TODAY'S CONSIDERATIONS
Specific "reasons" cause persons
• to be obsessive and compulsive
• and render them unable to relax
• and lead them to be driven to go and do and zoom (whether that involves religion; spirituality; employment; "personal relationships"; politicking; reforming; rescuing; seeking love; seeking mass approval and applause and admiration; trying to escape responsibilities; accumulating; finding caretakers; or controlling).
• We are looking at what causes "the reasons" to manifest
• and what must happen in order to be freed from their influence.
We are looking at what causes "the reasons" to manifest
and what must happen in order to be freed from their influence.
So, to continue:
Persons obsess, act compulsively, are unable to relax, are fanatical, are driven by subconscious motives, and do whatever authority figures tell them to do - unquestioningly - because of reason #44: some humans are pre-wired (via the agendas of the nine basic personality types) to be dependent and co-dependent and to have a sense of entitlement which convinces them that they deserve to be taken care of by someone else. The arrogant can reach that conclusion on their own; in other instances, some are programmed to think that way. For whatever reason, the majority of the people on the planet are suffering from the effects of the Dependent Personality Disorder and / or the Co-Dependent Personality Disorder.
The causes of reason #44?
PERSONALITY ASSUMPTION and CONDITIONING and ACCULTURATION
The 97% of the people on the planet who claim to be affiliated with one religion or another - and the millions more who claim to be spiritual and who are coming up with a concept of god on their own - are dependent . . . dependent on gods and goddesses or a god to take care of them, to advise them, to protect them from what they fear, and to make sure they get what they desire and who they desire.
They are also co-dependent with the god they believe in because they also believe they can please him and get a reward or can disappoint him and get punishment. And the rewards and punishments - they think - can come now and later and forevermore.
So consider: there are those who think that their god is an all-powerful god, except they have the power to make him glad or sad. They believe they have the ability to determine the mood of their Power. How can one that is supposedly all-powerful be unstable enough to suffer fluctuating moods and emotional intoxication and mental instability?
Talk about anthropomorphism. Talk about psychologically projecting one's human traits onto a supposedly "All-Powerful Being." Persons consider what their god looks like and assign their own human-style physical traits to that god. Then they go a step further and assign their own personality traits and personality disorders and neuroses and psychoses to that god.
Do you think that any dog in England has ever looked at his master and thought he was seeing this?
No. The answer is a resounding "No."
So how can humans, with a much larger brain than a dog's, misperceive in as radically-erroneous a manner as humans misperceive, coming up with their own conception of god and thinking that god looks like them and thinks like them and emotes like them and is so co-dependent with them that they have the ability to make that supposedly "All-Powerful Being" either happy or sad, pleased or angry, feeling good or feeling like . . . hell.
How can that be? In this case, because of personality assumption and conditioning and acculturation.
Expose a daughter to believe in such anthropomorphic nonsense which generates a personality driven by dependency and co-dependency and she may well grow up to believe that "a man is a plan. God has been taking care of me. Now I need to find a man to meet all of my earthly desires and needs."
Teach a son to believe in such anthropomorphic nonsense which generates a personality driven by dependency and co-dependency and entitlement and immaturity and he may well grow up to believe that he needs a strong, mothering, controlling woman to guide his life and meet his needs and tell him what not to do and what to do and when to do it and how to do it. He will never form an Adult-to-Adult relationship. He will always be trapped in Parent-Child relationships in which he will always be treated as a child.
It matters not if it is a male who is selling out and playing the dependent role of "A Lifestyle Whore" or whether a woman is playing that role. The fact is that at some point, if they awaken to even the slightest degree, they will come to see that "there really is no free lunch" and that they have paid dearly to have a domineering caretaker and controlling bill payer who treats them as if they are chattel. Yet many will settle and keep riding that pony to the end.
Maharaj said: "Dependence on anything for happiness is utter misery."
And when persons end up giving control of their lives to some dreamed up, unstable, emotionally-intoxicated, unpredictable god and turn over their lives to that god's will and care, and when that god seems to be available at times but seems to be totally unavailable at other times, then their misery quotient can be as high as when they have turned their lives over to the will and care of some human who will prove to be as equally unstable, emotionally-intoxicated, and unpredictable.
The point: snagging "A Caretaker," whether the caretaker is of this relative realm or is a "Caretaker" dreamed up and supposedly living in another realm, the joys of being subservient in order to get what you think you want or need can be highly exaggerated in one's mind, and it is in the mind only where all such caretakers / Caretakers abide.
It's all a dream, and the dream of being able to depend on a reliable caretaker (or Caretaker) can often become a nightmare.
The freedom discussed here, like the freedom once discussed in a loft in Bombay, can only manifest if all dependency and co-dependency come to an end and true independence manifests.
Such dependent and co-dependent types will never leave their endless paths and will never give up their endless journeys.
Maharaj said that the state which should be sought is a state that is "entirely uncaused, independent, complete in itself, beyond time and space, mind and matter"
and
"My state is my own, totally uncaused, independent, unassailable"
and
"What is tainted, mixed up, dependent and transient is unreal."
He said: "This is the end of Yoga — to realize independence."
And he said: "Whatever depends, is not real. The real is truly independent."
Maybe there's a hidden message for the types being discussed in this post. Maybe it's no mistake that something that gets dumped on regularly and is then discarded is called "Depends."
To be continued.
Please enter into the silence of contemplation.
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