From a site visitor: OK, so I read the posts from the last days, and you did admit that the I AM is a part of the I AM THAT I AM, so the question is, how is any of that talk about consciousness and witnessing have any relevance to the I AM I’m trying to navigate through? Tom
F.: Next, the very fact that you found this site and wrote to it is evidence that you are searching for something. Ultimately, only the search for Self can result in finding anything that is real. All else that you have been searching for is illusion-based, so at this point you have no choice but to live a life that is based in lies. Yet you question the relevance of teachings that invite you to search for truth and to find that which is Real as you are "trying to navigate through" your misconceived I-Amness?
While your search should focus on that which can be discovered from within, you are obviously searching for that which is external to You as you “navigate” about. Using that approach, seeking something or someone that you think you "need," you will always be needy and dependent or co-dependent. Then you will never be free, and if not free, how can you possibly have a sense of fulfillment? See the circular trap you are in? Also, as you come across in a needy, dependent fashion, you will only attract persons who are prone to seek out, manipulate, and take advantage of the needy types and the dependent types.
Further, as you search outside yourself, reinforcing your false belief in subject-object (which was also discussed in the recent postings that you are challenging) you will engage in one “relationship” after another which can only lead to instability and chaos. (Remember the eternal, subatomic influence that triggers a desire to “relate to” something? Do you see how that is dualistic at its very core?) Why will that search guarantee misery rather than the happiness and fulfillment that you seek? Because you will mistake your culture’s definition of “love” for the real. In that regard, this pointer is offered in the book FROM THE I TO THE ABSOLUTE (A Seven-Step Journey to Reality):
What persons call "love" is the most magnificent experience of all; it is also the most horrendous experience of all. With such duality, how can that possibly be taken for the real? As for feeling or emotion, if love happens as a feeling, take the ride and watch the feelings rise and fall; if love happens as an emotion—that is, if it is being "experienced" by a person in an ego-state—prepare for war.
Not knowing that You Are the unicity, you will identify with a variety of ego-states and those will assure that (1) you will seek to find someone to “make” you happy; (2) even if someone else makes you happy for a time, if they have that power to make you happy, then they also have the power to make you miserable; and (3) all of your “relations” will, therefore, advance and degenerate along this continuum:
stranger -> acquaintance -> friend -> best friend -> lover -> spouse -> one’s beloved -> eventually, irritating spouse -> enemy -> ex-spouse -> mortal enemy
If you do not understand the unicity, which you don’t, you will search for persons and things to “make you happy;” thus; any notions that you have about love will be at a self-serving level only. In that regard, see the relevance of pointers offered in regards to subject-object witnessing and transitioning beyond to the Pure Witnessing level: when you believe “I love him/her,” that subject-object belief sets the stage for you to also experience “I hate him/her” or “She/he hates me.” In the book CASTING LIGHT ON THE DARK SIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS, the problems are identified before solutions are offered, and one relative problem is rooted in all of the misunderstandings about “what love is,” about "what love is not," and in the duality of subject-object. For one involved in external searching, as you are, that pointer should also be relevant.
Why else discuss emotions vs. feelings and witnessing? Emotional reactions are the product of assumed identities—false ego-states—and one who is emotionally intoxicated cannot be happy or at peace. Peace can happen, on the other hand, when feelings are witnessed as they rise and fall. Then, the full spectrum of AS IF living can happen without the misery of emotional intoxication. My teacher offered this pointer: "Love says "I am everything." Wisdom says "I am nothing." Between the two, my life flows."
F.: Next, the very fact that you found this site and wrote to it is evidence that you are searching for something. Ultimately, only the search for Self can result in finding anything that is real. All else that you have been searching for is illusion-based, so at this point you have no choice but to live a life that is based in lies. Yet you question the relevance of teachings that invite you to search for truth and to find that which is Real as you are "trying to navigate through" your misconceived I-Amness?
While your search should focus on that which can be discovered from within, you are obviously searching for that which is external to You as you “navigate” about. Using that approach, seeking something or someone that you think you "need," you will always be needy and dependent or co-dependent. Then you will never be free, and if not free, how can you possibly have a sense of fulfillment? See the circular trap you are in? Also, as you come across in a needy, dependent fashion, you will only attract persons who are prone to seek out, manipulate, and take advantage of the needy types and the dependent types.
Further, as you search outside yourself, reinforcing your false belief in subject-object (which was also discussed in the recent postings that you are challenging) you will engage in one “relationship” after another which can only lead to instability and chaos. (Remember the eternal, subatomic influence that triggers a desire to “relate to” something? Do you see how that is dualistic at its very core?) Why will that search guarantee misery rather than the happiness and fulfillment that you seek? Because you will mistake your culture’s definition of “love” for the real. In that regard, this pointer is offered in the book FROM THE I TO THE ABSOLUTE (A Seven-Step Journey to Reality):
What persons call "love" is the most magnificent experience of all; it is also the most horrendous experience of all. With such duality, how can that possibly be taken for the real? As for feeling or emotion, if love happens as a feeling, take the ride and watch the feelings rise and fall; if love happens as an emotion—that is, if it is being "experienced" by a person in an ego-state—prepare for war.
Not knowing that You Are the unicity, you will identify with a variety of ego-states and those will assure that (1) you will seek to find someone to “make” you happy; (2) even if someone else makes you happy for a time, if they have that power to make you happy, then they also have the power to make you miserable; and (3) all of your “relations” will, therefore, advance and degenerate along this continuum:
stranger -> acquaintance -> friend -> best friend -> lover -> spouse -> one’s beloved -> eventually, irritating spouse -> enemy -> ex-spouse -> mortal enemy
If you do not understand the unicity, which you don’t, you will search for persons and things to “make you happy;” thus; any notions that you have about love will be at a self-serving level only. In that regard, see the relevance of pointers offered in regards to subject-object witnessing and transitioning beyond to the Pure Witnessing level: when you believe “I love him/her,” that subject-object belief sets the stage for you to also experience “I hate him/her” or “She/he hates me.” In the book CASTING LIGHT ON THE DARK SIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS, the problems are identified before solutions are offered, and one relative problem is rooted in all of the misunderstandings about “what love is,” about "what love is not," and in the duality of subject-object. For one involved in external searching, as you are, that pointer should also be relevant.
Why else discuss emotions vs. feelings and witnessing? Emotional reactions are the product of assumed identities—false ego-states—and one who is emotionally intoxicated cannot be happy or at peace. Peace can happen, on the other hand, when feelings are witnessed as they rise and fall. Then, the full spectrum of AS IF living can happen without the misery of emotional intoxication. My teacher offered this pointer: "Love says "I am everything." Wisdom says "I am nothing." Between the two, my life flows."
Finally, happiness can only happen if free. One identified with body and mind and personality can never be free. Freedom from all nonsense and desire and fear can only happen via the re-purification of the consciousness and Full Realization. As far as this Is-ness is concerned, what could be more relevant than these Teachings that can lead to an understanding that can provide, in turn, freedom and happiness/contentment for the remainder of the manifestation? Yet peace does not come to the seeker. Peace comes when seeking ends as a result of having found, yet those searching externally will think on occasion that they have found, only to learn later that they have not. Please enter the silence of contemplation.
WORKING ON ISSUES ARISING IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE NON-REALIZED AND ON FINDING SOLUTIONS TO “RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS”?
