TODAY'S CONSIDERATIONS
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Maharaj said that whatever gives you pleasure will eventually give you pain, and whatever gives you the most pleasure will eventually give you the most pain.
How many can see that his pointer applies to events throughout their own relative existence?
How many have loved booze or opiates or meth, only to have them eventually turn on them?
How many have loved their mates or lovers or spouses, only to have them eventually turn on them?
How many have loved their accumulations, only to have the maintenance costs of those accumulations eventually turn on them?
How many have loved the total nonsense which was mistakenly believed at some point to be "gems of wisdom" when they were passed on by parents or a teacher or a guru, only to have the acceptance of those ignorant or even insane concepts eventually turn on them?
The lies and delusions which the masses hold dear in terms of their distorted concepts about "love" have triggered more unhappiness and depression and desolation and distress and misery and suffering and chaos and fighting and bigotry and fanaticism and yes, even murder, than any other driver.
So now, in order to offer some concrete examples, we can pause to take
THE BS ROLL CALL
of
STATEMENTS BASED IN COMMONLY-HELD CONCEPTS AMONG THE MASSES RE:
"love"
In regards to what "love" supposedly is per the way the masses misperceive it, all of the following include statements which have actually been made to me or actions which persons have actually taken and then revealed to me:
1.
A woman: "I have to wear long sleeve tops to work to cover up the bruises on my arms from my where my husband hits me or squeezes me when he's shaking me."
F.: "And why do you continue to tolerate that abuse?"
W.: "Because I love him and because I'm the one who angers him in the first place and who makes him do that and besides, he says he's only giving me 'love taps' anyway and that if he didn't love me, he'd ignore me and show no emotions."
F.: "Humans do nothing unless they believe there's a payoff. Might it not be 'love' but the continuation of a high lifestyle which all of his money provides that is inspiring you to stay with him?"
W.: "Screw you, Floyd."
2.
Woman: "My husband suggested that I come here to see if you could re-program me. I've spent years listening to and working with a female teacher who told me to 'love what is' and that I could never be happy until I get free of my negative feelings about the man who raped me. She told me to prepare a meal and invite him to dinner and serve him, and I've tried to do that several times but always back out at the last minute. I've believed that I'm a total failure by not being able to listen to my teacher and do what she says."
F.: "I don't 're-program.' I'm in the business of de-programming and thereby setting the stage for you to see truth. The truth I have seen is that woman strikes me as being totally batshit crazy, but it will do you no good for me to see that. You must see that."
3.
F.: "Why did you kill your wife?"
AA-er: "Because she took away my home and my children and my money."
F.: "Is it possible that she did not choose to leave you but that you drove her away like a Mack truck racing at her at full speed?"
4.
F.: "So you say that you have made millions of dollars in the last fifteen years, but you have a wife who is clearly, to me, being driven by vanity and arrogance and entitlement. You say that no matter how many times you have begged and pleaded or ragingly demanded that she stop spending, she ignores you. You confess that three times over the years you have taken out consolidation loans to pay off the hundreds of thousands of dollars of credit card debt she has accumulated. Now, your credit score is under 400, you don't have a penny in savings, you have withdrawn your 401K funds to live on and you paid the penalty for those early withdrawals and still she rages at you for not being a good provider and calls you 'completely useless.' She hasn't an iota of maternal instinct so she has always ignored the children that you two had so you are basically a single parent. Now, I understand exactly why you continue to stay in that misery-generating 'relationship,' but you have no clue, so I predict under that circumstance that you'll likely continue to stay and continue to be miserable while living in denial and in ignorance around what is actually driving you."
He: "Of course I know why I stay with her. I love her. Deep down inside, she really is a good woman."
F.: "You might want to read about the Stockholm Syndrome as well as some of my writings on personality identification and the way that being driven by the persona of 'The Super Husband' and "The Super Father" as well as by the idealization of that-which-is-most-definitely-not-ideal can lead to your normalization of misery and to your acceptance of the unacceptable and to your tolerating the intolerable and to your 'loving what is,' even though one would have to be totally insane to love what currently is in your case."
The lyrics of one song, sung as a man is leaving a relationship which did not work out, says:
"Kiss today goodbye . . .
But I can't regret
What I did for love,
What I did for love."
Close, but no cigar, sir. Here, "regret" is never endorsed, but neither is there an endorsement to fail to see that what you "did" was not "for love."
Among the masses who haven't a clue about the Real Love which Maharaj spoke of, what they mistakenly identify as "love" is really that which can supposedly fulfill the desires of a variety of personas, be it the persona of . . .
"The Stud" or "The One Entitled to a Better Lifestyle Than All Others" or "The One Who Married Someone That Would Be Pleasing in the Eyes of One's Parents" (or the one chosen by one's parents in an arranged marriage) or "The One Who Married Someone Who Was A Member of the Right Religion" or "The One Who Married Someone Who Looks Super Fine," ad infinitum.
The post today will end with these two considerations which have been offered in the past:
The post today will end with these two considerations which have been offered in the past:
What persons call "love" is the most magnificent
experience of all; it is also the most horrendous experience of all. With such
duality, how can that possibly be taken for the real? As for feeling or
emotion, if love happens as a feeling, take the ride and watch the feelings
rise and fall; if love happens as an emotion—that is, if it is being
"experienced" by a person trapped in an ego-state—prepare for war
and
Persons desiring to know what love is might benefit more
(relatively speaking, of course) if they were able to understand what love is
not.
Tomorrow: More on the ill-conceived concepts which the masses hold about "love."
To be continued.
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