FROM A SITE VISITOR: Do you think that the realized should be able to tolerate any kind of environment or any kind of people? It sounds like you are saying that. I’ve been reading your writings for several months and lately, there are people I spent a lot of time with before but now I’m not spending time with them at all. I’m not realized, but even if I were, I feel certain that there are some people I just wouldn’t want to be around. Art
F.: Site visitor Ginny wrote to share her take so far on this topic: “Well, this is what it's all about. A draw toward...that usually ends up in a practical way not to aloneness but to All-one.” That is also as near an accurate pointer toward “love” as can be stated. But yesterday, a pointer was offered in regards to how many erroneously use the word “love” to justify their ego-state-generated actions. This pointer was offered:
Their attachments and agendas result in forms of bondage that can generate a “tolerance” for pain if the source has an air of familiarity; can generate acceptance of misery if in denial; and can generate a tendency to distort a desire to gain power or a desire to have someone meet their financial or sexual needs into what they term “love.”
(PLS. NOTE: Once again, if the movement away from anyone is inspired by arrogance, judging, or ego-based righteous indignation that leads to such beliefs as “you’re not good enough for me,” then that movement has nothing to do with the movement among the Realized toward peace, quiet, and an ego-less existence. It has everything to do with egoism.)
Recall that the non-Realized are driven along the thought-word-deed continuum to think unceasingly during the waking hours, to talk unceasingly, and to go and do and zoom through each day. By contrast, the Realized are (a) freed of the “mind” that generates thoughts, (b) practice an economy of words if they must speak, and (c) understand that there is no do-er.
Among the Realized, living happens in a natural fashion, not unlike the example set by the frequently-referenced deer that lives spontaneously—eating plant food, arranging for shelter of a minimalist character, engaging in sex for pleasure and breeding, and developing no “attachments or agendas that result in forms of bondage” of the mental or emotional type. The non-Realized live in an opposite fashion and thus suffer from a sense of bondage (whether they recognize their bondage or deny their bondage).
Consider three examples (including Case "A" today) which were revealed in sessions conducted during the last two months and that show how thoughts generated by the distorted consciousness result in distorted thoughts expressed via words and that drive deeds / actions that are distorted and unnatural as well:
Case “A”
Regarding, a tolerance for pain if the source has an air of familiarity.
The non-Realized are much like the child mentioned in an earlier post in August 2007:
Such is the way it is among persons who normalize the insane-like behaviors of their parents: they will also believe in a parent-based god and then normalize in their “minds” the insane-like behavior of that god which is an (imaginary) extension of their parents. Thus, relationships with parents and “relationships with god” are never as perceived but are typically driven by irrational beliefs and absurd concepts that result in a series of abnormal psychological responses. That is why it required the strength of three social workers to pry a child away from the mother that had used cigarettes to burn the child over the entire length of its body.
That child’s attachment led it to cling to its abuser, to that familiar source of pain, rather than to leave and escape the pain. The Stockholm Syndrome has been discussed earlier as well, and many persons function under the auspices of that disorder, thinking that they “love” their abuser.
Why? Childhood abuse can give adult-aged abuse that flavor of being “familiar.” Too, the “repetition compulsion” drives persons to repeat the same “familiar” scenarios over and over, no matter how unnatural or painful those scenarios might have been…and might now be.
“Case A” reveals the thinking of a woman who describes her misery as being “comfortable,” who uses words to describe her miserable existence as being "comfortable," and who is then driven to act as if she is comfortable. She is a woman whose alcoholic husband (like her alcoholic father) is out seven nights a week, comes home and passes out, and offers nothing more than economic support. She does not see their separate bedrooms as a metaphor for their “marriage.”
She admitted that there have been times when she wanted him to die, yet she claims that she “likes it that she can spend her days shopping,” that she “likes the fact that she has available all the money a woman could want or need,” and that she “loves the fact that she doesn’t have to get a job and work.”
When she was asked if she realized that she was trapped in the bondage of her laziness and her sense of entitlement and that her relative existence was a series of one shallow and miserable happening after another, she bristled at the question and claimed that she was “very comfortable” with her lifestyle and resented the suggestion that she doesn’t love her husband (the one she wanted to die).
Are you understanding the pointer, Art, that the non-Realized do not move toward peace and quiet and a natural, minimalist existence if they have “attachments and agendas”? Are you seeing that those attachments and agendas can “result in forms of bondage that can generate a ‘tolerance’ for pain if the source has an air of familiarity”?
Are you seeing the insanity and misery that is generated by attachment to “relative people and places and things"? Are you seeing the bondage that results from ignorance of the Noumenon? Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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