FROM A SITE VISITOR: Do you think that the realized should be able to tolerate any kind of environment or any kind of people? It sounds like you are saying that. I’ve been reading your writings for several months and lately, there are people I spent a lot of time with before but now I’m not spending time with them at all. I’m not realized, but even if I were, I feel certain that there are some people I just wouldn’t want to be around. Art
F.: Is it becoming clear that the non-Realized are never consistently happy (even if they “stay”) and are never consistently happy (even if they “go”)? Is it becoming clear that many “go” because of ego and that many “stay” because of desires and fears and hidden agendas?
Is it being seen that non-Realized persons who “go” do so as a result of having thought and judged and criticized and felt “apart from” or”separate from”? Is it clear that any movement that happens among the Realized is a spontaneous movement toward something…be that freedom, independence, peace, quiet, or silence?
Is it understood why it is often in review that it becomes clear why spontaneous and automatic shifts occurred? Is it understood why, among some of the Realized, that it is only in “looking back” that the extent of how much was cast aside or left behind becomes clear?
Why is that? First, because all happenings were happening automatically in the earliest stages of the awakening process, not as a result of any “thought-out” motives. And secondly, because in the early days of awakening, some move along as does a leaf floating atop the currents of a stream, being moved along rather than struggling to determine its own course.
There is no longer any struggle, there is no longer any effort to control, and there is no longer any effort to “change” or to “grow” or to “be more” or to “get more.” Though awakening, there is in all those early movements a dream-like quality of lightness…not unlike that experienced by a physical body awakening from a too-deep sleep.
Some seekers, in those early moments of the awakening process, laugh loudly at the hoax that was perpetuated upon them...a laugh not unlike that which comes from a wrongly-convicted man when he is released after years of being in prison but surprisingly cleared by new evidence. Though imprisoned for years when he should not have been, the happiness that accompanies the sensation of freedom far outweighs any resentment toward those who imprisoned him.
Others in the earliest stage of awakening, however, are as if in shock. It is not that the happenings in those early days happened without awareness…quite the opposite. Yet what is happening is that feelings are being registered whereas before only the emotional intoxication that is generated by ego-states was taking place.
Yet all those early-stage happenings are suddenly so very different from the functionings that took place as a result of the agendas of ego-states, functionings that happened without pure consciousness or with selfish calculation.
It is because of the nature of those early days of the awakening process, and because of the sudden disappearance of the ego’s ulterior motives and agendas, and because of the fact that all is suddenly happening spontaneously, that many must “look back” to understand exactly what was happening when the awakening process first began.
So the pointer is, if you are “moving away from” certain persons because you have judged them and think you are now “better than,” that movement is not happening spontaneously and is not involved at all with Realization. If the pure consciousness has gravitated either toward other specks of pure consciousness or toward the silence of the All-Oneness, then Realization is likely involved.
Furthermore, is it becoming clear that the concept called “relationships” is dualistic at the core (“this” is relating to “that”)? Is it becoming clear that if the One-ness is not understood, no “relationship” can be free of dualistic conflicts that are rooted in labeling self and others as good-bad, right-wrong, giver-user, loving-hating, etc.?
Tomorrow’s post will illustrate the third major pointer in this series. It will provide an example of a man who has distorted his desire to gain power and his desire to have someone meet his financial and sexual needs into what he terms “love." Because of his agendas (most of which are even hidden from him) he is “staying” even though he has been placed in the role of “The Child” and is claiming that he is “in love with” the woman playing “The Parent.”
[Consider that scenario of a grown man staying with a woman who is behaving like his parent/mother and treating him like a child and see that this “case study” exposes such complex psychological disorders—which are typical among the non-Realized—that the study could really be expanded into a dissertation for a doctorate.]
For now, though, the invitation is to consider this: in your case, are all happenings happening spontaneously…or with motive? Is your relative existence happening in an AS IF fashion…as if whatever is happening is real while differentiating quite clearly between true and false, between real and illusion?
Are you moving away from people because you have judged them and found them lacking, or did a spontaneous shift happen that automatically moved you toward the peace and quiet? Are you married to “The Meal-Ticket,” “The Rent-Payer,” and/or “The Sex-Provider,” or are you married to freedom? Are you in isolation...or in the solitude? Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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