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“Wisdom” and “Love”
"Wisdom is knowing I am nothing. Love is knowing I am everything, and between the two my life moves."
FROM A SITE VISITOR: I’m new at this so pardon if I seem slow but you say realization does not stop enjoying the pleasure but if I’m not my body, how is sex supposedly to be enjoyed after I “realize”. And what’s the difference in terms you use like Love sometimes and love sometimes and sex and making love and Showing Love. You talk about deer, but they have sex and seem to enjoy it but there is no love or Love involved right? Signed, Very Confused
The reply:
Hello,
“Very.”Consider the following please:
“Love” vs. “love”
To review: take “Love” (uppercase) to be a term which points to what can be called Real Love for the sake of discussion, rooted in an understanding of the Oneness that is revealed with realization. The term “love” (lowercase) points to all of the various notions that the non-realized masses have about what love is or isn’t, all of which is relative nonsense.
"Sex" vs. “Love”
Maharaj addressed the role which “an act of friction” plays in triggering the process of cycling elements and conscious-energy inside a female human body which can lead to the manifestation of a composite unity.
Such an impartial description of the sex act makes clear that the sex act is what it is, namely, a totally natural process at its core.
Reasons for "Having Sexual 'Relations'"
Among some humans, sex acts are engaged in for pleasure alone; among others, it can be engaged in for what is supposedly “a show of love”;
among others, it has long been engaged in for money or for an exchange of sex for “relative benefits” such as a proposal of marriage, keeping someone around to provide housing and maintenance of property, for paying the rent or house note, for food, clothing, medical care, and vacations and for a “better lifestyle” than that which others can only wish for.
(For further reference, see the role which some assume, called “Lifestyle Whores,” which can be adopted as a conscious or unconscious role played by either human males or females and which is defined in the Urban Dictionary as “persons who are willing to do anything to achieve their lifestyle goals, including leaving their partners if they don't provide a high-enough lifestyle like the ones being enjoyed by their rich friends.” That role is often assumed by those with a very high sense of entitlement, believing that their looks and physical assets should guarantee that they will always live better than “common people who are not nearly as good looking.")
To continue, among some humans, the sex act is engaged in strictly for procreation; in other cases, it is used for stress relief; in many cases it is used as a tool which allows humans to control other humans; in some cultures, it is entered into for the sake of consummation; for others, it is seen as a rite of passage;
with others, it is an act of rebellion; for some, it is a way to “make up” after a fight; some who are driven by personality defects and / or insanity, use it as an act of aggression; among those in the upper levels of their culture’s hierarchy, it is used to establish lines of succession in nations or among families in which the members are still attached to the chauvinistic concept of “the right of the primogeniture of the first-born male";
some use it for the stroking of ego; some for sustaining one or more ego-states; or for a host of other motives which are often hidden from persons and which are far removed from anything having a “noble” connotation which some claim to believe in when they speak of “making love.”
[Is in any wonder that the majority of modern-day marriages often end when conflicts exists in three areas with their influence ranked accordingly:
#1 financial problems; #2 in-laws trouble; #3 sex problems. If you review the list above of the varied and self-serving and selfish reasons which inspire or drive persons to enter into the sex act, is it any surprise that sexual expectations and incompatibility manifest so often?]
Play the “What I Like Sexually Is This” Game by having couples secretly write their truly honest answer that each would use to complete the statement and then reveal their answers and then notice that the odds of their answers ever being exactly the same are infinitesimal.
“Make Love before you make love”
Next, this was shared:
Over the years, hundreds of men have come here ready to die because of “her having left him.” Yet the male ego in almost every case was ready to move right along to the next woman in order for a different woman to “build him up and fill the empty space he thinks is inside.” I have suggested to those hundreds to try something totally different before entering into their next relationship, and it is this: “Make Love before you make love.”
Of course Love cannot be made, it can only be understood, but the point is that if Love is understood first—that is, if both parties involved realize the Oneness—then the act described as “love-making” happens in a most unique manner: it is actually a “Showing of Love.”
Then, all of the beauty can be savored on multiple levels as the sixth sense merges into an all-five-sense happening and as a relative happening merges into “the Real.”
(And even “merge” is used for discussion only since there is no “this” joining “that.” All that is happening is that All which has always been One is finally understood to be One. The drop that falls into the ocean is H2O, as is the ocean. There’s really no merging since it was all One anyway. It’s really just a movement.)
The "Sex" - Oneness Correlation
Next, when “Reality” is “overlaid” onto the relative and the understanding of True Love and the Oneness manifests, then only can there be a Showing of Love which merely accents the oneness. The flavor of the essence is sampled, that is all.
As it is, though, all of the fingers on one hand would not be required to count the number of humans (especially men, it seems) who understood the pointer above, and that fact is reflected in the results of certain studies dealing with this subject matter.
Female / Male Disparities Regarding the Sex Act Which Can Lead to Conflict
Survey results show that more females than men understood the Love / love / sex differentiation. In one study in the U.S. - which is a nation of persons known for their schizophrenic, dualistic combining of (1) “puritanism” on one hand and (2) “a germ of wildness” on the other - 74% of the sexually-active females in a female-male "partnership" said that they could not say that their sex lives leave them “very satisfied.”
Men reported that they are “very satisfied, but wanting more.” If the results of those two surveys are studied side-by-side, then there is likely some credibility to female complaints that “whatever their partners are doing during the sex act has little or nothing to do with love or with Love or with focusing on a “partner” or with “unselfish sharing.”
"Love" and "The Realized" vs. "love and the non-realized
Recently, a visitor to the site thought he had found a contradiction between one pointer which suggested (A) that not only can pleasure happen post-realization but that it is intensified, relatively-speaking, and (B) that pleasure can eventually lead to pain (that is, misery and suffering).
As in the case of Love and love, there is a distinction between personal, dualistic pleasure which leads to pain and the term “Pleasure” which is used to point to what can be known post-realization. It was explained this way to one visitor:
“There are those pleasures which are sure to lead to pain, but once Love and Bliss and Joy manifest via full realization, there is a Pleasure that has no counterpart. The lies about “love” are rejected, (Real) Love is understood, Reality can be ‘overlaid’ on the Am-ness, and unbounded Pleasures can happen.”
Also, this was included in a recent post:
Such Pleasure can manifest when Love is understood, when Love is Shown as Reality is “overlaid” on the Am-ness, and when the Noumenal Oneness is thereafter adumbrated in acts of phenomenal oneness.
Meaning? Once realization happens, an understanding of the Noumenal Oneness happens; once an understanding of the Noumenal Oneness happens, then it is echoed in “acts of phenomenal oneness” whereby the “symbolic union” or “physical uniting” is understood to be the physical manifestation of non-duality itself . . . of the “not-two.”
How many will never understand that? If Maharaj’s estimate that fewer than 1% will ever realize, then probably 99% or more will never “get it.”
The Review
So, “Very,” to review the main pointers in regards to the terms you asked about: “Love” refers to “True Love” which can be “Shown” via the phenomenal act of oneness after the Noumenal Oneness is totally understood. To the contrary, “love” is a term misused by billions who haven’t the slightest clue about what “Real Love” or “True Love” is.
“Making love” is an almost-euphemistic phrase that is substituted for fornication or engagement in the sex act, the term used to try to assign some loftier connotation to a physical act that—among the masses—has very little “exalted” meaning or “elevated” significance attached, at least according to survey results.
Among the non-realized masses, there is very little difference in what they are doing sexually and what the deer are doing sexually. The only real difference is that the deer are not deceiving themselves or others when so engaged.
And if not realized, then all beliefs about “love” and “sex” and “making love” will indeed be—as is the case with all beliefs—nothing more than distortions and delusions generated by the “minds” of humans as a result of their programming and acculturation and domestication.
As for your query regarding the deer, or any other forms that engage in the sex act, your implication hits the mark: the act is pretty much one-dimensional in those cases, though some sense of "connection" does manifest during the period that a buck and doe share together.
While the natural manner in which the deer lives is a far less stressful and far more sane style of living than among humans, it is the realized that can know all about the subject that is multi-dimensional including the seemingly multi-dimensional "sex + Love" paradigm . . . which is a paradox since that paradigm is not really "multi" at all but is totally "uni."
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