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THE DARK TRIAD

The three personality disorders identified in "The Dark Triad" are but a few of the scores of personality disorders which manifest when personality identifications are taken to be actual identities and form their own hidden agendas and generate neuroses and psychoses and then subconsciously drive humans' thoughts and words and actions.

Personality is the bane of humanity, even forming for the most perverted of understandable reasons:

personality is a child’s defense against the nonsense and ignorance and insanity in its home, providing the child with a perverted coping strategy to be used to try to get love from those incapable of offering true love; or to gain peace and a sense of security in an environment which is racked by instability and chaos and a sense of danger; and always to try to be bring some semblance of order to a confusing life and an insane surrounding which is dominated by senselessness. 

From its earliest inception, personality drives a child’s thoughts and words and actions as the child tries to maneuver through a setting in which key elements of the Ultimate Sickness (including ignorance and insanity) prevail. 

The real curse: personality will then control every aspect of the child’s life then as well as throughout adulthood. And when the hidden agendas of assumed and assigned personalities determine every thought and word and action, then persons will believe that they are making choices when they are not; thus, personality robs persons of the ability to make wise and conscious choices, based in awareness and in an ability to differentiate true from false. 

Personality prevents that ability. Personality assignment and assumption are at the core of ignorance, driving persons to believe that they are something which they are not; driving them to have no clue about what they really are; and leading them to turn over control of every thought and word and action to the subconscious agenda of a false identity. Amazing, really, it that not?! Truly ignorant, is that not?! Truly sad, too, it is not? 

Yet personality does not reveal itself; instead, ego-states operate unconsciously and subconsciously from within the dark shadows of the human mind after it has been warped via ignorant and insane programming, conditioning, domestication, acculturation, indoctrination, and brainwashing.

Moreover, personality does not explain itself. If you do not find out here or somewhere else how significant a role personality identifications play as they control persons’ every action, then you will never understand why you do the things you do and why others do what they do. 

For example, if you have a Borderline Personality, then you will forever be trapped in emotional instability, loving a partner one minute and hating that partner the next; or, if instead, you have a partner with the Borderline Personality Disorder, you will never understand the partner's inconsistencies and contradictions which inspire mates and children and co-workers to walk on eggshells when around them because one never knows if one will be dealing with Mr. Hug or Mr. Slug, with Ms. Hug or Ms. Slug. With Borderlines, you will never be able to predict "who" will "show up."

And if you do not understand the way that persons with any or all of “The Dark Triad” disorders operate, then you may be pulled into their web by their charm or manipulative skills and then eventually suffer unimaginable consequences. 

Many personas will inspires individuals to try to “fix” a mate, but some mates are beyond fixing. To believe that you can change a mate for the better is just another of the many dreams which make up the nightmares that are so prevalent among those living in the nightmarish Dream of the Planet (in which the “non-realized” live every day). 

Therefore, since Maharaj said that “the proper role of a Guru is to dispel ignorance in the hearts and minds of his disciples,” it is incumbent upon one sharing non-dual pointers to offer seekers an ability to spot some of the most widespread personality disorders to be able to understand if those disorders are at play within their own minds; 

and / or to make them aware enough to spot the disorders in others; and to avoid those with the most serious disorders which (to use the words of Russ Hudson, the co-founder of the Enneagram Institute), set the stage for those with the most serious disorders to create “difficulty for people in their lives.” 

Years ago I spent time in The Netherlands with Russ and found that - even when discussing the worst side of any personality type – he can present the relevant facts in a way which might be palatable even to those whose own worst traits are being discussed.

He did that during a videotaped discussion of  the Type Eight, the type most likely to display the “boss-type” or “control-type” or (if psychically-unhealthy) the sociopathic or psychopathic personality traits. Here in very general terms is a short overview of the Type Eight as described by Russ:

See how his word choice might make a Type Eight Boss / Controller / Sociopath more open to hearing his words describing them? “Strong,” “powerful,” want to “live powerfully,” “strong opinions,” and “like things big.” Right up their alley! Maybe a bit less palatable would be the pointers that they have difficulty “being touched” inside (that is, feeling and having empathy) and “trusting";

that they exhibit a “hardness”; that their motives "cause them to suffer” (without their even being aware of that since they are as incapable of touching their own feelings as they are incapable of understanding how others feel); and that they create “difficulty for people in their lives.” 

In fact, the typical sociopathic, domineering spouse, or rude boss (or the typical sociopath in one of the jobs which attract them, such as administrators, demagogue-style politicians, conniving entrepreneurs, arrogant business executives, crooked lawyers, control-freak military officers, professional sport figures, professional fighters, etc.) will find pleasure in domination. They are often most happy when someone they are dealing with is stuttering and terrified. 

If a sociopath who is abusing someone verbally or otherwise sees that the target of his or her abuse is quaking or trembling or shaking or quivering or shuddering in fright, then that display of fear will trigger in the sociopath a response that is similar to an erotic or carnal reaction, so exhilarating is the sense of pleasure and stimulation which they attain from domination. 

See, there is no lightness for those with “The Dark Triad” disorders, and there is no lightness for those dealing with persons who have one or more of “The Dark Triad” disorders. 

Again, the fact is that those with “The Dark Triad” personality disorders are far more common than most imagine. Persons are sleeping next to narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths without even knowing it; persons are working for narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths without even knowing it; 

persons are admiring and idolizing narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths without even knowing it; persons are turning their lives over to narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths for guidance without even knowing it; persons are turning their lives over to narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths for “spiritual guidance” without even knowing it. 

And while arrogance is shared in common by narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths, people with psychological disorders may display variations in their affect, that is, in their observable emotions and appearance. 

From the “Encyclopedia of Mental Disorders”; "A restricted or constricted affect describes a mild restriction in the range or intensity of display of feelings. As the reduction in display of emotion becomes more severe, the term blunted affect may be applied.

The absence of any exhibition of emotions is described as flat affect where the voice is monotone, the face expressionless, and the body immobile. Labile affect describes emotional instability or dramatic mood swings. When the outward display of emotion is out of context for the situation, such as laughter while describing pain or sadness, the affect is termed 'inappropriate'." 

The only difference in those with any of the three disorders is the degree to which their malevolence has manifested; the degree to which their conscience is not functioning; the level of indifference to consequence and to the feelings of others;

the degree to which there are no limits to what they are willing to say and no limits to what they are willing to do; the degree to which normal limiting boundaries which restrain normal people are not functioning in them; and the degree to which their unscrupulousness has developed. 

To understand “the Dark Triad” disorder, and to be able to spot other personality types which can have a major impact on your relative existence just might help you realize how futile it is to tolerate abuse or chaos or nonsense or insanity while hoping that your mate will change someday, or that a controlling and interfering parent who still treats you like a child might change, or that your boss will someday in the future stop abusing you and provide a healthy work environment. 

Next: Christelyn D. Karazin’s “Six Signs Your Boss Might Be a Sociopath”

To be continued.

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Here, with those who are still driven to talk about "god," the "Son of god," the "Holy Spirit," "Buddha," "Krishna," etc., etc., etc., the invitation to them is to view those as verbs, not nouns.

THE EXPLANATION

If looked at as nouns, they point to illusions and are, therefore, a total waste of time to even discuss; if looked at as verbs which are resulting in certain sane but rare behaviors among humanity, then they are worthy of some attention during the relative existence.

Meaning? There are members of certain groups who say things such as "My concept of god in the past was of a weak god, an absentee god, A Santa Claus-type god, a mean, punishing, vindictive god, etc. Today, I am in close contact with a loving and caring god whom I worship and praise and glorify and give thanks to."

The reply to that usually goes like this: "If you are in contact with a god that wants to be worshipped and praised and glorified, then you're dealing with someone like yourself - a narcissist - and hanging out with narcissists will never bring an end to your narcissism (that narcissism evidenced by the fact that you think you are "godly").

Next, in the phrase 'loving and caring god,' any supposed god that truly had her or his act together would tell you that the totally irrelevant part of that phrase is 'god' and that the only part that is relevant is the "loving and caring" part.

"That is, a non-narcissistic their god / their goddess would say, "I care not an iota about being worshipped and praised and glorified by you or anyone else. How arrogant and insecure and needy would I have to be to want that? Forget the man-made, dreamed up noun 'god' and focus on the 'god as a verb' understanding and then go forth and let loving and caring be verbs - not adjectives - and let them generate the act of love and the act of caring and let those actions manifest through you." 

Yeshu'a (Jesus) and Pope John Paul II and Pope Francis were spot on:

"No one shall ever see 'the kingdom of heaven.' It is within"

--Yeshu'a (Jesus)

and 

"Heaven and earth shall fade away."

--Yeshu'a (Jesus)

and 

"Heaven and hell are not geographic places

but are states of mind, nothing more than

concepts dreamed up by men."

--Pope John Paul II 

"There is no hell."

--Pope Francis, the current pope

in an interview with journalist Eugenio Scalfari,

a writer used by the Pope to issue off the record

teachings which become a part of the Papal Magisterium. 

[That said, would that the popes who have shown the courage to reject a core concept of their dogma - namely, "hell" - would find the additional courage required to question the very existence of their institution in light of the centuries-long cover-up of their history of raping children and in light of the mental and emotional and psychological scarring of billions of their members past and present.

And that need for courage also applies as questions need to be asked about why so many other sky cults are still being supported and allowed to continue to exist as well. When certain types of programming and conditioning have been shown to blind the masses, they should end. Will they? Not likely. Why?

Because what the masses think and say and do is most influenced by the international crime families which hold sway over the masses as criminals conduct their planet-wide operations. What are the major international crime families and which are the most influential and have the largest memberships?

The Mafia / La Cosa Nostra; the Catholic Church (with it 1.2 billion followers) whose Vatican Bank worked for decades with the Mafia while laundering mob earnings (for a 15% all-profit charge by the Bank); Protestant and Evangelical Churches (with over 1.2 billion followers) like the one I was raised in where the youth director molested and sexually assaulted young girls; big business which has long created environments in which people have been abused; powerful political bodies like the U.S. Congress, etc., etc., etc.)

With all of those crime families, neither the followers nor the leadership ever voluntarily step down or shut down their criminal activities. Be they gangs, organized crime families, religions, big business, politicians, etc., they all want control and they all want power and they all want money, and nothing internal will interfere with the driving forces at play.

The masses must demand that all those in charge must step down and their groups and institutions must shut down, and there's the real problem because the continuation of their crimes are enabled not as much by the people running such crime organizations as they are enabled by the masses of people who - wanting some perceived "payoff" - remain involved with them and give them money and support them and aid and abet the continued existence of those criminal enterprises and thus facilitate the ability of church criminals and political criminals and other types of criminals to continue to commit their crimes.]

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