How Personality Disorders Drive Religious, Spiritual And "SELF"-Focused Workaholism

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How Personality Disorders Drive Religious, Spiritual And "SELF"-Focused Workaholism 

Today, the invitation is offered for you to consider the major role that personality disorders play in driving not only employment-type workaholism but also the role that personality disorders play in humankind’s religious, spiritual and Self-focused workaholism as well as the role that those disorders play in perpetuating the propensity among religious, spiritual and Self-focused workaholics to be just as trapped into going and doing and zooming as the run-of-the-mill-type workaholics. 

Consider the results of a 2010 study by Timothy A. Pychvi, Ph.D. of what he called “The Terrible Trio of Perfectionism, Narcissism and Workaholism.” He cited his findings and those from another study which also explored the personality of workaholics.

First, be not mistaken: workaholism, whether of the employment-related variety or of the religion / spiritual / Self-focused variety, are rooted in personality. That is the irony of the “work” done by so many whose workaholism is rooted in what was originally Far Eastern philosophies or religions: 

While many claim that they are being freed from personality identification, they nevertheless development the most fixed and rigid personal identifications imaginable. Moreover, while those so deeply attached to their religion or spiritual program or Self-Inquiry methods claim their attachments help them remain humble and at peace, the fact is that those personal (or “Personal”) identities generate narcissism (just as all personas do) and generate restlessness and going and doing and zooming as well. 

Remember: when an ego-state (or Ego-State) is assigned or adopted as an identity, it will trigger the use of such ego-defense mechanisms as egotism; then, narcissism is guaranteed to result. 

Pychvi: “Of interest is the relation of narcissism and workaholism. That grandiose sense of self-importance that seems to be present in epidemic proportions in our society is related to the worst aspects of workaholism, and so was perfectionism” (which is, of course, the narcissism’s twin sibling). Pychvi continued: “These results reveal something interesting about the ‘self’." 

He noted: “Workaholics are people who work to the exclusion of other life activities, are consumed with thoughts and feelings about work, and often do more than is expected at work. Certainly, their lives are not models of ‘balance’.” Thus, the logical conclusion from the research which confirmed the pervasiveness of a lack of balance among those types is that workaholics, perfectionists, and narcissists are . . . unbalanced. 

Pychvi observes that "in many cultures" (especially in those which are exhibiting more than ever the same traits they have in common with the U.S. culture) "persons commonly exhibit a grandiose sense of their own self-importance that is central to the definition of narcissism.” 

Recall Wallace’s point: “The trouble with you is that you have no sense of unimportance” 

and Maharaj’s pointer: “Humility and silence are essential.” 

The studies cited revealed that there were several traits which showed up regularly in workaholics of any variety: 

One, excessive neuroticism (emotional instability); 

Two: excessive openness to the multi-tasking (going, doing, zooming) component of workaholism; 

Three: the Perfectionistic Personality Disorder; 

Four: the Narcissistic Personality Disorder; 

Five: excessive conscientiousness, as linked to the impatience component of workaholism (as in, “I seem to always be in a hurry and I feel as if I'm always racing against the clock”); 

Six: excessive agreeableness - that is, being agreeable to the point of doing everything that one is told to do by a Master or Religious Leader or Spiritual Guide, etc.; their agreeableness is of the kind that generates a willingness - which eventually disintegrates into a full-blown compulsion - to work (as in, "It's hard for me to relax when I'm not working"). 

That is another irony witnessed here during the years of working off and on with non-dual seekers since July of 1989, totaling twenty-six years last month. In those twenty-six years, it has been witnessed that, ironically, seekers 

work 

at 

trying to relax 

and they 

work and go and do and zoom 

in order 

to unwind, calm down, slow down, let go, loosen up, lighten up, and settle down. 

What irony indeed! They engage in endless work on order to . . .  not work all the time. (And what insanity indeed, too, yes?)

[Been there. Done that. And though many think that is still the case here, not knowing that on days when a non-dual post is published, that is the last moment during the day when anything non-dual is considered. No longer present are those earlier fascinations with dogma and spiritual exercises and Inquiry and the love of Self. That all disappeared, just as it did with Maharaj: 

Maharaj: “I got involved in spirituality, in the business of spirituality; finally, I lost that love of Self also. I have no more love for the Self." 

That is all gone, and it all had to go before the last ego-state and the last identity (and The Last "Identity") could go.] 

Dr. Pychvi continued: “The high-standards dimension of perfectionism (high expectations of self) was also related to overall workaholism.” Additionally, he could have added what has been observed here, namely, that workaholics - be they of the employment variety or of the religious / spiritual / Self-focused variety - have high expectations of all others and expect all others to be perfect (meaning, “Be just like me in thoughts and words and deeds"). 

What such workaholics of any of those varieties cannot see is that, in terms of their psyches, they differ not at all from the ISIS fanatics who proudly record and distribute the films of them beheading those who are not of the same religion or sect as them and who do not work with near as much dedication at being Super Religious. What?! How?! 

Excess is excess. Fanaticism is fanaticism. Zeal is zeal. Fervor is fervor. Extremism is extremism. It matters not if excess, fanaticism, zeal, fervor and extremism are fostered in a church; in a synagogue; in a temple; in a mosque; in a self-help group; in a recovery group; in a family of origin; at an ashram;

or at the so-called “holy sites” which many seekers spend fortunes to visit as their "spiritual journey" includes traveling all around the globe to supposedly "special places" where they can "feel special" (that is, "feel emotionally-intoxicated" - an emotional state they seek as a result of their subconscious effort to try to counteract the state of boredom they are trapped in and the state of depression they are trapped in, both of which they will deny). 

It’s still all about, ironically, going and doing and zooming in order to stop going and stop doing and stop zooming some day. Or it's about going and doing and zooming in order to be able to assume and maintain the roles of “The Super Go-er” and “The Super Do-er” and “The Super Zoomer” and “The Super Religious One” or “The Spiritual Giant” or “The Supreme Self” or even . . . "God." 

As far as the relative goes (which is all anyone will ever have a chance to experience and be aware of, the post-manifestation case being that there is no “one” who can experience or know anything) Dr. Pychvi concluded the following: 

“My point is, neither perfectionism nor workaholism has a positive side. Although it can be argued that perfectionism and / or workaholism result in improved performance in some organizational circumstances, both result in diminished relationships outside of work and undermine well-being overall. Each is harmful to us.”

(Again, this is relatively speaking, which is really the only thing worth speaking about because the post-manifestation condition will be characterized by the conscious-energy returning to its pre-manifestation awareness state when awareness was not aware of anything, that only being possible during the manifestation of consciousness.) 

Pychvi said: “What we can see in this study are the relations between perfectionism, narcissism and workaholism because they are all related to another underlying variable - a weak sense of self that is plagued with many irrational thoughts (e.g., 'I must be perfect to have worth' or 'I must work to have worth,' etc.) and related to an overcompensation for this low esteem with a paradoxical narcissism (because individuals protect their weak sense of self with an overcompensation that portrays the self in a grandiose fashion).” 

[As in the dichotomy of one who is being driven simultaneously by both egomania and an inferiority complex, a combination resulting in massive levels of mental and emotional instability which are no fun at all to be around.] 

Again, when personality is at play (along with the personality disorders which always develop if the affliction of personality is not addressed) then what will also manifest is excess, fanaticism, zeal, fervor and extremism. 

And none of those can possibly contribute to the peace and freedom and happiness which even a partly-sane seeker is seeking; instead, they will block any and all efforts to find peace and freedom and happiness. 

To those who come this way and who are not only attached to one or another of the varieties of workaholism but who also want to guard and maintain and protect that attachment at all costs, the response is: “Then rock on.”

Just as is the case with all other types of addicts, most humans seemingly have to experience - in great excess - whatever it is that they are addicted to until they finally end up tired enough - or in enough pain and misery and suffering - that they might consider seeking the source of their tiredness or of their pain and misery and suffering. 

[Yet that is rare and is another fact which led Maharaj to conclude that most will never "get" this deal and why most will, therefore, never be free of ignorance and why most will never be restored to sanity and why most will be blocked from ever stopping all of their doingness long enough to "sit down and relax in the cool blue shade."] 

Such is the typical state of affairs among humans whereby peace and freedom and happiness are valued far less than personality disorders such as workaholism and narcissism and perfectionism and wherein the accompanying excess, fanaticism, zeal, fervor and extremism which manifest alongside those disorders are normalized and highly rated and even ennobled.

To be continued.

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Here, with those who are still driven to talk about "god," the "Son of god," the "Holy Spirit," "Buddha," "Krishna," etc., etc., etc., the invitation to them is to view those as verbs, not nouns.

THE EXPLANATION

If looked at as nouns, they point to illusions and are, therefore, a total waste of time to even discuss; if looked at as verbs which are resulting in certain sane but rare behaviors among humanity, then they are worthy of some attention during the relative existence.

Meaning? There are members of certain groups who say things such as "My concept of god in the past was of a weak god, an absentee god, A Santa Claus-type god, a mean, punishing, vindictive god, etc. Today, I am in close contact with a loving and caring god whom I worship and praise and glorify and give thanks to."

The reply to that usually goes like this: "If you are in contact with a god that wants to be worshipped and praised and glorified, then you're dealing with someone like yourself - a narcissist - and hanging out with narcissists will never bring an end to your narcissism (that narcissism evidenced by the fact that you think you are "godly").

Next, in the phrase 'loving and caring god,' any supposed god that truly had her or his act together would tell you that the totally irrelevant part of that phrase is 'god' and that the only part that is relevant is the "loving and caring" part.

"That is, a non-narcissistic their god / their goddess would say, "I care not an iota about being worshipped and praised and glorified by you or anyone else. How arrogant and insecure and needy would I have to be to want that? Forget the man-made, dreamed up noun 'god' and focus on the 'god as a verb' understanding and then go forth and let loving and caring be verbs - not adjectives - and let them generate the act of love and the act of caring and let those actions manifest through you." 

Yeshu'a (Jesus) and Pope John Paul II and Pope Francis were spot on:

"No one shall ever see 'the kingdom of heaven.' It is within"

--Yeshu'a (Jesus)

and 

"Heaven and earth shall fade away."

--Yeshu'a (Jesus)

and 

"Heaven and hell are not geographic places

but are states of mind, nothing more than

concepts dreamed up by men."

--Pope John Paul II 

"There is no hell."

--Pope Francis, the current pope

in an interview with journalist Eugenio Scalfari,

a writer used by the Pope to issue off the record

teachings which become a part of the Papal Magisterium. 

[That said, would that the popes who have shown the courage to reject a core concept of their dogma - namely, "hell" - would find the additional courage required to question the very existence of their institution in light of the centuries-long cover-up of their history of raping children and in light of the mental and emotional and psychological scarring of billions of their members past and present.

And that need for courage also applies as questions need to be asked about why so many other sky cults are still being supported and allowed to continue to exist as well. When certain types of programming and conditioning have been shown to blind the masses, they should end. Will they? Not likely. Why?

Because what the masses think and say and do is most influenced by the international crime families which hold sway over the masses as criminals conduct their planet-wide operations. What are the major international crime families and which are the most influential and have the largest memberships?

The Mafia / La Cosa Nostra; the Catholic Church (with it 1.2 billion followers) whose Vatican Bank worked for decades with the Mafia while laundering mob earnings (for a 15% all-profit charge by the Bank); Protestant and Evangelical Churches (with over 1.2 billion followers) like the one I was raised in where the youth director molested and sexually assaulted young girls; big business which has long created environments in which people have been abused; powerful political bodies like the U.S. Congress, etc., etc., etc.)

With all of those crime families, neither the followers nor the leadership ever voluntarily step down or shut down their criminal activities. Be they gangs, organized crime families, religions, big business, politicians, etc., they all want control and they all want power and they all want money, and nothing internal will interfere with the driving forces at play.

The masses must demand that all those in charge must step down and their groups and institutions must shut down, and there's the real problem because the continuation of their crimes are enabled not as much by the people running such crime organizations as they are enabled by the masses of people who - wanting some perceived "payoff" - remain involved with them and give them money and support them and aid and abet the continued existence of those criminal enterprises and thus facilitate the ability of church criminals and political criminals and other types of criminals to continue to commit their crimes.]

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