F.: Just under 200 years ago, Thoreau observed that most people were living “lives of quiet desperation.” Now, the desperation has turned noisy. Children love noise, the ego loves noise, and adult-aged persons (trapped as they are in ego with its childhood roots) love noise. All three hate the silence.
Today, therefore, persons (the non-Realized) live noisy, desperate lives, confined as they are in adult-aged bodies that are being driven by childish thoughts, childish words, and childish deeds as a result of being programmed as children to believe in duality.
Chaos and insane-like conduct have been so “normalized” that persons are dissociated from their depression, from their anxiety, and from the effects of their personality disorders: "Everything is fine with me, but you sure have a problem." Nowadays, the non-Realized ignore the proverbial “Elephant in the Kitchen” while viewing mirages and taking them to be real.
While some require a holistic treatment plan for what “ails” them, often including professional therapy and nutritional guidance, Full Realization has addressed some of the dysfunctionalism catalogued above. Most, however, will never even seek—much less ever find—such "treatment."
Yesterday, the pointer was offered that programming and conditioning a child to believe in duality…
…drives persons throughout childhood, and then throughout adulthood, to constantly try to “sell themselves”; to work at creating and maintaining a “positive image”; and to engage in a constant effort to market themselves as one who is not merely good but who is really good. Why?
As soon as an ego-state is assigned or adopted, ego-defense mechanisms elevate that role to “Super Status”: If hired by a school district, “The Teacher” immediately becomes “The Super Teacher” and cannot exist without super students. She or he will rant and rave when non-super students appear to threaten that false ego-state’s existence.
When a man in a robe pronounces a man “Husband,” he immediately become “The Super Husband” and cannot exist without a super wife; and when a woman accepts the cultural assignment of being “The Wife,” she immediately upgrades the illusion to “The Super Wife” and can never be happy unless she has a super husband.
When he appears to be super, she can be content, but when chinks in the armor appear, she will be unhappy. Such is the instability of a relative existence that is being played out on a stage where co-dependent roles are being assumed as identities.
After such widespread distortion of the consciousness, it is no wonder that egotism (and its accompanying misery and suffering) so dominate the planet. When wives inform husbands that “they are leaving,” many husbands cry out, “But I have been a good husband. Why would you want to leave me?” (Again, there is an upgrade of the childhood illusion that "I am a boy," which becomes "I am a good boy" which becomes "I am a man" which becomes "I am a husband" which becomes "I am a good husband" who is shocked if "Wife" does not see it that way.)
Some divorced females have admitted in sessions that their conviction was that “I have been a good wife, a great wife, in fact.” Their belief was, “You have not provided what someone as good as I am deserves.” (Again, there is the upgrading of an illusion: “I am a human” becomes “I am a wife,” and I am a wife” is eventually upgraded to “I am ‘The Super Wife’ who deserves this, this, and that.”)
The belief among all persons, once they have mentally upgraded the illusions they believe about “self,” generates the additional belief that "I deserve the best rewards available." Note next how the earliest dualities drive thought, word, and deed in adult “relationships.” The dualistic beliefs carried forward from childhood into adulthood reveal the following dualistic beliefs:
“In relationships, I am so good that no one can possibly be good enough for me. If you tell me ‘No’ or do not behave as I desire, you will be punished and not rewarded. You better learn what I don’t want and you better provide what I do want.” (Suddenly, “The Parent” role manifests alongside “The Child” persona.)
What egotistical claptrap. What misery is generated when thoughts, words, and deeds among adult-aged persons are all being driven by a construct that is typical of a six-year-old. What suffering comes when programming and conditioning with dualistic nonsense (which generates ego-states and egotism) dominate the relative existence.
Have you witnessed the egotism of your relationship partners? Have you witnessed your own? Have you noted the unhappiness that accompanies ego? Are you ready to be happy? If not independent, you cannot be free, and if not free, you cannot possibly be happy. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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Chaos and insane-like conduct have been so “normalized” that persons are dissociated from their depression, from their anxiety, and from the effects of their personality disorders: "Everything is fine with me, but you sure have a problem." Nowadays, the non-Realized ignore the proverbial “Elephant in the Kitchen” while viewing mirages and taking them to be real.
While some require a holistic treatment plan for what “ails” them, often including professional therapy and nutritional guidance, Full Realization has addressed some of the dysfunctionalism catalogued above. Most, however, will never even seek—much less ever find—such "treatment."
Yesterday, the pointer was offered that programming and conditioning a child to believe in duality…
…drives persons throughout childhood, and then throughout adulthood, to constantly try to “sell themselves”; to work at creating and maintaining a “positive image”; and to engage in a constant effort to market themselves as one who is not merely good but who is really good. Why?
As soon as an ego-state is assigned or adopted, ego-defense mechanisms elevate that role to “Super Status”: If hired by a school district, “The Teacher” immediately becomes “The Super Teacher” and cannot exist without super students. She or he will rant and rave when non-super students appear to threaten that false ego-state’s existence.
When a man in a robe pronounces a man “Husband,” he immediately become “The Super Husband” and cannot exist without a super wife; and when a woman accepts the cultural assignment of being “The Wife,” she immediately upgrades the illusion to “The Super Wife” and can never be happy unless she has a super husband.
When he appears to be super, she can be content, but when chinks in the armor appear, she will be unhappy. Such is the instability of a relative existence that is being played out on a stage where co-dependent roles are being assumed as identities.
After such widespread distortion of the consciousness, it is no wonder that egotism (and its accompanying misery and suffering) so dominate the planet. When wives inform husbands that “they are leaving,” many husbands cry out, “But I have been a good husband. Why would you want to leave me?” (Again, there is an upgrade of the childhood illusion that "I am a boy," which becomes "I am a good boy" which becomes "I am a man" which becomes "I am a husband" which becomes "I am a good husband" who is shocked if "Wife" does not see it that way.)
Some divorced females have admitted in sessions that their conviction was that “I have been a good wife, a great wife, in fact.” Their belief was, “You have not provided what someone as good as I am deserves.” (Again, there is the upgrading of an illusion: “I am a human” becomes “I am a wife,” and I am a wife” is eventually upgraded to “I am ‘The Super Wife’ who deserves this, this, and that.”)
The belief among all persons, once they have mentally upgraded the illusions they believe about “self,” generates the additional belief that "I deserve the best rewards available." Note next how the earliest dualities drive thought, word, and deed in adult “relationships.” The dualistic beliefs carried forward from childhood into adulthood reveal the following dualistic beliefs:
“In relationships, I am so good that no one can possibly be good enough for me. If you tell me ‘No’ or do not behave as I desire, you will be punished and not rewarded. You better learn what I don’t want and you better provide what I do want.” (Suddenly, “The Parent” role manifests alongside “The Child” persona.)
What egotistical claptrap. What misery is generated when thoughts, words, and deeds among adult-aged persons are all being driven by a construct that is typical of a six-year-old. What suffering comes when programming and conditioning with dualistic nonsense (which generates ego-states and egotism) dominate the relative existence.
Have you witnessed the egotism of your relationship partners? Have you witnessed your own? Have you noted the unhappiness that accompanies ego? Are you ready to be happy? If not independent, you cannot be free, and if not free, you cannot possibly be happy. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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