F.: Yesterday, the discussion underway at the end of the posting dealt with a man who wanted to receive the “good” label from a woman he had lived with as “husband.” Note how the belief in dualities always produces misery for persons. The duality of “True Self as opposed to husband” and the duality of “good as opposed to bad” made him miserable while they were together. Her threats to leave could “end husband” in the flash of a second, and in taking that role to define "who he is," he was trapped for years in a sense of vulnerability, dependence, misery, fear and discomfort. And her belief in the fictitious standards of "good" and "bad" that had been programmed into her left her miserable and restless as well. His programming made him dependent on her back then for what he took to be his very "existence," and he remains dependent on her (and her duality-based opinions) to this day. She is still in charge of how he feels, and they are not even in contact. That’s insanity, all rooted in an ego-state and in acceptance of the “good-bad” duality.
That duality was programmed into him as a child and began a life-long quest (actually, the life-long playing of games) to be considered “good” and to avoid being considered “bad.” In fact, he could be free if he realized that “he” is the consciousness that needs nothing other than re-purification. The imaginary roles that his body has played (and continues to play) are assuming that his personal needs are real, and with any belief in unfulfilled needs, misery always comes. Is it becoming clear how all ego-states are prisons and that all beliefs in dualities are the bars? Is it obvious why a dual-minded person will always be unstable in all ways? Is it becoming clear that all "you’s" are just thoughts (and that all thoughts are nothing more than a series of flawed images)? Do you see that the “husband” identity that was cast upon him via enculturation was not even a figment of his own imagination but was a figment of the imagination of others who had been programmed by persons before (and those had been programmed by persons before them…and those were programmed by persons before them, ad infinitum)? Are you seeing that, even though identities and their perceived needs are totally fictional, they can have a “real” impact on the experiences that persons suffer in their relative existence?
So what personal needs do you think “you” have? You might write them all on a piece of paper and then next to each, write the name of the persona or role that thinks it needs that. See that whatever it is that is imagining that need is not You. It is not your True Self but is a false self. Can You find each false self that you are taking to be who you are and that is thus generating a sense of need which will always mark your relative existence with misery and suffering? Please enter the silence of contemplation. [To be continued tomorrow]
