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From a site visitor: “You say that you witness feelings but don’'t attach emotion to them. Seems to me that at the initial point of the feeling when someone makes "you" mad or hurts "you" that there is an instance of emotion that you must consciously will away.”
F.: 1. If persons could consciously “will away” emotions, then the 59% of all women killed in the U.S. each year (killed, by the way, during the breakup of a "relationship") would still be alive today. If persons could consciously “will away” emotions, then persons would not be living minute-by-minute and day-by-day in the state of emotional intoxication that most live in. And if persons could consciously “will away” emotions, then they would not be carrying resentments for years or be experiencing pain from perceived loss or suffering for years.
2. Secondly, it is impossible to “attach” an emotion to a feeling. It would be like trying to attach a mirage to the road. Only ego-states emote and only personas experience emotional intoxication. Thus, the Realized—the Pure Consciousness—cannot “will away” anything since it does not “buy into” the false belief that an attack on a false identity is an actual threat; therefore, it does not experience emotions or emotional intoxication. What persons emote over, the Realized see as much ado about nothing. “Nothing” need not to be “willed away.” It would be tantamount to screaming for someone to remove the rope in the dark corner that you think is a threatening snake. Realization casts light on all the dark lies and delusions that persons take to be truth, and that’s why the Realized would never be misled into trying to “will away” a mirage in the road ahead. Only persons, living in ego-states as they do, have such an experience (and they have that experience over and over, all their days and all their lives).
3. Those who want to continue with their emotions always insert into the "casting aside emotions” discussion the defense that they “don’t want to become robots.” Their argument is generated from their ego-states that are fighting for their right to continue to experience emotional intoxication, chaos, destructive behavior, and all the accompanying suffering while claiming that, for the most part, they "are living a good life and are happy most of the time.” It will be shown that those persons speaking despairingly of a robotic state are actually the ones who are already experiencing a robotic existence.
Persons (personas) can only emote while mistaking their emoting for “feelings.” Persons cannot feel. Their experiences, abuse, and suffering have deadened their feelings, so it is those who are not Realized who can concern themselves with being robotic, not the Realized. Robots move as if asleep. They have no consciousness. They are programmed and can do only what they are programmed to do. Persons, not the Realized, move about as if asleep, as if unconscious, as if programmed and therefore powerless.
The Realize can feel, whereas persons exist with brief periods of seeming happiness, followed by the misery of emotional intoxication. The Realized witness feelings rise and fall. The difference in a person being angry and in the Realized feeling anger can be detected in what follows: persons react and trigger a series of reactions while the Realized observe whatever they feel as that feeling rises and falls. By witnessing rather than reacting, a feeling like anger can be seen by the Realized, can be felt, and can then be seen to disappear.
Emoting will reverse the natural order of operation in the relative existence and lead persons to live unnaturally. When threats are perceived, the natural order of response is (1) flight first and then (2) fight only if necessary. The unnatural order is (a) fight first and then (b) flight as a second option. Feelings results from natural responses via the brain (e.g., the amygdala can trigger a natural, survival-driven, reactive response that results in flight as option one and fight as option two.) Emotions are unnatural responses via the “mind” and can trigger an unnatural, destruction-driven series of reactive responses that result in fighting being option one (to preserve the ego-state) and flight (escape) becomes option two.
Thus, if "wife" tells ego-state "husband" that she's leaving, he'll fight to preserve his identity by trying to make her stay. Often, he'll play “kind” and if that doesn't work, he'll play mean. The unnatural response can be destructive, killing her and/or himself. Or he may turn to drugs or alcohol or risky sexual behavior as option two...all methods used in trying to flee from, or escape, the perceived threat. Emotions result in emotional intoxication; conversely, feelings are felt, then witnessed as they rise and fall. The Realized, living in an AS IF fashion, can still witness the sadness that is felt in natural responses to happenings in the relative existence, but only persons will be driven to take the type of actions that are generated from the emotional intoxication of ego-states that are perceiving threat. No such series of escalating reactions are triggered by feelings. Even deer—living naturally as they do—certainly seem to feel sad and seem to grieve for a time if their mates are found dead. But no grieving deer has ever gotten a good running start and rammed its head into an oak tree to try to kill itself. Eventually, it just moves on...without any harmful reaction.
Feelings are natural; emotions are unnatural. Those who have completed the seven-step “journey to reality” feel; persons are trapped in the chaos of their emotions. Two “paths” are clearly marked, but few are ever willing to abandon their addiction to chaos and follow the path to peace. In the militarized, war-like, ego-driven cultures of the West, the path to peace is anathema. Give the Realized an option and he’ll walk away from a fight; give a non-Realized man an army and he will attack. Please enter into the silence of contemplation. [To be continued]
TOMORROW: Their Angry "God of Peace"
