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LIBERATION The Relative Effects of Personality: Fears, Desires and Interrupted Happiness “Both intelligent humans and foolish humans are a dime a dozen. Foolishness is the glue which attaches persons to their false personality identifications; moreover, intelligence is also useless in freeing persons from the bonds and bondage of their belief that their false identities are real. Only the understanding brought by wisdom can destroy the glue and only the understanding brought by wisdom can break the bonds and the bondage those bonds bring. The prerequisite for wisdom to manifest? The purging of all that has been taught and all that has been learned.” --f.h. Now the discussion will turn to understanding the relative effects of the basic personality styles which include the generating of fears and desires which interrupt happiness, beginning with . . . PERSONALITY TYPE TWO Might you be a type two? Per the Enneagram Institute, a Type Two can be generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive. Stressed, they can be mean, demanding, martyr-like, manipulative, overly-accommodating, overly-demonstrative, mothering and smothering, overly-extroverted, and always talking, talking, talking. Know someone like that? Can you relate?In all relationships, they more often function in a Parent role than in an Adult role.
The Type Two personality type desires love but lives in the fear of not getting it and with the unhappiness of never having enough of it. (A pointer offered in the past noted that “Desires and wants and fears and imagined needs are generated by illusory ego-states. Who could be satisfied if constantly experiencing the sensations of desire, want, fear or need?”) Ego-states, in turn, are the result of the personality influences being discussed in this series (which also generate all dualistic beliefs, including: "good vs. bad," "loved vs. not loved," and belief in "a god of evil in opposition to a god of morality.") Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj offered this pointer: “Only at word level does one think something good or bad will happen; when one identifies with the space, it is the end of good and bad. First of all you identify something as being good or bad for yourself. Then, in an effort to acquire good or to get rid of bad, you have invented a god. Then, you worship such a god . . . and you pray to that god for something good to happen to you.” Those pointers having been offered, the focus now will be on the basic fear and the basic desire of Personality Type Two – “The Helper.” The consideration for Type Two’s is this: WHO (which ego-state) thinks she / he needs love? WHO thinks that he / she is in any position to "help" "others"? WHO is so arrogant as to believe that “others” are obviously far less intelligent, far less capable, and far less gifted than the persona who thinks she / he is most qualified to provide “help” to “others”? WHO (what personas) are so egotistical that they believe that they know so much that they have the answers for everyone else’s relative world problems? WHO believes that she / he knows what “others” need? And WHO believes that he / she is the most competent to provide “help”? Russ Hudson pointed out the following about Personality Type Twos: BASIC FEAR AND BASIC DESIRE The Type Two’s BASIC FEAR is the fear of not being loved The Type Two’s BASIC DESIRE is to be loved THE IMPACT OF THAT PERSONALITY TYPE ON THE RELATIVE EXISTENCE A Type Two will try to get the love she / he desires by manipulating others into believing that they need the Type Two, that they need what only that one person can offer, that they need the insight that only that one Type Two has, and that they cannot survive without that Type Two person. With that mindset, what type of persons will Type Twos attract and then have to deal with on a daily basis? The answer: needy, dependent, easily-influenced persons. The resulting co-dependency and chaos from dealing with the needy people which Twos attract will mar the relative existence of the Type Two. Why? Because Twos eventually resent all the demands being made upon them by the needy, exploitative persons whom their dependency-fostering persona draws, even though the Twos were aggressively seeking out needy people with an excess of relative existence problems and who need the “help” that Type Twos believe (in their huge conceit) that only they can provide. The resulting dependency preempts independence for the Two and for those persons who accept the Two’s “help,” and persons who are not free cannot possibly be happy - their baseless protestations to the contrary notwithstanding. The relative existence of those trapped in the Type Two sphere becomes marked by a lack of energy as the Type Two works at doing so much for “others”; becomes marked by selfishness (as Twos are really giving with the ulterior motive of trying to get back even more); becomes marked by working to “help” “others” while Twos ignore their own basic, relative requirements; becomes marked by the building up of resentments (since Twos never feel that “others” appreciate adequately their sacrifices); and becomes marked by the passive-aggressive behavior that always follows when the Type Two believes that he/she is not getting the degree of love and gratitude that is deserved after all the “help” they have offered. WHY PERSONALITY TYPE TWO INTERRUPTS HAPPINESS Imagine the frustration of needing love, of constantly wanting love, of constantly trying to find love, and of trying - always in vain - to hold onto love in a culture where 62% of those persons who pledge “to love ‘til death do us part” . . . don’t. Yet the transient nature of “love” is not confined to the U.S. Across the globe, the typical pattern of relationships is to move through the following phases as noted by Maharaj: “stranger” to “acquaintance” to “friend” to “lover” to “spouse or partner” to “enemy” to “mortal enemy.” The same intransigence marks not only “love relationships” but friendships and partnerships as well. How, therefore, could a Type Two ever be consistently happy when the desire is “to be loved deeply by everyone” while “self”-absorbed persons have no ability to love unconditionally at all and while persons mistake all sorts of personal agendas for “love”? Much has been written in my books about the illusion of “need.” Much has also been written in my books about the illusion of “love.” As long as a person has a desire to be needed, happiness cannot happen with any degree of continuity. As long as Type Twos are overly-accommodating, are acting like martyrs, or are being possessive and manipulative, then happiness cannot happen with any degree of continuity. As long as Twos are behaving as overly-sensitive pleasers and controlling manipulators, happiness cannot happen with any degree of continuity. The misery that accompanies such entrapment in this personality type - or in any of the other eight types - should make clear why those who offer non-dual pointers consistently invite protégés to abandon identification with body, with mind, and with personality. FREEDOM FROM PERSONALITY TYPE TWO EFFECTS VIA REALIZATION With realization comes (A) the understanding that there is no “one” that has any need. With realization comes (B) the understanding that no “one” can help any “one.” With realization comes (C) clarity about what love is not and then (D) an end to wasting energy in the search for anything that is illusory. Lies are stored in the mind; truth can be accessed via the inner resource, contact with which is typically blocked by assumption of personality. When that inner awareness springs forth into the consciousness, then all beliefs about being a person in need, about being a person who needs help, and about being a person who has great ability to help others . . . all that will end and a lightness of being can happen for the remainder of the manifestation. But whether realization (and an accompanying lightness of being) happens or not, neither case changes the fact that no “one” exists that can “help,” that no “others” exist that are “separate from” and needing “help,” and that no “one” exists that needs “help” . . . or anything else. |
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