FALSE IDENTITIES: MYTHS, LIES, AND FACTS, Part One

F.: Because the non-Realized (that is, "persons") are living the basic lie of believing that they are their false identities, then every other thought, word, and deed that follows is also going to be a lie: “I am this” or “I am that”; “You make me angry”; “You make me happy when…”; “You brought that on yourself because of your bad karma”; “My body shall resurrect”; “They’ll get their just reward/punishment in the afterlife”; “I’ll be happy if I can just get a different….”

The roles that persons play in the lila are also called ego-states, states-of-being (being this or that), false identities, the false self, the façades, the masks, the public images, personas, and personalities. Consider how many hundreds of ego-states that persons assume as identities; then, consider that each ego-state has multiple “voices” in the “mind.” After that exercise, it should be clear why persons pass their days in preoccupation and their nights in restlessness: they are hearing the incessant chatter of a thousand monkeys in their heads as all of those ego-states try to deal with their imagined affronts, challenges, fears, and desires while constantly struggling to assure the continuity of something that is only a mirage.

Next, consider the overwhelming number of false identities that persons have to choose from when adopting and fostering their images and you begin to understand why they are overwhelmed by the multitude of hidden agendas that are driving their thoughts, words, and deeds as they assume their false identities from a list that includes: the boy, the girl, the man, the woman, the stranger, the acquaintance, the friend, the fiancé, the fiancée, the boyfriend, the girlfriend, the lover, the spouse, the predator, the prey, the abuser, the abused, the enemy, the homeowner, the fixer, and the perfectionist;

also, the helper, the driver, the driven, the performer, the romantic, the analyst, the loyalist, the adventurer, the boss, the parent, the adult, the child, the Caucasian, the African, the Afro-American, the white, the black, the brown, the yellow, the peacemaker, the smart, the ignorant, the gifted, the special, the contributor, the leech, the taker, the giver, the addict, the alcoholic, the son/daughter, the superstar, the nobody, the minister, the secretary;

also, the hero, the achiever, the caretaker, the clown, the haves, the have-nots, the messiah, the lost child, the troublemaker, the special one, the knowledgeable one, the organizer, the controller, the conventional one, the savior, the matchmaker, the preacher, the priest, the rabbi, the ayatollah, the imam, the answer man, the answer woman;

also, the president, the leader, the student, the teacher, the guru, the employee, the employer, the religious one, the spiritual giant, the teen, the board member, the owner, the possessor, the judge, the critic, the charmer, the stud, the sexy woman, the womanizer, the goddess, the player, the trophy, the model, the singer, the connoisseur, the gourmet, the vegan, the vegetarian, the expert;

also, the Republican, the Democrat, the Independent, the American, the Frenchman, the German, the Iranian, the Syrian, the Talibani, the Pakistani, the Indian, the Jordanian, the Christian, the Catholic, the Protestant, the Lutheran, the Hindu, the Taoist, the Sufi, the Sunni, the Shia, the Buddhist, the Pope, the Dalai Lama, the Jew, the Muslim, ad infinitum.

And that list includes but a fraction of the labels that persons use to assume false identities and to separate themselves from “others” by religion, politics, boundaries and global positioning, strata of societies, hierarchies of power and wealth and status and employment, affiliation, membership, association, race, and all forms of personality. Is the extent to which duality dominates the population of the earth any wonder?

Tom Cunningham has compiled his own list of some of the less obvious roles that must also be discarded. (They are all rooted in Sigmund Freud's “His Majesty the Baby” belief systems, as discussed in the posting from two days ago.) He discusses the myths that accompany each such identity and then offers by way of contrast the actual facts that apply. For those attempting to identity all ego-state being assumed and all roles being played (in order to discard them) the following are offered for consideration. Are you playing any of the games associated with these false identities that are rooted in the immaturity of “His/Her Majesty the Baby”?

The Popular One
Myth: If I am charming, attractive, magnetic, and the life of the party, you will want to be my friend.
Fact: By being all things to all people, we lose our true self in the process. The end of the game comes when others realize there is nothing behind the phony smiles.

The Tyrant/The Dictator
Myth: If you obey me and place yourself in my complete control, I will protect you from chaos.
Fact: If we believe we are born leaders capable of handling any crisis, we expect others to trustingly place themselves in our hands. Masters of sarcasm, we keep out subjects in place with cruel comments. The end of the game is when the “subjects” refuse to play.

The Love Conqueror
Myth: I am irresistible to others. Part of my attractiveness is my lack of respect for other people. I expect love, attention, wealth and power for the privilege of my company.
Fact: We are in deadly competition for center stage and are incapable of commitment in a relationship. The end of the game is when others recognize the shallowness of the conqueror.

The Beautiful One
Myth: Youthfulness, a beautiful body, and an attractive face are the essential qualities for me to be liked and accepted.
Fact: We have tried to get by on looks alone. The end of the game is when others tire of the child who requires continuous reassurance of his or her attractiveness.

Because persons live the basic lie of self (and thus all of the other lies that follow), the considerations for today are, "Are You being true to Self?" "Is that possible without knowing Who/What You Truly Are?" "Are you living a lie or have You Realized the Truth as a result of coming to understand the functioning of the totality?" Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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THE INSTABILITY OF DUALITY, Part One

F.: The Realized have no “mind” by which to think, so no dualistic thoughts such as “good vs. bad” can arise. Functioning from a position of neutrality, the extremes of “good” or “bad” are irrelevant. But such is not the case with persons.

Some persons were conditioned and programmed to believe that they are “bad.” The resulting low self-esteem can make persons aggressive, but more often the result is that persons become easily hurt by criticism; avoid feelings while being trapped in emotions; take blame for everything considered negative; feel helpless; fear failure; try to please others; suffer depression; and can become self-destructive. The result of duality in their case is instability.

On the other hand, there are those who were programmed to believe that they are “really good,” "really special," and “really different” from “others.” Freud used the term "His Majesty the Baby" to describe these types. Others use the term "Queen Baby" or "King Baby" to describe persons with overly-inflated self-esteem and who dualistically believe that they are "very good" and "better than others."

As a result of buying into that dualistic extreme, these babies in adult bodies eventually lose the ability to feel but do react with extreme emotionalism; become addicted to chaos and also suffer instability; become obsessed with the phenomenal existence and its preoccupation with the material; become more trapped than most in dualistic and judgmental thinking; overreact; demand immediate gratification; develop a paranoid "me vs. them" mentality; blame and complain; seek approval; hate criticism; and become impulsive, irritable, aggressive, irresponsible, destructive, harmful, deceitful, and manipulative.

Convinced that their sense of entitlement is legitimate, they can even become criminal when all does not go their way or when they do not get what they want. Such are the tolls of buying into "bad" labels, as with the first group, and buying into "good" labels the way that "His Majesty the Baby" does. Functioning under the influence of such duality, instability and moods swings and chaos are inevitable.

A seminal element of the non-duality understanding is the realization that you are neither “good” nor “bad.” The relative nonsense described above which accompanies the belief that one is “very good” or “very bad” should make clear that such beliefs will prevent happiness, contentment, and any sense of ease from happening with any consistency in the relative existence. And the further persons move from a position of neutrality, the more aggravated will their unhappiness or discontentment or dis-ease become. Meaning?

Meaning persons who think that they are “very bad” will generate more misery than those who think they are “bad”; those who think they are “very good” will generate more misery than those who think that are “good.” And all duality eventually leads to those extremes of duality because the moment any ego-state is assumed, automatically egotism assigns super status to that state.

For example, the moment that one accepts the identity of “The Wife,” that person will very soon become “The Super Wife” and will immediately demand that she have a “Super Husband.” The same is true of the male assuming the false identity of “The Husband” who will take himself (his self) to be “The Super Husband” who deserves nothing less than a “Super Wife.” And both will initially want their roles to last forever while being disappointed time and again that their roles are not consistently and constantly receiving the respect due someone of such high status.

Yet all ego-states are temporary. That alone generates a sense of instability as identities come and go. Frustration also comes with assumption of such ego-states since there is (1) a desire among persons for their false ego-states/false identities to last forever while there is also (2) occasional fear that they might not.

Therein lies the irony of duality and of taking the relative to be real: persons want stability, but the very roles they assume, identify with, and take to be everlasting are actually transitory and short-lived. While longing for continuity, they cling to transient roles and dualistic concepts which are ephemeral, that prevent stability, and that cannot possibly last. That which is real and stable is beyond phenomenal boundaries. As the warped consciousness longs for stability and permanence, it hasn’t a clue that only the Noumenon is stable and permanent.

Nor can the corrupted consciousness understand that the “mind” which is projecting the phenomenal is only imagining that the play of the attributes is real. In error, the "mind" takes the temporary to be permanent without having ever experienced even a glimpse of That which is eternal and stable. Only by discarding all belief in the temporary (including the body, the “mind,” the attributes, and the identities) can the Real be seen and can stability happen for the remainder of the manifestation.

To believe that there is “good vs. bad” or that there is “the phenomenal and the Noumenal” or to believe that “I AM THAT; I AM” has anything to do with “two” is to beg for instability and/or fluctuating moods and/or chaos. That any of your current roles will last even to the end of the manifestation is questionable, but those roles certainly will not last beyond. In the meantime, while they are being played, those roles will generate desires at times and fears at other times that further contribute to instability and/or fluctuating moods and/or chaos as well.

The process to eliminate instability and/or fluctuating moods and/or chaos is, first, to end body identification by finding where you were and what you were in the days prior to conception and, secondly, to be done with the illusions of the “mind” once and for all. (A source that can help relieve you of the “mind” that churns out a steady stream of thoughts which prevents peace during the day as well as sleep at night is available.) Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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