LOVE,” “FEAR” AND EMOTIONAL INTOXICATION, Part Three, The Conclusion

You mentioned love-hate in today’s post, but in satsanga you told us that the only two emotions that persons experience are love or fear. Que pasa? Ricardo

The list of 20 things that love is not continues from the previous postings:

10. Is it possible that love is NOT the “repetition compulsion” that drives persons to recreate past relationship models with a hidden agenda of bringing about what you believe would be a more positive outcome? Suppose you’re a young woman now whose father during your youth could not express love. Are you seeking men with a fatherly-image who seem willing to love you unconditionally? Are you taking that to be “love” when you're really addressing a subconscious "need"? Is "love" needy? Are you from a broken home and are now driven subconsciously to try to form a family and to “get it right” this time? Are you assuming it is “love” that is driving that desire?

11. Is it possible that love is NOT real if it drives self-destructive behavior or if it drives you to try to please at any cost…even the cost of never finding out who YOU truly Are as you subjugate yourself (Your True Self) to another person?

12. Is it possible that love is NOT the purely physical response that automatically drives all species to propagate?

13. Is it possible that love is NOT that which is a product of the many subconscious and unconscious factors that drive persons to try to treat with "love" the plethora of mental and emotional issues that need addressing?

14. Is it possible that love is NOT that which drives you to expend so much of your energy in an effort to find something that will heal the wounds of your childhood trauma and/or your adulthood trauma?

15. Is it possible that love is NOT that which drives persons to unite in order to "feel whole"? Are you aware that those drives are rooted in not knowing the unicity, in imagining that the duality of “separation” is "real," and in believing that the duality of "aloneness" or "apartness" are “real?” If you get in touch with The Great Reality, you will realize that the word "aloneness" is a corruption of the original term, "all-oneness.”

16. Is it possible that love is NOT what it is taken to be by anyone involved in “self” (personas, false selves) nor by anyone who has not fully Realized, nor by anyone who has not come to know the unicity of all via True Self awareness?

17. Is it possible that love is NOT what it is taken to be by persons who are unaware of the selflessness and Selflessness beyond this manifestation?

18. Is it possible that love is NOT that which persons are driven to search for as a result of the desires, the perceived emotional needs, and the fears of their ego-states?

19. Is it possible that love is NOT that which drives persons to try to find a partner to provide now what they wanted in childhood but did not get?

20. Is it possible that "love" is NOT that which is supposed to meet regularly your physical desires and is NOT that which is supposed to provide for economic welfare?

In conclusion, these pointers regarding “love/Love,” most of which are offered on the Advaita Quote site, are repeated here for consideration:

“What persons call ‘love’ is the most magnificent experience of all; it is also the most horrendous experience of all. With such duality, how can that possibly be taken for the real? As for feeling or emotion, if love happens as a feeling, take the ride and watch the feelings rise and fall; if love happens as an emotion—that is, if it is being "experienced" by a person in an ego-state—prepare for war.”

Yet the following can be said of “True Love” as understood via the Pure Witness/True Self: “Can you, from the position of 'As If Living' that follows Full Realization, feel and share Unconditional Love? Not only can You, but You shall. In fact, once again, no choice will be involved. It will just happen...spontaneously and unequivocally.”

If there is no "do-er," and if there is no identity that is real, then there is no "lover" either. If there is no lover, then find WHO thinks she/he is experiencing anything.

Ego is believing that there’s a vast multiplicity arranged in a hierarchy and that you’re the pinnacle; humility is knowing that you’re nothing, no-thing; Love is knowing that You, with a capital ‘Y,’ Are everything. (That said, understand that ego, humility, and love are merely concepts, thorns that can be used to remove thorns.)

As is the case with the Truth, which can be known but not stated, ultimately the same applies to Love.

Please enter the silence of contemplation.
ADDITIONAL READINGS RELATED TO TODAY’S POST:
THE FULL DISCUSSION ON “LOVE” AND THE WAY THAT REALIZATION CAN IMPROVE ALL ASPECTS OF THE RELATIVE EXISTENCE IS DISCUSSED IN CASTING LIGHT ON THE DARK SIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS. ARE YOU WORKING ON ISSUES ARISING IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE NON-REALIZED AND ON FINDING SOLUTIONS TO “RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS”?

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