purchase of the DVD’s or the file will include the right to clarifications and answers to your specific questions via e-mail.]
2. BY READING these books in this exact order:
IT'S ALL BULLSHIT (And Why Knowing It Sets You Free)
SPIRITUAL SOBRIETY (Recovering What Religions Lost)
[Those two prepare the seeker to question it all]
THE MEDITATION GUIDES
[Provide a broad overview of the understanding]
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I DIE?
[Begins to free the seeker of body identification and the desire for body continuity]
THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS "PEACE OF MIND" (There Is Only Peace if You're Out of Your Mind)
[Shows the seeker how to be free of the subconscious motivators of the false content of the “mind”]
LIBERATION
[Shows the seeker how to be free of the subconscious motivators of personas]
THE ESSENCE OF THE TEACHINGS
[Provides the final preparation for the seeker to be directed along the “path”]
FROM THE I TO THE ABSOLUTE (A Seven-Step Journey to Reality)
[Directs the seeker along the “path”]
CONSCIOUSNESS/AWARENESS: The Nature of Reality Beyond Self-Realization (Peace Every Day When Abiding as The Absolute)
[Allows the seeker to understand the functioning of the totality, the manifestation, and what is involved with the un-manifestation]
FROM THE ABSOLUTE TO THE NOTHINGNESS
[Provides the seeker the wisdom to understand the Noneness as well as the Oneness]
Purchase an e-Book now and begin reading it in minutes (except with e-checks that can take 7-10 days). Trusting our clients as we do, all e-Books are provided to you in printable form.
SAVE IF YOU BUY ALL ELEVEN AT ONCE:
(You may order the books one at a time or you may use the following link to acquire the entire 11-e-Book set on sale for $99 if ordered at one time with the “Buy Now” button below. For this option, there will be no download links provided; once the near-instant notice of payment is received from PayPal, your e-Books will be sent to you as e-mail attachments. All are printable for your convenience.)
You may visit The Official Website of Floyd Henderson for information on each book.
3. BY ENROLLING in the Online Advaita Classes
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4. BY ATTENDING an Advaitin retreat for satsang with floyd and being guided through all seven steps. For details of the retreats offered, please visit the retreat information site.
5. BY ARRANGING satsang by telephone in the U.S. or by Skype internationally:
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3. BY ENROLLING in the Online Advaita Classes
For information, visit Information on the Advaita Classes on the Internet
To enroll visit Enroll in the Advaita Internet Course
4. BY ATTENDING an Advaitin retreat for satsang with floyd and being guided through all seven steps. For details of the retreats offered, please visit the retreat information site.
5. BY ARRANGING satsang by telephone in the U.S. or by Skype internationally:
Use the Contact link for details or for information on making arrangements for a session
6. BY ARRANGING for floyd to travel to your location and meet with you or your group. Use the contact link above to discuss details.
