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IS YOUR RELATIVE EXISTENCE HAPPENING AS IF YOU ARE DANCING LIGHTLY OR AS IF YOU ARE DOING A STIFF, BOOT-STOMPING, GESTAPO-STYLE MARCH?
THE MOST PREVALENT OBSTACLES WHICH BLOCK PERSONS FROM DANCING LIGHTLY THROUGHOUT THE RELATIVE EXISTENCE
“Nagging” in a relationship or marriage is defined as “constantly harassing someone to do something which involves the action of subjecting someone to aggressive pressure or intimidation.” Of course, many use manipulation to try to change the behavior of a partner.
Receiving
less attention than mate-to-mate nagging is parent-to-child nagging by
perfectionistic parents. As the lyrics to Alanis Morissette’s song Perfect showed on Monday, the nagging of children is more often
rooted in a parent’s issues than in the child’s.
Such nagging of children and parental demands that they be perfect can have long-lasting negative impacts, relatively speaking.
As noted yesterday, all acceptance of personality identifications will set the stage for the manifestation of personality disorders. Some of those have delayed effects on those around people with disorders and some have almost-immediate effects.
Two identified yesterday as having almost-immediate effects include the Perfectionistic Personality Disorder and the Borderline Personality Disorder. Both will block any chance of being able to dance lightly throughout the relative existence when dealing with people with either or both of those disorders.
The basic message of the perfectionist to partners and children is, “You’re not good enough”; the basic message to partners and children from those with the Borderline Personality Disorder is, “I love you . . . I hate you.”
Both will keep children and mates off balance and walking on eggshells, never knowing which person is going to “show up” - be it the hugger or the slugger; be it the one loving or the one shoving; or be it the one accepting or the one rejecting.
And such instability is quite contagious to a mate or to a child who is exposed to such insanity. After Yeshu’a (misidentified as “Jesus”) was exposed to the non-dual message, he reportedly said, “Dual-minded persons are unstable in all ways.”
And exposure to the mental illness of unstable partners or parents will guarantee that their mental illness will be pass down to all dealing with them, thus accounting for the near-global, universal spread of the Ultimate Sickness.
The lack of contentment of an infected partner or parent will be passed down from generation to generation unless one becomes aware and breaks the chain.
Since that is not likely, then it will fall upon the ones whom the super-sick infect to find healing and freedom from the warped beliefs which perfectionists and borderlines implant in the minds of those who are exposed to their personality disorders.
Eight years ago, this was shared and might be worth repeating now:
The belief among Perfectionists and Borderlines is that there is a perfect way to live and there are many flawed ways to live. Perfectionism is touted, and either by statement or implication or modeling, the notion that one is expected to be perfect is near-universal.
While some will claim that only their prophet was perfect, even those report in the next breath that all should strive to model their prophet in all ways; hence, a continuing sense of perfection.
PERSONALITY ASSIGNMENT AND
ASSUMPTION
With the introduction of the Personality Type One identification of “The
Perfectionist” or “The Perfect One,” and with billions claiming to be religious
and millions more claiming to be spiritual, the notion of perfectionism takes
hold, and shortly after a belief that one is perfect comes the determination to
change everyone to be like the perfect one.
Reforming everyone or even the world becomes a monomania. Maharaj: “One who has realized the truth is not required to do anything special ‘for the benefit of the world’.”
In every human, to one degree or another, the traits of the psychically-unhealthy Type One Perfectionist will manifest to one degree or another.
PERSONALITY ASSUMPTION AND PERSONALITY DISORDERS
Being driven by perfectionism leads to the ennobling of precision, exactness, and fastidiousness as well as to the adoption of the traits of rigidity, being judgmental, critical, punishing, inflexible, overly-serious, jealous, controlling, and angry.
Another shared personality disorder associated with Perfectionists and Borderlines is the Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. Being OCD about anything will leave a person being one-dimensional.
Spouses have been heard here for decades as they have spoken of the misery of living with a mate who became obsessed along the way with religion or spirituality or with trying to reform the world or with one “recovery program” or another or with one or more of the hundreds of things persons become addicted to and singularly-focused upon, be it work, porn, shopping, alcohol, drugs, Eastern philosophy, non-duality, or - among the bored -even addiction to chaos.
As for belief systems, whatever beliefs were the first ones taught via programming and conditioning and domestication and acculturation and brainwashing and indoctrination will usually be the most influential for an entire lifetime. There are no beliefs which are true.
Maharaj made clear that truth can be pointed to and can be known - that is, one can become capable of differentiating the true and the false after that ability was stripped away by programming, conditioning, etc. - but "this is what is true" can never be a truthful statement.
Thus, if one reads something or
hears something that challenges or contradicts the earliest beliefs which one
was taught, they are almost always going to reject that; yet, here, the case
was that freedom only came after reading and hearing pointers which did just
that . . . which contradicted the beliefs which were set in place in “floyd’s
mind.” Freedom only came after . . .
an initial reaction to reject the pointers; to reject one pointing to truth;
And a willing to least consider the points being read or heard; and after a
willingness eventually to set aside all beliefs which has been taught.
Only then could there come to an end the persona of “Floyd the One Who Had Been Fooled” and therefore an end as well to “Floyd the Complete Fool”; afterwards, what also came to an end was “Floyd the Highly-Obsessive, Highly Compulsive One.”
Maharaj warned seekers early on to guard against being obsessive. That can include being obsessive about one’s religion, spirituality, recovery, non-duality, pot, booze, other drugs, sports, TV shows, reforming, helping, entertaining, seeking love, seeking admiration, escaping, accumulating knowledge, finding the right man or woman, controlling, and anything and everything else which person obsess about.
THE FOOL / FOOLED / FOOLISH / “PERFECT” / OCD LINK
There is a direct connection between being fooled to believe this or that, to being fooled into believing that one knows more than all others, to believing that others should think and talk and behave as the fooled one behaves, to criticize others who do not do so, to contact non-dual guides and tell them where they are wrong and what they should change about their message, and to reform spouses and children and the world. The considerations for those foolish, arrogant, OCD-types are these:
“Might it be possible that what you are so sure about and what you are obsessing about and what is driving you throughout every day of your existence and what you just have to tell others about and what you are so worked up about and what you are so embroiled in and what you are so keyed up about and so wound up about and so uptight about, might it just be possible that the spouse or mate you are trying to change or the children you are trying to change or your neighbors that you are trying to change or those in another religion whom you want to change or the people you are obsessing about became they still have the same habits you used to have or anyone else that you are trying to change or alter or transform or convert or reform . . . might it just be possible that they do not give a rat’s ass about your opinions and views and ideas and beliefs?
Must you reject certain radical suggestions instantly without any consideration at all, such radical suggestions as . . .
“Why don’t you mind your own business?”
“Why don’t you take your own personal inventory rather than that of everyone else?”
“Why don’t you seek some means to become calm and quiet and relax and keep your beliefs to yourself if you cannot be free of them entirely?”
Now don‘t let some ego-state feel offended by those. They are just suggestions, just alternative possibilities, just submissions for your consideration, just some question to ask of yourself which likely seem way too far out to you at first glance but which might have the potential to bring more peace, if not to you then at least to those being exposed to you.
An example shared on occasion applies here as well: A wife described the experience that she and her children had after they, at first, rejoiced when their alcoholic husband / father entered “a spiritual program” to address his alcohol abuse.
She said that he soon assumed the role of "what you call a Spiritual Giant” after he became absorbed in a whole new level of obsessive behavior inspired by the group he joined.
She said it was not long thereafter that he self-upgraded to the role of “A Super Spiritual Giant.” She reported that, after witnessing and dealing with “an obsessive ass” for years and then witnessing and dealing with “the obsessive saint” for a little over a year - she and the children all agreed that “the obsessive saint” was even more intolerable and unbearable than was “the obsessive ass.”
He came on her advice to speak with me. After a brief talk, it was clear how much he had being driven by the Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder from childhood and was still being driven by the disorder to this day.
Certain considerations were offered, all of which were found by him to be quite offensive and even threatening. Within weeks, his wife left and filed for divorce. The children rejoiced.
That is what it can look like when one is driven by a sense of perfectionism and by the Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder and by the beliefs which were passed on and which set a person up to be a fool.
So it often is. So it need not be.
The invitation is to address the issue, probably by use of a holistic approach which addresses the chemical imbalances in the body which also contribute - along with the personality and mind issues - to the O-CD Disorder, to the Perfectionistic Personality Disorder, and to the Borderline Personality Disorder.
All three will prevent persons with those disorders - and persons being influenced by people with those disorders - from dancing lightly during the relative existence.
To be continued.
Please enter into the silence of contemplation.
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THE EXPLANATION
Yeshu'a (Jesus) and Pope John Paul II and Pope Francis were spot on:
"No one shall ever see 'the kingdom of heaven.' It is within"
and
"Heaven and earth shall fade away."
and
"Heaven and hell are not geographic places
"There is no hell."
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