F.: It is being seen why the members of two groups especially will likely never Realized fully, namely, (1) those under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs, and (2) those under the influence of personality. Some over the years have written to this site to claim that they had experienced a drug-induced Realization…that their “trip on drugs opened their mind.” That has nothing to do with Realization. Realization does not result in a “mind” being opened. Realization results in the elimination of the “mind” because the “mind” is nothing more than a repository of all the lies that have been accumulated and stored in memory.
As for those functioning under the influence of personality disorders, all such disorders hinder the Realization process, but the three that are being focused on are especially detrimental to completion of the entire “journey”: the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the Antisocial Personality Disorder, and the Addictive Personality Disorder (discussed in tomorrow's post).
In recent posts, it has been shown how narcissists and sociopaths share many common traits and behaviors, but that is not to say that every narcissist is a sociopath or that every sociopath is a narcissist. The disorders do have different names for diagnostic and treatment purposes. It is to say, however, that since narcissists and sociopaths often share many traits in common (all of which block the “path” to Full Realization), all of those traits must be discarded by seekers who would complete the seven-step “journey” to Realization. Nor is this to say that if you are working for a narcissist or if you are working with a narcissist or if you are living with a narcissist that you should fear for your life.
It is to say, however, that the odds are great that any narcissists that you are dealing with will (either occasionally or frequently or eventually) “become vindictive” and will “attempt to ruin your happiness” and will become “relentless and obsessive about destroying you if you remind them of their shortcomings and failures.” They can only hide their separation-generating arrogance and their often-suppressed anger and their ego-driven desires to react for just so long.
(It is also to say that, if you are a narcissist, you are charismatic and have sought special treatment and special attention most of your life. It is to say that when you enter a room, you want all eyes to focus on you and you will want to take charge while appearing to be humble. It is also to say that you can be manipulative and insincere and judgmental and phony and vindictive and self-righteous. It is to say that you are willing to ruin the happiness of people if they anger you.
It is to say that you are judgmental and arrogant and think others should consider themselves lucky to be in your presence. It is to say that you believe that your desires are the ones that are to be fulfilled, the [relative existence] hopes of your employees or your friends or your spouse or your own children be damned. It is to say that you can be relentless and obsessive about destroying people if they remind you of your shortcomings and failures. It is to say that you can slip into your attack-dog mode in a micro-second.
It is to say that you can devastate people while denying your cold-heartedness. It is also to say that you will not believe that any of this applies to you. And it is also to say that those who think they know you will be in denial about the way you really are unless or until you release your “final vindication.” How fortunate are those, relatively speaking, who understand this personality defect and who finally come to know that Realization is a means that can free you from being dominated by this disorder, whether you are the narcissist or whether you are the one trying to deal with the narcissist.)
For those dealing with narcissists, if you remind them of their shortcomings, their responses can include a diversionary attack against you, an effort to humiliate you, an attempt to lower your “self-esteem,” a decision to break a relationship or to initiate a divorce, an all-out effort to harass you, a decision to fire you, or an ability to subject you to verbal or mental or emotional abuse; however, since 50% of all murders in the U.S. occur during breakups, homicide is always a consideration when ending a relationship, especially when dealing with a narcissist.
So what does this have to do with the Advaitin seeker? Again, today, two questions will be offered for consideration: (1) Might you look at the list below and see why taking the entire "journey" to Full Realization might be indicated? (2) While labels such as “narcissist” or “sociopath” need not be applied, do you nevertheless share some of the following traits or behaviors that are displayed by those persons with the two disorders discussed today?
The traits and behaviors include: the assumption of false roles; dependency and/or co-dependency; egomania; megalomania; a sense of entitlement; pomposity; acting as if you are always on stage; using ego-defense mechanisms to preserve image and assumed ego-states; a need for constant noise to try to drown out the clatter of your fictitious “mind”; a need for a captive audience; a desire to speak and to be heard regularly; a restless need to go and do; and a desire to escape. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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As for those functioning under the influence of personality disorders, all such disorders hinder the Realization process, but the three that are being focused on are especially detrimental to completion of the entire “journey”: the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the Antisocial Personality Disorder, and the Addictive Personality Disorder (discussed in tomorrow's post).
In recent posts, it has been shown how narcissists and sociopaths share many common traits and behaviors, but that is not to say that every narcissist is a sociopath or that every sociopath is a narcissist. The disorders do have different names for diagnostic and treatment purposes. It is to say, however, that since narcissists and sociopaths often share many traits in common (all of which block the “path” to Full Realization), all of those traits must be discarded by seekers who would complete the seven-step “journey” to Realization. Nor is this to say that if you are working for a narcissist or if you are working with a narcissist or if you are living with a narcissist that you should fear for your life.
It is to say, however, that the odds are great that any narcissists that you are dealing with will (either occasionally or frequently or eventually) “become vindictive” and will “attempt to ruin your happiness” and will become “relentless and obsessive about destroying you if you remind them of their shortcomings and failures.” They can only hide their separation-generating arrogance and their often-suppressed anger and their ego-driven desires to react for just so long.
(It is also to say that, if you are a narcissist, you are charismatic and have sought special treatment and special attention most of your life. It is to say that when you enter a room, you want all eyes to focus on you and you will want to take charge while appearing to be humble. It is also to say that you can be manipulative and insincere and judgmental and phony and vindictive and self-righteous. It is to say that you are willing to ruin the happiness of people if they anger you.
It is to say that you are judgmental and arrogant and think others should consider themselves lucky to be in your presence. It is to say that you believe that your desires are the ones that are to be fulfilled, the [relative existence] hopes of your employees or your friends or your spouse or your own children be damned. It is to say that you can be relentless and obsessive about destroying people if they remind you of your shortcomings and failures. It is to say that you can slip into your attack-dog mode in a micro-second.
It is to say that you can devastate people while denying your cold-heartedness. It is also to say that you will not believe that any of this applies to you. And it is also to say that those who think they know you will be in denial about the way you really are unless or until you release your “final vindication.” How fortunate are those, relatively speaking, who understand this personality defect and who finally come to know that Realization is a means that can free you from being dominated by this disorder, whether you are the narcissist or whether you are the one trying to deal with the narcissist.)
For those dealing with narcissists, if you remind them of their shortcomings, their responses can include a diversionary attack against you, an effort to humiliate you, an attempt to lower your “self-esteem,” a decision to break a relationship or to initiate a divorce, an all-out effort to harass you, a decision to fire you, or an ability to subject you to verbal or mental or emotional abuse; however, since 50% of all murders in the U.S. occur during breakups, homicide is always a consideration when ending a relationship, especially when dealing with a narcissist.
So what does this have to do with the Advaitin seeker? Again, today, two questions will be offered for consideration: (1) Might you look at the list below and see why taking the entire "journey" to Full Realization might be indicated? (2) While labels such as “narcissist” or “sociopath” need not be applied, do you nevertheless share some of the following traits or behaviors that are displayed by those persons with the two disorders discussed today?
The traits and behaviors include: the assumption of false roles; dependency and/or co-dependency; egomania; megalomania; a sense of entitlement; pomposity; acting as if you are always on stage; using ego-defense mechanisms to preserve image and assumed ego-states; a need for constant noise to try to drown out the clatter of your fictitious “mind”; a need for a captive audience; a desire to speak and to be heard regularly; a restless need to go and do; and a desire to escape. Please enter the silence of contemplation. (To be continued)
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