F.: With most parents being focused on making their children “good” and “not bad,” the tendency is to provide far more criticism than affirmation and far more information and spiritual knowledge (learned ignorance) than the modeling of natural living.
[Some of you read earlier postings regarding a Cherokee Grandmother who provided a different model. Her native language had no words for “good,” for “bad,” for “separation,” for “judging,” for “different from,” or for “better than.” Try an experiment: for the next seven days, try avoiding the use of those words—or any other such words, spoken or thought—that are used to reinforce a false sense of separation and judgment and duality. If successful, you’ll sample a taste of Realization and AS IF living.]
Among those parents who prefer intimidation in order to control, the prospect of punishment “now” as well as the prospect of punishment “for eternity” becomes a tool for control. Billions on the planet believe in a literal heaven and hell rather than understanding the “Gehanna analogy” used by Jesus after the Advaita Teachings were introduced to him and after he gained a significant (but not complete) understanding of the I AM and the I AM THAT.
The effect of being programmed as a child to believe in the earliest dualities is a planet-wide population of adults who are controlled by events from their childhood as well as the early teachings in duality. There is an antidote (called “The Advaita Understanding”) that has, in some cases, been effective at reducing the impact of childhood programming and conditioning or, in fewer cases, of eliminating those effects completely.
In other cases, it has been seen to be effective at preventing the role of “The Child” from dominating adult-aged thoughts and words and deeds; at eliminating the belief in nonsensical and irrational and illogical ideas and concepts; and at eliminating the misery and chaos that result from accepting falsehoods as truth.
Simply put, the bane of the relative existence is the assumption of ego-states and the accompanying egotism. Belief in illusions and belief in the ego-driven upgrading of illusions are the root of all human misery and instability and suffering. The illusion “I am a man” becomes upgraded to “I am a great man.”
The illusion that “I am a wife” becomes upgraded by egotism to “I am the perfect wife and deserve nothing less than a perfect husband.” The illusion that “I am an employee” becomes upgraded to “I am the best employee ever,” making the shock all the greater when the employer disagrees and fires a person who is far less valuable and productive than his self-image imagines.
Seeking the childish “I am good” label, and adopting the “I am good and even great” label, become the driving forces in terms of what non-Realized adults think, say, and do.
How significant is childhood programming when combined with the effects of childhood experiences that are traumatizing? The third example in this series is a woman discussed in the book CASTING LIGHT ON THE DARK SIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS.
Her case is another in which childhood conditioning continues to drive a woman who just passed the chronological age of fifty-five. Like the male discussed in the second installment, this woman was abused as a child by a parent who was incapable of loving unconditionally...or at all. An emotionally-unavailable and intimidated mother stood by as the abuse occurred.
Today, also like the male discussed in the18 November 2007 post, this woman has a dualistic, love-hate attitude toward members of the opposite sex. Having never confronted the male abuser in her life, she is at war with all males except that one. They are to be used and abused for the benefit of the body-mind-personality triad that she takes herself to be.
She claimed that she “can get any man she wants” and that she “can make any man love her.” (Of course the earliest example to the contrary—of her never being able to make the first male in her life capable of loving her—has been ignored during her decades-long quest to control men to her “benefit” and to make them all love her.)
She admitted in discussions that she manipulates men, but “in a good way.” By punishing men who never abused her, while never addressing the truth about the one who did, her childhood experiences continue to dominate her adult-aged behavior. The result is a life made miserable by the effects of her conditioning (and many other lives made miserable by dealing with her…all relatively speaking).
Even after several discussions, she never saw the relative toll being exacted: a life-long series of broken relationships, of sick relations, of divorce, of adultery, of depriving her child of her family, and of being miserable while claiming she is “very happy.”
It has been asked, “Why should any relative issues be discussed at all? Why waste the breath talking about illusions?” As far as the Advaita teachings are concerned, eliminating the relative consequences of the bastardized consciousness (and eliminating the subsequent human suffering during the manifestation) provides the sole rationale for attaining the understanding.
The pointer is not to develop pure thoughts and words and deeds and beliefs. There are no pure thoughts, pure words, pure actions or pure concepts. There is the pure, or re-purified consciousness…that is all. If anything is be understood, it must be understood NOW since post-manifestation, there will be no possibility for the unmanifested consciousness to be aware of happiness or freedom or joy or anything. It’s now…or never.
Should Realization not happen NOW, then belief in the dualities that are taught to children will guarantee that their adult years will be plagued with the instability and volatility and fluctuations that are generated by the dualistic belief in “good vs. bad” and “reward vs. punishment”; by the things that persons “want vs. what they don’t want”;
by the desire to “gain or to be rewarded vs. the desire to avoid loss or punishment”; by periods of “up’s” as well as periods of “down’s”; by periods of behaving sanely as well as by periods of acting like an immature child; and by periods of happiness as well as periods of misery.
For the remainder of the manifestation to happen without such chaos and instability, abidance as the Absolute must happen. Meaning? Meaning all body and mind and personality identification must be discarded.
Meaning that the relative existence must happen from a platform that is devoid of any attributes. Meaning that the consciousness must be re-purified and restored to its original no-concept, non-dual state of Reality at the time of manifestation. The “path” awaits, and guideposts and pointers are available to illuminate the way. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
RELATED TO TODAY’S POSTING:[Some of you read earlier postings regarding a Cherokee Grandmother who provided a different model. Her native language had no words for “good,” for “bad,” for “separation,” for “judging,” for “different from,” or for “better than.” Try an experiment: for the next seven days, try avoiding the use of those words—or any other such words, spoken or thought—that are used to reinforce a false sense of separation and judgment and duality. If successful, you’ll sample a taste of Realization and AS IF living.]
Among those parents who prefer intimidation in order to control, the prospect of punishment “now” as well as the prospect of punishment “for eternity” becomes a tool for control. Billions on the planet believe in a literal heaven and hell rather than understanding the “Gehanna analogy” used by Jesus after the Advaita Teachings were introduced to him and after he gained a significant (but not complete) understanding of the I AM and the I AM THAT.
The effect of being programmed as a child to believe in the earliest dualities is a planet-wide population of adults who are controlled by events from their childhood as well as the early teachings in duality. There is an antidote (called “The Advaita Understanding”) that has, in some cases, been effective at reducing the impact of childhood programming and conditioning or, in fewer cases, of eliminating those effects completely.
In other cases, it has been seen to be effective at preventing the role of “The Child” from dominating adult-aged thoughts and words and deeds; at eliminating the belief in nonsensical and irrational and illogical ideas and concepts; and at eliminating the misery and chaos that result from accepting falsehoods as truth.
Simply put, the bane of the relative existence is the assumption of ego-states and the accompanying egotism. Belief in illusions and belief in the ego-driven upgrading of illusions are the root of all human misery and instability and suffering. The illusion “I am a man” becomes upgraded to “I am a great man.”
The illusion that “I am a wife” becomes upgraded by egotism to “I am the perfect wife and deserve nothing less than a perfect husband.” The illusion that “I am an employee” becomes upgraded to “I am the best employee ever,” making the shock all the greater when the employer disagrees and fires a person who is far less valuable and productive than his self-image imagines.
Seeking the childish “I am good” label, and adopting the “I am good and even great” label, become the driving forces in terms of what non-Realized adults think, say, and do.
How significant is childhood programming when combined with the effects of childhood experiences that are traumatizing? The third example in this series is a woman discussed in the book CASTING LIGHT ON THE DARK SIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS.
Her case is another in which childhood conditioning continues to drive a woman who just passed the chronological age of fifty-five. Like the male discussed in the second installment, this woman was abused as a child by a parent who was incapable of loving unconditionally...or at all. An emotionally-unavailable and intimidated mother stood by as the abuse occurred.
Today, also like the male discussed in the
She claimed that she “can get any man she wants” and that she “can make any man love her.” (Of course the earliest example to the contrary—of her never being able to make the first male in her life capable of loving her—has been ignored during her decades-long quest to control men to her “benefit” and to make them all love her.)
She admitted in discussions that she manipulates men, but “in a good way.” By punishing men who never abused her, while never addressing the truth about the one who did, her childhood experiences continue to dominate her adult-aged behavior. The result is a life made miserable by the effects of her conditioning (and many other lives made miserable by dealing with her…all relatively speaking).
Even after several discussions, she never saw the relative toll being exacted: a life-long series of broken relationships, of sick relations, of divorce, of adultery, of depriving her child of her family, and of being miserable while claiming she is “very happy.”
It has been asked, “Why should any relative issues be discussed at all? Why waste the breath talking about illusions?” As far as the Advaita teachings are concerned, eliminating the relative consequences of the bastardized consciousness (and eliminating the subsequent human suffering during the manifestation) provides the sole rationale for attaining the understanding.
The pointer is not to develop pure thoughts and words and deeds and beliefs. There are no pure thoughts, pure words, pure actions or pure concepts. There is the pure, or re-purified consciousness…that is all. If anything is be understood, it must be understood NOW since post-manifestation, there will be no possibility for the unmanifested consciousness to be aware of happiness or freedom or joy or anything. It’s now…or never.
Should Realization not happen NOW, then belief in the dualities that are taught to children will guarantee that their adult years will be plagued with the instability and volatility and fluctuations that are generated by the dualistic belief in “good vs. bad” and “reward vs. punishment”; by the things that persons “want vs. what they don’t want”;
by the desire to “gain or to be rewarded vs. the desire to avoid loss or punishment”; by periods of “up’s” as well as periods of “down’s”; by periods of behaving sanely as well as by periods of acting like an immature child; and by periods of happiness as well as periods of misery.
For the remainder of the manifestation to happen without such chaos and instability, abidance as the Absolute must happen. Meaning? Meaning all body and mind and personality identification must be discarded.
Meaning that the relative existence must happen from a platform that is devoid of any attributes. Meaning that the consciousness must be re-purified and restored to its original no-concept, non-dual state of Reality at the time of manifestation. The “path” awaits, and guideposts and pointers are available to illuminate the way. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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