TODAY’S CONSIDERATIONS
To review the key pointers that would be offered were the taking of mahasamadhi only hours away:
The source of all relative problems always involves fanaticism.
Fanaticism is always rooted in the agendas of personality identifications.
Fanaticism also works hand-in-hand with higher-than-ever levels of the Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder are manifesting around the globe.
The next topic offered for consideration is excerpted from the book WHEN ONLY THREE HOURS OF MANIFESTATION REMAIN (The "Final" Talks of Floyd Henderson):
Above All: Be Love, But Then Live In An "As If" Fashion So That You Can Enjoy Love As A Relative Expression Of ABSOLUTE, REAL LOVE As Well
(Part Two: What Real Love Is Not)
Here, words are first used to point to what is NOT; never is what is addressed first.
The Realized Advaitin knows that Truth cannot be found by beginning with a search for Truth. The search begins first with a search for all distortions, misperceptions, falsehoods, illusions, and delusions that have been unquestioningly accepted as fact in the past.
When every lie is seen to be a lie, when every concept is seen to be false, when all worldly and spiritual knowledge is seen to be nothing more than learned ignorance, it is at that point then that Truth will explode into awareness like gunpowder touched off by a spark.
The approach to “seek first the false” applies to all non-duality subject matter, so the same approach will be used as the discussion of True Love vs. false love begins. So, what is love NOT?
1. Is it possible that Love is NOT the love-to-be that ego-states experience? "The Husband” loves-to-be "The Husband” so much that when “The Wife” reports that she is leaving, 59% of their male partners in the U.S. kill the one intent upon leaving. When awareness of the True Self is lost below the layers of personas that persons wrongly take to be who they are, then a "perceived threat" to an ego-state will be mistaken for an actual threat. The result is that the person (in this example “The Husband”) believes so strongly that he is being attacked that he is driven to strike out in what he subconsciously takes to be “self-defense” (specifically, in “defense of his false self”).
[Thus, personality identification so warps the mind that it can perceive an act of offense as an act of defense. Talk about insane!]
2. Is it possible that Love is NOT the love-of-self that drives persons to seek “a compatible partner”? Many heterosexual persons actually want an opposite-sex version of themselves. Many homosexual persons want a same-sex version of themselves.
[Talk about arrogance!]
Persons are so in love with themselves—with their false “selves” and false identities—that they believe that they can only be happy if they find other persons to associate with who mirror them . . . who think as they think, feel as they feel, and believe as they believe.
Any deviation from that pattern will be grounds for war, either among individuals or among individuals comprising nations.
Therefore, nations can develop and display the same disgusting personality traits as individuals, and nations with the most arrogant in their populations most often evidence their egotism-based self-concepts with proclamations such as: “You need to follow our political system” (e.g., “democracy”); “you need to adopt our economic system” (e.g., “capitalism”); and “you need to adopt our religious beliefs” (e.g. “our Christian beliefs, our Islamic beliefs,” etc.)
3. Is it possible that Love in NOT “the missing ingredient in your life” that can bring you happiness if attained? All absence of happiness and all presence of misery is rooted in persona-based perceptions of need, of desires, and of fears. Try to name another area that generates more desire or more fear than “love.” Try to name anything else sought out so vigorously in order to meet perceived needs (that are not truly needs at all but are merely more “wants”). Few areas of your relative existence have superseded “love” in fostering desire, fear, short-term happiness, and long-term misery.
4. Is it possible that Love is NOT the gateway to having your needs and wishes met? Your needs are perceived and the actual driving force behind your desires cannot be seen until well along "the path" to Realization.
5. Is it possible that Love is NOT a tool to be used for manipulation of “others” or “another” to gain more or to satisfy your sense of entitlement . . . the sense that you are entitled to be taken care of or that you deserve more than you have? Happiness begins when the search for more goes and a contentment with less comes. Happiness becomes fixed when nothing is desired. It reaches a new height during AS IF living when the Void is enjoyed. It reaches the ultimate bliss after it is seen that the Void IS the fullness.
6. Is it possible that Love is NOT “caring enough” to meet the needs and desires of “another”? That is attachment. That is co-dependency. That is self-service disguised as "service to others." That is ego-state defense. That is delusion. And more often than not, if you dig one layer below what many claim to be their “altruistic giving,” what is revealed is a hidden agenda to "get" and the desire to serve self as referenced above.
The drive among the masses to accumulate follows twenty years of early programming. The shift toward true happiness begins when it is seen that one is left with a sense of emptiness in spite of all that has been accumulated, when one enters into Self-Inquiry, when one finds the Real, and when de-accumulation then happens spontaneously.
7. Is it possible that Love is NOT because of? The closest that "love" could be to what is Real happens when it is not because of but more often is in spite of instead.
8. Is it possible that your belief systems about love, needs, and “relationships” are NOT that which is the answer to all your problems but will instead almost always become an additional source of even more misery? How often in your own experience has "Mr. Right" or "Ms. Right" eventually been revealed to be "Mr. Incredibly Wrong!" or "Ms. Unbelievably Wrong!"?
“Part Two” will be completed tomorrow.
Please enter into the silence of contemplation.
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