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WHY MAHARAJ ABANDONED RELIGIOUS AND SPIRITUAL VERSIONS OF THE ULTIMATE MEDICINE AND TURNED HIS FOCUS TO PSYCHOLOGICAL HEALING INSTEAD
EGO-DEFENSE MECHANISMS WHICH INSPIRE PREVARICATION
(Continued)
Yesterday, this sixth ego-defense mechanisms on our list here was discussed:
6. Psychological Projection
Today
the discussion continues with the following:
7. Distortion: (defined as "the act or an instance of distorting; the
condition of being distorted; a statement that twists fact; a
misrepresentation; the modification of unconscious impulses into forms
acceptable by conscious or dreaming perception; a misperception").
8. Denial: (defined as "an unconscious defense mechanism characterized by
a refusal to acknowledge painful realities, thoughts, or feelings; the act of
disowning or disavowing; the conscious use of a lie to sustain one or more
ego-states").
A recent example: some visitors to the site know that during the week, one
source of employment here involves working as a consultant with counselors and
their clients. In some cases, the consulting involves addressing the number one
source of divorce ("money issues"); includes setting up budgets for
couples; and entails explaining the mental roots of financial problems as well
as explaining the personality roots of financial problems.
In other cases, enneagram test results are shared and analyzed and discussed in
order to allow clients to understand how their personality types will inspire
them to enter into a personality trance that removes any and all ability to
choose because the hidden agendas of personality types determine thoughts and
words and deeds among the non-Realized masses.
Some time back, a couple showed up at the request of the husband whose wife had
said that she was leaving him after having discovered four instances of
infidelity on her husband's part. For his part, he claimed that he was there
"to save his marriage";
actually, he was there to try to save his many false identities (husband,
homeowner, father, lover, finance man, outstanding man in the community, the
honorable law enforcement officer, etc.)
Consider, then, the distortion and denial that came into play when the wife
asked, "Can you tell the truth at least one time in your life and admit
that you have had four affairs?"
His reply: "The bad news is that, yes, I have been with four other women
since we married, but the good news is that I never had sexual relations with
them."
Her reply: "Excuse me?! I read some of the emails they sent you that you
left open on our computer."
His response (using what some now call “The Bill Clinton I-Did-Not-Have-Sex-with-That-Woman Denial”) was: "Swear to
God, I'm telling the truth. Nothing happened with any of them except they gave
me oral sex."
Her reply as she walked out: "You are insane!"
Sitting in the office with a totally confused look on his face, he held out his
hands and said, "What?! Do you see now what I'm up against?"
It was clear that he was so embroiled in distortion and denial that he was
nowhere near ready for truth and that there was nothing he would be able to
realize or grasp or comprehend from any further discussion, so the session
ended with my telling him, "I am seeing very clearly what you are up against, but you
do not see it at all."
9. Egotism: (defined as "the excessive use of 'I,' 'My,' 'Me;'
self-conceit; selfishness; narcissism; the habit of thinking or talking too
much of oneself; the tool used after an ego-state has been assumed in order to
upgraded and sustain the illusion that that ego-state is real and is
wonderful.)
A recent example: The case of another couple that was being worked with evolved
thusly: the roles of "The Wife" and "The Husband" had been
assumed in a church ceremony. As always happens after an ego-state has been
assumed, the ego-defense mechanism of egotism was triggered. Soon, she had
upgraded her false identity to "The Super Wife" and he had upgraded
his to "The Super Husband."
All that "The Wife" needed to "exist" was "The
Husband," and all that "The Husband" needed to "exist"
was "The Wife." (That is always the case when an ego-state is
assumed: a false identity will always require a codependent player to play the
counterpart role for an ego-state to be "sustained." Duality is
guaranteed.) After the egotism-inspired upgrading, neither was content any
longer with "what / who they had."
After her "self"-upgrading to "The Super Wife," she needed
"A Super Husband" in order to "be" what she thinks she is;
same with him. At that point, all that was being dealt with in the session were
two egomaniacs - trapped in arrogance and superciliousness and self-importance
and condescension and conceit of the highest order - arrogance which is now
driving them both to downgrade the other (whom they had once upgraded and
idealized).
As with those suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, there was an
unwarranted idealization followed by an unwarranted degrading. The distortion
came first as each idealized and upgraded the other - their "pro / con
lists" (as in the case of another couple mentioned recently) uncovering no
negatives but only a wealth of positives instead.
The prognosis: there might be a slight chance for their
"relationship" if each comes to the non-dual understanding which
offer freedom from a sense of separation; freedom from a sense of
"better-than-ment" and the practice of judging (which always
accompanies the "better than" mindset);
and freedom from the continuing assumption of false identities that will always
trigger the use of ego-defense mechanisms as well as the offensive stances and
actions that are taken when one's false identities are challenged or not
supported by the counter, codependent role-player that is required in every
case of false identity assumption.
However, if their dualistic idealizing on one hand but downgrading on the other
hand is evidence of the presence of the Borderline Personality Disorder in one
or both, their case is likely hopeless.
A treatment center that worked with men and women who were suffering from multiple addictions hired me to give each the personality inventory survey, to analyze the results, and to show each the hidden agendas which were driving their every thought and word and actions. Talk about “powerless.”
All had been traumatized prior to using alcohol and / or drugs to try to escape the misery of their trauma. Their escapism - the desire to escape rather than confront and address the roots of their problems - was a primary driver of their behavior.
I have seen over the last thirty-two years of offering pointer to the non-dual understanding that many non-dual seekers were being driven by the same agenda as those addicts in the treatment center:
Exactly like those addict, many seekers actually desire to escape the reality of the challenges of the relative existence. They end up being drawn to the wide variety of “the Eastern teachings” which can guide them into the Land of Om or into farthest reaches of Foo-Foo Land.
There is no difference in abusing substances in order to try to escape the realities of the manifestation and in abusing “teachings” which are also used to try to do the same.
Being out of touch with reality (to refer to the realities of the manifestation) and being out of touch with “Reality” (to refer to the truth regarding the functioning of the totality and being able to differentiate the true from the false and the real from the fake) are both the stuff of an Addictive Personality-driven mind and the stuff of escapism-driven Eastern “teachings” as well as the stuff of escape-promising religions and escape-promising spiritual movements and escape-promising politicians and escape-promising philosophies and escape-promising ideologies.
To be continued.
Please enter into the silence of contemplation.
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THE EXPLANATION
Yeshu'a (Jesus) and Pope John Paul II and Pope Francis were spot on:
"No one shall ever see 'the kingdom of heaven.' It is within"
and
"Heaven and earth shall fade away."
and
"Heaven and hell are not geographic places
"There is no hell."
teachings which become a part of the Papal Magisterium.
