F.: Case #2 will confirm another Advaita pointer: the ego hates the silence. It has been shown that as soon as an ego-state is taken to be an identity, it promotes itself to “Super” status. Personas—trapped as they are in their “Super” status and egotism—must make noise to create an image and to sustain an image. “The Super Speaker” must speak; "The Super Singer" must sing; “The Look-At-Me Mom Child” must yell for attention; and the adult version of that child must have a car with a sound system that no one can ignore.
The ego must be noticed for an ego-state to "survive," so it will generate noise and it will demand attention. Because thought precedes both words and actions, then the ego-dominated “mind” can tolerate neither the stillness nor the silence. Moreover, to reach a point where the presence of noise and the absence of stillness and silence becomes so miserable that a quiet mind is longed for, merely asking for it or wishing for it will never make it happen. [See the book There's No Such Thing As "Peace of Mind" for further explication.]
Note how the shiftings in consciousness and how all of the duality involved in the belief systems of Case #2 reveal multiple ego-states, egotism, a desire for attention, and (even more to the point) turmoil, unrest, ambiguity, bafflement, unevenness, and angst:
CASE #2
“Okay, they say I broke up a family, but I didn’t. He did. I was right 95% of the time in all the arguments we had. I didn’t have a choice but to leave. Yes, I was somewhat concerned about the effects of taking my daughter away from her father, but the negative effects of divorce on a child only last for about two years, max. After 20 years with him, I was so frustrated that I finally starting cutting him to the bone. I told him that I never loved him and that I had just been using him and that I had prayed every day for a year that he would die. Damn fool. On the other hand, he was a good provider and he was very generous in the settlement. I know I should have forgiven him, but he didn't deserve me. I was too good for him from day one.
I do have to admit that he was always a great father to our child, but he wasn't a lovable husband. Okay, love was there. Why else would I have stayed for twenty years? I never had to work. He paid all the bills. The sex was good. But he made me feel like a whore. We really did have a good marriage I guess, but now, I’m much happier away from him. I didn’t get a fraction of what I had coming from the divorce, but that's OK because now I’ve remarried and I’ve found a good man who will take care of me. Dad told me that, with my looks, I'd find a man to take care of me and he was right. Mom told me that love is a tool that can be used to manipulate men, but she meant manipulate in a good way. As it turns out, they knew what they were talking about.
Note how the shiftings in consciousness and how all of the duality involved in the belief systems of Case #2 reveal multiple ego-states, egotism, a desire for attention, and (even more to the point) turmoil, unrest, ambiguity, bafflement, unevenness, and angst:
CASE #2
“Okay, they say I broke up a family, but I didn’t. He did. I was right 95% of the time in all the arguments we had. I didn’t have a choice but to leave. Yes, I was somewhat concerned about the effects of taking my daughter away from her father, but the negative effects of divorce on a child only last for about two years, max. After 20 years with him, I was so frustrated that I finally starting cutting him to the bone. I told him that I never loved him and that I had just been using him and that I had prayed every day for a year that he would die. Damn fool. On the other hand, he was a good provider and he was very generous in the settlement. I know I should have forgiven him, but he didn't deserve me. I was too good for him from day one.
I do have to admit that he was always a great father to our child, but he wasn't a lovable husband. Okay, love was there. Why else would I have stayed for twenty years? I never had to work. He paid all the bills. The sex was good. But he made me feel like a whore. We really did have a good marriage I guess, but now, I’m much happier away from him. I didn’t get a fraction of what I had coming from the divorce, but that's OK because now I’ve remarried and I’ve found a good man who will take care of me. Dad told me that, with my looks, I'd find a man to take care of me and he was right. Mom told me that love is a tool that can be used to manipulate men, but she meant manipulate in a good way. As it turns out, they knew what they were talking about.
There have been ups and downs, but for the most part the game plan has worked most of my life and now I’ve happier than ever. I have a good Christian man who’s handsome and rich and I have a fulfilling job where I work for the Lord. I always liked singing in front of an audience, and now I sing in church in order to praise the Lord. Today, I know without a doubt that God rules over every part of His dominion, so it’s all been His will, everything that happened. I thank Him daily for the life He has given me. I am truly blessed.” [This case, and many others, are discussed in full in the book CASTING LIGHT ON THE DARK SIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS, below.]
The duality revealed in her comments confirms that the consciousness in example #2 has been completely warped. That also confirms that self (in fact, many “selves”) are driving her thoughts, words, and deeds. Look then at the way her ideas and “beliefs” shift from one diametrically-opposite extreme to another to understand the full effect of the consciousness being warped.
Next, your visit into the dark abyss of the sick “mind” in this example shows you exactly how the warping of consciousness results in confusion, instability, uncertainty, bewilderment, insecurity, unsteadiness, volatility, mental and emotional disorder, and personality disorders. All of those are the result of the warping of consciousness, the subsequent formation of a “mind,” the formation of personality, the assumption of ego-states as identities, and the egotism that follows.
Note again that the ego hates the silence. In fact, it so hates the silence and the beingness that it requires noise and doingness: “The Singer” must sing, “The Speaker” must speaker, and “The Talker” must talk; otherwise, none of those ego-states could “exist”—could “sustain” each self—in the “minds” of those who take their ego-states to be actual identities. This woman must sing, must talk to spread the "good news," must talk to preserve her image as a good mother who did no lasting (relative) harm to her daughter, and must talk to defend her self as a near-perfect wife (with a "95% right" rating).
Case #2 also illustrates that ego is always concerned with physical appearance, and persons become especially attached to body when a culture allows bodies to double as moneymakers. It becomes automatic for persons programmed in such a fashion to define their entire relative existence through projecting externals and maximizing the appearance of the form, the space, the physical. The result is that persons haven’t the slightest contact with that which can only be realized from within: consciousness of Self via tapping into the inner resource; contact with the sixth sense; contact with the intuition; and, finally, the ability to function in ways that are natural as opposed to unnatural and/or supernatural. If the darkness has descended upon the consciousness that you are, to any degree, the suggestion is to try completing all seven of the steps that lead to the re-purification of the warped consciousness. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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The duality revealed in her comments confirms that the consciousness in example #2 has been completely warped. That also confirms that self (in fact, many “selves”) are driving her thoughts, words, and deeds. Look then at the way her ideas and “beliefs” shift from one diametrically-opposite extreme to another to understand the full effect of the consciousness being warped.
Next, your visit into the dark abyss of the sick “mind” in this example shows you exactly how the warping of consciousness results in confusion, instability, uncertainty, bewilderment, insecurity, unsteadiness, volatility, mental and emotional disorder, and personality disorders. All of those are the result of the warping of consciousness, the subsequent formation of a “mind,” the formation of personality, the assumption of ego-states as identities, and the egotism that follows.
Note again that the ego hates the silence. In fact, it so hates the silence and the beingness that it requires noise and doingness: “The Singer” must sing, “The Speaker” must speaker, and “The Talker” must talk; otherwise, none of those ego-states could “exist”—could “sustain” each self—in the “minds” of those who take their ego-states to be actual identities. This woman must sing, must talk to spread the "good news," must talk to preserve her image as a good mother who did no lasting (relative) harm to her daughter, and must talk to defend her self as a near-perfect wife (with a "95% right" rating).
Case #2 also illustrates that ego is always concerned with physical appearance, and persons become especially attached to body when a culture allows bodies to double as moneymakers. It becomes automatic for persons programmed in such a fashion to define their entire relative existence through projecting externals and maximizing the appearance of the form, the space, the physical. The result is that persons haven’t the slightest contact with that which can only be realized from within: consciousness of Self via tapping into the inner resource; contact with the sixth sense; contact with the intuition; and, finally, the ability to function in ways that are natural as opposed to unnatural and/or supernatural. If the darkness has descended upon the consciousness that you are, to any degree, the suggestion is to try completing all seven of the steps that lead to the re-purification of the warped consciousness. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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