TODAY’S CONSIDERATIONS
[Continued from yesterday]
The discussion of Assuming the Role of "The Parent" or "The Child," from the book INSTABILITY / INSANITY: What the Advaita Teachings Can (and Cannot Address) continues with Part "B."
This pointer was offered earlier:
Additionally, the P-A-C roles reinforce the other basic personality types and the other assumed personas that humans adopt, creating even greater barriers and obstacles to Truth and freedom and peace and stability and sanity.
Conversely, the nine basic personality types as revealed through the enneagram reinforce "The Child" and "The Parent," generating an endless loop in which persons become increasingly more fixed in their false roles / personas.
To review, the nine basic types that are adopted by children early on:
Type One: "The Perfectionist"
Type Two: "The Helper, Savior, Rescuer"
Type Three: "The Performer, Image-Maker"
Type Four: "The Idealizer, Individualist, Rebel, Withdrawer"
Type Five: "The Analyst, Avoider"
Type Six: "The Dependent One, Loyalist, Fearful One, Indecisive One"
Type Seven: "The Adventurer, Gourmet, Pleasure Seeker, Pain-Avoider"
Type Eight: "The Boss, Controller, Dominater, Enslaver"
Type Nine: "The Avoider, Feeling Eluder, Being Upset Evader, Mediator, Accommodater, Passive Controller, Abdicator"
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Note how "The Child" reinforces those various types:
The sadness of "The Child" reinforces the sadness and melancholy nature of the 2, 3, and 4.
The sometimes conforming "Child" reinforces that trait in the 9.
The fearful "Child" role reinforces the fearful natures of the 5, 6, and 7.
The withdrawn, isolating "Child" reinforces those traits in the 4, 5, and 9.
The indirect "Child" reinforces that trait in the 9.
The sulking, incommunicative "Child" will trigger that trait in the 9.
The dependent / co-dependent "Child" reinforces that trait in the 9, the 6, and the 2.
The insecure "Child" reinforces that trait in the 6 and the 9 and can impact the 3.
"The Child's" tendency to control by pouting and refusing to communicate will reinforce that trait in the 9 when in the passive phase of the 9's passive-aggressive style.
"The Child's" sense of entitlement and desire to be indulged and even spoiled will reinforce those traits in the 2, the 3, the 4, the 6, and the 9.
"The Child's" desire to be able to manipulate will reinforce those traits in the 6, the 8, and the 9.
"The Child's" desire to be taken care of will reinforce that trait in the 6, the 2, and the 9.
"The Child's" willingness to be dependent and co-dependent will reinforce that trait in the 2, the 3, the 6, and the 9.
"The Child's" tendency to internalize anger (and thus generate depression) will reinforce that behavior in the 9.
"The Child's" tendency to hide and isolate will reinforce those traits in the 4, 5, and 9.
"The Child's" tendency to avoid truth and not communicate openly will reinforce those traits in the 9.
"The Child's" tendency to spin the truth or put a spin on reality will reinforce the same behaviors in the 3 and the 7 and the 9.
"The Child's" tendency to be defensive will reinforce that trait in the 9.
"The Child's" tendency to be insecure will reinforce that trait in the 6, the 9, and the 2.
Note how "The Parent" reinforces those various types:
The contemptuous, controlling, sarcastic and domineering "Parent" type reinforces those traits in the 8, the 2 disintegrated to 8, and the 3.
The controlling "Parent" reinforces that trait in the 9 when the 9 is in the passive mode of the 9's passive-aggressive phase of their dualistic nature.
The critical, fault-finding, judgmental, blaming, shaming "Parent" type reinforces those same traits in the 1 and in the 7 disintegrated to 1.
The overly-serious and humorless "Parent" type reinforces those same traits in the 1, the 7 disintegrated to 1, and the 4.
The uptight "Parent" type reinforces the uptightness that is typical of a 1 or of a 4 that has shifted to the 1.
The angry "Parent" reinforces the anger that is typical with the 8 and 9 and 1, though the 9 and 1 typically suppress their anger and / or deny their anger, triggering depression as a result.
The critical "Parent" reinforces that trait in 8, the 2, and the 1.
The sarcastic "Parent" reinforces that trait in the 9, in the 8, and in the 3.
The tendency of "The Parent" to talk down to others, to use sarcasm, to scold, to judge, to criticize, to try to control, to bully and to dominate will reinforce those traits which are typical with the 8, the 1, the 3, and even the 9 when a 9 is in the aggressive phase of the 9's passive-aggressive style or when the 9 is in the passive (but still manipulative and controlling) mode of operating.
When the talk here is of "being trapped in personality," is it becoming clear how literally that term applies?
In the book, FROM THE I TO THE ABSOLUTE, this consideration was offered during satsang:
"Is it your belief that your relative existence should play out in the limited confines of a narrow dungeon where you feel imprisoned and struggling each day? Should you feel as if you are at the mercy of the whims of a plethora of guards, including the guard of austere disciples, the guard of personalities, the guard of fear, the guard of 'others,' or the guard of desire?
"How free do you want to be? Are you willing to leave the prison behind? I come to tell you again, the bars of the prison of your body-mind-personality triad are made from the ideas that you hold to be true and the beliefs that you hold to be sacred. The instant that you leave the physical and mental prison of personas behind, in that very instant you are well on your way to freedom."
To be continued.
Please enter into the silence of contemplation.
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