F.: Narcissists can "play" a crowd perfectly. So well can they “read” people that they will know exactly which words must be said in order to charm or to control or to overpower. They know almost instinctively whether a kind approach or a brutal approach is called for with any given person in any given circumstance in order for the narcissist to control outcome and to get what he/she desires and to avoid what she/he fears. And if you don’t meet the every desire of a narcissist, he/she will find someone else who does.
While the masses usually reinforce the false image of the narcissist, every pointer that has ever been offered by a Fully Realized Advaitin teacher has had but one aim: to destroy the myths and lies and self-images and ego-states that are the stock and trade of narcissists (who happen to typify the overall character of the non-Realized).
For those familiar with the Freudian model, the non-Realized, like narcissists, are so motivated by the Ego and Id that the Superego is basically deactivated. Again, the Advaita Teachings apply: all persons are driven by fear and/or desire. There is nothing that a narcissist (or the non-Realized) fears so much as being seen as a phony or a failure; there is nothing that a narcissist (or the non-Realized) desires so much as having a grand sense of self-worth and as experiencing self-satisfaction.
For those familiar with the enneagram model, “The Narcissistic Personality Disorder” is most in alignment with highly stressed or highly pious Personality Type Threes or with Type Fours who have a strong Type Three “wing.”
The point can now be made that, while all non-Realized persons are not narcissists, all narcissists are non-Realized; furthermore, of all persons suffering various personality identifications and disorders, the narcissist is among those who are the least likely to ever Realize.
Duality is never more fixed than in the case of the non-Realized or in the case of narcissists. The duality of the false selves that separates them from awareness of the True Self is the epitome of entrapment among the “dual-minded.” With the understanding of “The Narcissistic Personality Disorder” as revealed in recent postings, and with the way that narcissism has been shown to dominate the thinking and behaviors of the non-Realized, you are invited to reconsider certain Advaitin pointers that might now be even more relevant:
Offered earlier on the site was this pointer:
Ego is believing that there’s a vast multiplicity arranged in a hierarchy and that you’re the pinnacle; humility is knowing that you’re nothing, no-thing; love is knowing that You, with a capital ‘Y,’ Are everything.
Narcissists believe that they are the pinnacle, so neither humility nor love can manifest among them. Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj offered these pointers that are relevant to the discussion of narcissism and the non-Realized:
"Out of my existence as the Noumenon has come this state of the phenomenal. The homogenous understands the play of the attributes, the projection of the mind, but the play, the projection of the mind, cannot understand the homogeneous." That is, the narcissists and the non-Realized haven’t a clue that they are involved in the phony play…in The Drama of the Lie; they haven’t a clue that they are projecting; they haven’t a clue about the homogeneous Oneness so they are driven by the duality of “self” vs. “them.”
"If you are not, can others be there?" The narcissists (or the non-Realized) do not see that they are not, that is, that their false image is not real. As for “others,” the narcissists (or the non-Realized) merely use “others” in order to attain the feedback and reinforcement that are required to sustain their bogus image. They appear to be highly social but, in fact, they are highly antisocial. (See tomorrow's post for more evidence.)
While the masses usually reinforce the false image of the narcissist, every pointer that has ever been offered by a Fully Realized Advaitin teacher has had but one aim: to destroy the myths and lies and self-images and ego-states that are the stock and trade of narcissists (who happen to typify the overall character of the non-Realized).
For those familiar with the Freudian model, the non-Realized, like narcissists, are so motivated by the Ego and Id that the Superego is basically deactivated. Again, the Advaita Teachings apply: all persons are driven by fear and/or desire. There is nothing that a narcissist (or the non-Realized) fears so much as being seen as a phony or a failure; there is nothing that a narcissist (or the non-Realized) desires so much as having a grand sense of self-worth and as experiencing self-satisfaction.
For those familiar with the enneagram model, “The Narcissistic Personality Disorder” is most in alignment with highly stressed or highly pious Personality Type Threes or with Type Fours who have a strong Type Three “wing.”
The point can now be made that, while all non-Realized persons are not narcissists, all narcissists are non-Realized; furthermore, of all persons suffering various personality identifications and disorders, the narcissist is among those who are the least likely to ever Realize.
Duality is never more fixed than in the case of the non-Realized or in the case of narcissists. The duality of the false selves that separates them from awareness of the True Self is the epitome of entrapment among the “dual-minded.” With the understanding of “The Narcissistic Personality Disorder” as revealed in recent postings, and with the way that narcissism has been shown to dominate the thinking and behaviors of the non-Realized, you are invited to reconsider certain Advaitin pointers that might now be even more relevant:
Offered earlier on the site was this pointer:
Ego is believing that there’s a vast multiplicity arranged in a hierarchy and that you’re the pinnacle; humility is knowing that you’re nothing, no-thing; love is knowing that You, with a capital ‘Y,’ Are everything.
Narcissists believe that they are the pinnacle, so neither humility nor love can manifest among them. Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj offered these pointers that are relevant to the discussion of narcissism and the non-Realized:
"Out of my existence as the Noumenon has come this state of the phenomenal. The homogenous understands the play of the attributes, the projection of the mind, but the play, the projection of the mind, cannot understand the homogeneous." That is, the narcissists and the non-Realized haven’t a clue that they are involved in the phony play…in The Drama of the Lie; they haven’t a clue that they are projecting; they haven’t a clue about the homogeneous Oneness so they are driven by the duality of “self” vs. “them.”
"If you are not, can others be there?" The narcissists (or the non-Realized) do not see that they are not, that is, that their false image is not real. As for “others,” the narcissists (or the non-Realized) merely use “others” in order to attain the feedback and reinforcement that are required to sustain their bogus image. They appear to be highly social but, in fact, they are highly antisocial. (See tomorrow's post for more evidence.)
“From the Absolute no-knowing state, spontaneously, this consciousness ‘I am’ has appeared—there is no reason, no cause.” Narcissists (or the non-Realized) believe that they are the cause…that they are to be in control of all that happens.
So, the impact that narcissists have on the relative existence of so many persons on the planet has been established. Also shown is the fact that narcissists share almost all of the traits of the non-Realized, and that the non-Realized function like narcissists. Tomorrow the discussion will be broadened to reveal that narcissists also share common traits with persons who display the Antisocial Personality Disorder (also known formerly as “psychopaths” and referred to now as “sociopaths”) as well as with persons who display the Addictive Personality Disorder. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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